Woman Does something traditionally seen as masculine then all of a sudden want to critique them "copying men"
Feminine men doing well in traditional feminine beauty standards, then all of a sudden everyone wants to critique "the harm of beauty standards" when cis women still participate.
Yeah, you'll use anything to tear GNC people down.
Hey! I love the community wide discussion we've been having around trans gnc issues. In support of them, I'd like to put my two cents in.
This community has potential to walk very thin lines with in regards to sexuality and gender. We've clashed indirectly through anons, targeted posting and mixed messaging in and out of DMs. (I will say this is not completely targeted, just serving as a PSA to those who hold certain beliefs)
As GNC people, we need healthier discussions on boundaries of identity. If uncareful, we'd stray too far from the queer activists who came before us.
It shouldn't be standard to call a trans woman a mollis and misgender her, as it is missing the point of Gender-Non-Conformity as a policital movement and education. Transness as a concept is uniquely looked down upon, abandoning all traces of your AGAB limits you in society. The same isn't said for GNC people, we are certainly privileged in that regard based off of being cisgender.
If you have any differing thoughts, feel free to share them in the replies or DM.
This is an account platforming experiences with Cuphobia.
I will post, reblog, answer, and comment on examples of Cuphobia when seen.
These experiences can be had anywhere. If not immediately clear, we will explain how something is Cuphobic.
This also serves as a safe space for GNC men to vent about Cuphobia.
You may send images, screenshots, videos or instances of Cuphobia. This Includes: expressed bigotry, microaggressions, misrepresentation, or exclusion of feminine men.
So what is Cuphobia?
Cuphobia is bigotry against feminine men and GNC men as a whole and their lived experiences. This includes but is not limited to:
The belief a man cannot be feminine. Targetting of feminine trans men. Stereotyping feminine men as androgynous, the belief of masculinity within all men. The homophobic belief you have to be gay to be feminine as a man. The belief feminine men face less oppression. Bilittlement of HetGNC men's oppression and experience. Derogatorily referring to a man as a ‘Twink’ A belief feminine men operate on the same gendered experience the same as masculine men. Erasure of male bisexual femininity. Fetishization and objectification of feminine men by any group.
Lowkey it feels like y’all are scared of men who actually want to pass as really fem, so there’s a lot of capping about liking feminine men. Most of the “rep” I see is still 6’0+, bony or toned dudes, which isn’t what the average man looks like at all, much less feminine men.
Not trying to be rude to ya'll ofc, but its annoying seeing ppl represent u who arent you.
A quick Introduction the the GB/Fourth Love Romance Genre
Now, this tumblr side blog is for shedding light on the GB/Fourth Love C novel romance genre that I have found is quite popular in china and reading them along with everyone.
As a quick refresher let me explain what fourth love/GB is.
GB / Fouth Love is essentially another romance dynamic counterpart similar to Danmei/BL, Baihe/Yuri and BG/Het romance.
It is essentially adding a fourth relationship dynamic alongside the ones we already have. Hense the name fourth love. A genre with it's own conventions and tropes unique to it because of the nature of the relationship.
Fourth Love is different from BG in that even though it is a hetero relationship the gender roles and the sexual roles of the pair are completely flip.
It is not a purely sexual or kinky thing the couple is into, it is a part of there everyday lives. The female lead fits all the criteria for a typical male lead in a BG story and the male lead is the same fitting the criteria for his female counterpart in a BG story.
The Fourth love genre may not have as much attention on it as the other romance genre's but that does not mean there is little content.
How to find/read GB novels???
There are two ways you can find GB novels.
Novel Updates
From the source ie Chinese web novel sites
Novel Updates
Novel updates, a comprehensive data base for translated East Asian novels, has quite a good amount of GB novels you can find and read. There are many lists (collections of novel's that users make) that are labeled GB or Fourth Love with translated novels you can read.
After you make a account you can follow lists with the novel's you want to read.
Here are a few lists I've been looking at and are on my TBR:
Gb novels(f*mdom) ~
List Of Omegaverse Novel With Alpha Female & Omega Male
Recommend Matriarchy, M-preg Novel
Now this may not seem like a lot but C-novels are notoriously long and have a lot of material. So you will hopefully find what you want in them.
Jinjiang Literature City
When You run out of translated novels to read. You than go the Raw route. Looking for web novel sites to find your GB. There are many sites for this but today I will be focusing on one of the most popular sites and the one with the most GB novels.
I find my novel's on a webnovel site called Jinjiang Literature City (JJWXC for short)
For a more comprehensive guide in understanding how to use JJWXC please read this as a introduction:
How to use JJWXC
You can filter for GB novel's by using the tags
GB
第四爱 (Fourth Love)
女攻男受 (Female top, Male bottom)
女尊 (Matriarchal society)
And as you start to learn how to use the site you begin to find different, more niche tags and ones that pertain to different setting you might want to read like Xianxia (Chinese fantasy) Modern Romance, Historical Romance and more.
This is just a short comprehensive guide that can improve.
If anyone has any question they would like to ask me, my ask box is open and if you have any recommendations as well I'm very open to that. You can never have too much GB.