#healinggenerationaltrauma

[tommihanley]

[tammyblackday]

She loves me.

I shared this and a photo of my sister on Facebook earlier today. I’ve modified it for this platform.  My older sister loves me so much. She is one of the most generous people I have met in my life. From a young age, she did everything she could to take care of us kids. She tried so hard and never got anything but grief from us. I'm ashamed to say that I've often taken advantage of that generosity, not intentionally, but I did. When I was a teenager and young adult, she was the person I called to help me out of every single horrible situation I got myself into. And, there were some bad, life-altering situations. She never judged me, just helped in whatever capacity she could. 

I remember at my lowest point, when I wanted to die, she told me to go get my hair done and she'd pay for it. I needed to change my perspective on myself. I did and it did. Since then, whenever I'm feeling down, I remember to do one thing to change my perspective. 

She's the reason my business is "Changing lives one perspective at a time." 

For the longest time, she was the "wealthiest" person I knew- but she and her husband didn't really have much for a lot of those early years. What they did have was perseverance and tenacity, and the capacity to do better with the cards they were dealt in life. They worked hard and shared what they could with our family. I took it for granted. 

My sister helped me clothe and feed my children throughout the years, when I was down and out on my luck. After my first divorce, she started sending me her $25 rewards gift cards from Target with instructions to spend it on myself. She knew I put everyone else ahead of me. She sent me those cards for years, until I finally was stable and able to provide for myself and my children without assistance from anyone. I know that once I stopped receiving that generosity, she started sending those to my children and others to help in the same way. Just a few years ago, when I lost both jobs, my apartment, and had to voluntarily repo my truck, she sold me one of their vehicles, had her husband drive it half way to me, and even filled up the gas tank and gave me money to get home.

She's a giver. She can't help it. 

I've done her wrong so many times throughout my life, and she's always been there. Sis, I'm sorry for all the pain I've caused you. I wonder what it's been like to be on the receiving end. Will you forgive me for being selfish and ungrateful? I love you!

[smixen]

It is…it’s a LOT. But I’m doing it, and I’m really proud of myself. My son deserves better than I had, and better than my mother had. And so do I. ❤️‍🩹 #healinggenerationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CYTM8wdOQGw-8Jt4iXzPFY2LvcoCREtZOVr1JI0/?utm_medium=tumblr

[overcomeandgrow]

You may feel disconnected or like the black sheep. But really your mission here is to be connected and break generational curses. You were created the strong one, but also the one who in the end looks back and be very proud of yourself. Because of you! If you follow your path. Life for you and your family will no longer be in patterns that harmed the bloodline. The patterns that kept toxic cycles. If you step in your power, your life will feel like you landed a huge airplane with 100’s of people, free! You may feel alone but really you are The tree! The glue! Please walk your path and free yourself and many generations before and after you. Your life will forever be changed in a beautiful way. The sun will shine upon you! #breakinggenerationalcurses #healinggenerations #healinggenerationaltrauma #youarethetreeoflife #strong #courageous #overcomeanything #youaremagic #overcomeandgrow #familyties #bloodline #tree (at Long Beach, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/B59tpkfnhr0/?igshid=5wb61eiatlak