#grey-aro

[aroaceconfessions]

You know, sometimes I think that I am, in fact, broken. Because how come I long to be loved like those beautiful poetries and romances I read, like, desperately... At the same time that I'm unable to return it? I've searched for it on multiple people, but I give up when I realize how selfish I'm being when I couldn't feel something towards them. I just loved the idea of love and being loved, not them. Then the only things that I have left is art and the consolation that "at least I have my best friend, my family", but they're finding this type love themselves and building their families. I try to get comfort on the fact that "as a single person with no partner and kids I will have more freedom and money", but idk... Sometimes I just wish I had someone to hold me, to kiss my face and say beautiful words to me. And "AroAce" is far away from being a known expression in my country, imagine "queer platonic"... Sorry for the long self pity rant. I'm just incredible sad these days.

Submitted July 9, 2023

[bone-graveyard]

WHU-OH SELF REFLECTION TIME

Thinking about my past crushes and how I've acted in my past relationship has made me realize I'm more arospec than I thought lmao

(bunch of self reflection shit below, I didn't want to force my thoughts onto anyone who doesn't want them:])

I'd be happily cuddling and thinking of dates we could go on when I was with my ex but as soon as she wanted more out of it like actually kissing etc. I just kinda froze up? It didn't feel bad but I got too uncomfortable to do it. We did do small pecks and such but I never felt like they were anything special or made me soar with happiness or anything. It was nice sometimes, and I kinda never actually felt the emotional need to kiss her. Now that I'm looking back it really was just a checklist of things I wanted to try because I've been told I should want them. Half of that relationship was performative. Even though I enjoyed performing in it, claiming it was real isn't gonna do me any good.

In hindsight it was probably for the better that it ended like it did, because even though we were both feeling like shit it wasn't because I didn't know enough about myself to not cause others harm.

Anyway. I'm gonna take the bus down to the nearest store to see if they have discounts on candy. This little self-retrospect has made me hungry for chocolate amatonormativity failed to pressure anyone into buying :)

[ecoqueer]

[ID: 12 shades of green arranged in a 2 x 6 grid. The row on the left is labeled, top to bottom: “6-Stripe Pride: #008018,” “Aromantic: #3AA63F,” “Aromantic: #A8D47A,” “Gray-Aromantic: #087C14,” “Demiromantic: #329932,” and “Genderqueer: #48821E” and the row on the right is labeled, top to bottom: “Gay Man: #078D70,” “Gay Man: #99E8C2,” “Poly-: #01D66A,” “Diamoric: #98F494,” “Neutrois: #1DB84E,” and “Agender: #BAF584″.]

Comparison of the greens of different pride flags! Here are the purple, orange, and pink versions. Let me know if you’d like a flag added and there will be an update later.

[queerplatonicpositivity]

Demi-aro/greyro struggles

I saw one of these for ace people by @jankyadd, and I liked it and wanted to riff off of it for demi-aro/greyro people.  I know I’ve seen posts like this for aro people, but I wanted to do one specifically for demi-aro/greyro people.

► Having a “type” but that type being someone you’re aesthetically attracted to or interested in being friends with, not someone you want to date.

► Not understanding why people obsess over celebrities, wanting to date them or marry them.

► Never understanding fuck, marry, kill. Especially other peoples choices in the game. (Or the Mash paper/pencil game, for the older generation.)

► Feeling pressured into dating someone and being romantic with them when you don’t even know them well enough yet, and you would’ve rather waited to get really close first and then decide if you want to date.

► Being told that doing the above (getting close to someone for a long time before dating) is “leading people on” and “wasting their time.”

► Not knowing what to do with the person you’re dating because you didn’t want to be dating them in the first place, but you felt pressured.

► Being completely oblivious to people you don’t know flirting with you and also not realizing when you might be coming off as flirty to strangers because you’re just a nice person.

► Forming a close, emotional bond with someone and choosing to be in a romantic relationship with them, but still having no idea if what you feel is really “romantic attraction.”

► Most romantic comedies and other romance movies don’t make any sense, because the people involved don’t really know each other.

► The idea of “love at first sight” seems completely incomprehensible.

► You tend to do “romantic” things for lots of different people in your life (like Valentine’s presents for friends, or remembering the favorite candy of someone you care about and getting it for them), but those things just feel like being thoughtful.

[galacticmessup]

Me on my way to love and appreciate Aromantics/Arospec people: 

[bubbachaa]

It's my week bitches as a rainbow deaf 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈💖💖💖

[flannel-flags]

first greyromantic-maverique flannel for @vector437

[stardust-maple]

Being Grey-Aro is just like:

"Date Date Date!" "I am repulsed by romance!" "I am repulsed by romance pertaining to me!" "God I want to date this person!" "They probably don't like me." "Dating sounds so good right now." "Please never talk to me about romance. I'll perish." "Date Date Date!" "I am repulsed by fictional romance!" "Date Date Date!" "They totally don't like me!" "I wish they liked me!" "Oh I no longer want to date." "Can I have an epic summer romance?" "Oh please don't make me think about romance." "Can I have a romantic partner now?"