Many people are seeking for a relationship of various reasons. Maybe because they want to have these perfect relationships which are shown on TV or Social Media, also known as Relationship-Goals. Hollywood shows you the “perfect” relationship, that some people even forget that this is just good acting. They manipulate young people to think that is the way to go to have a healthy relationship, to follow this unrealistic relationship goals.
Nowadays society puts you in a box if you havent had sex at a certain age or never had your first kiss before, at least thats how it is where I live, but still they tolerate Homosexuality.
This society is lost, so dont follow something which is already in the hands of the devil. So dont live for the standards of this world and dont seek some made up Relationship-Goals by worldy people.
Rather live for the standards of God and if you insist to have Relationship Goals than have them with God by Praying, Worshiping, Serving and Loving God with all you have. Have a strong bond with God and dont listen to people of this society. Only listen to God!
Just because you havent been in a relationship yet, doesnt mean you’re immature. As a Christian it means you’re being patient and waiting for Gods timing to show you.
Back to the actual topic, which is DATING
Mark 12:30
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your strength”
This is the first step, before you even think about any other relationship.
Have a relationship with God first!!
Because when you havent commited your life to Christ or being a lukewarm Christian you will still desire the things of this world and this wont bring you any closer to a God.
Dating an Unbeliever.
If your partner is an unbeliever this relationshio might not work out how you want to be, because as I said when you’re an unbeliever or your partner is a unbeliever he or she still crave the things of this world, which might be in a relationship lust.
Another thing is you and your partner wouldnt live the same lifestyle, because being a christian isnt just a hobby you do. Its a LIFESTYLE being Christlike.
So how can you live with someone who isnt supporting the things you do. Maybe you dont want to hear it, but you cannot deny the truth is if your partner isnt serving God, than he serves the devil and that means that the devil is working in your partner to pull you away from God. It wouldnt be obvious but step by step you might get dragged away and without you even noticing you havent attended church in a while or havent opend the bible in a week. You might be so in love that you put your partner over God.
2.Corinthians 6:14-15
“Do not team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?”
what I want to say with that is that to be in a relationship with an unbeliver needs to bring a sacrifice. Either you sacrifice the relationship with your partner or you sacrifice your relationship with God.
So dont be foolish and only act and see with our flesh, with our worldy eyes. Better trust in God, because he has the perfect timing and see with your spiritiual eyes. The worldy eyes get easily tricked by the devil, because he will come around with temptations maybe with good looks, or whatever your searching for. If you’re unsure than pray for it. Ask God if he/she is the right person and if not than dont waste your time on him/her, because as long as God didnt tell you anything in paticular then just drop it.
That is why its also important to never hide things, or in this case your relationship this only shows that you’re not confodent in what you do and probably know that this is the wrong way. So Always surround yourself with people, that support you and encourage you with your walk with God, rather than seperating you from him, because they see you getting dragged away from God.
Proverbs 13:20
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of the fools suffer harm”
Having an Ideal Type isnt always as good as it seems, because some people are too focused on their ideal type to the point where they are blind to other things. I am not saying that you cannot have an Ideal Type, but dont be too focused on it.
What if your ideal girl should be shorter than you but the one God has for you is taller or the complete opposite of what you were writting on your imaginary list of the “perfect girl” (same with the “perfect guy” being taller than you). Are you going to say know, just because she / he doesnt fit your “standard” you were planing for the last years. I better hope you dont say no. So thats why I said that you shouldnt set the focus on outward apperance or character, be open. Does God look on outward apperance? NO! Because he only sees your heart!
In terms on how you dress.
1.Timothy 2:9
“And I want women to be modest in their apperance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves [...]”
Be modest by not showing people what you have but attract people by who you are and not what you wear.
Think about what your intentions are, while you’re dressing yourself. If you already know by looking in the mirror that you want to attract the opposite sex to get attention than go change your clothes, because you dont do it with the right intentions.
1.Peter 3:3-4
“Your beauty should not come from thr outward adornment. [...] Instead, it should be that of your inner self of the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in Gods sight”
