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ITS SPOOKY MONTH SO...GET READY FOR ME TO TALK ABOUT MY FIC HEADCANNONS BECAUSE NOBODY REALLY CARES (tv girl reference)

I squinted so hard

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How do I girl?

Awkward question from a cis-hetero woman to trans folks...I'm happily cis but have always been a tomboy and am neurodivergent in all the ways, and apparently a trait that tends to align with neurodiversity in women is difficulty in performing femininity--like the superficial trappings: style and makeup, but also stuff like communication styles and body language, ect.--which lines right the heck up with my experiences. I pretty much never learned that stuff in adolescence, for various reasons, and now I'm in my thirties and, as I like to say, I don't know how to girl. Which is, as we all know, sliiiiiightly more allowable when you're a kid but not so much in the adult worlds of professional workplaces or dating, and while I'm fine with being the ways I am, the tough reality is that the world grants or withholds opportunities based on ability and willingness to meet other people's expectations, reasonable or not.

So the awkward thing I want to ask is how my trans femme ladies learned feminine body language specifically. I figure a lot of it is just a person’s inherent self being allowed to be expressed instead of tamped down but also I've seen older movies or TV shows where a trans character uses videos or DVDs specifically made for trans women to learn this stuff, and--this feels like the clueless thing to ask--is that even a thing anymore? If I were to go on YouTube, what would I search for? Right now I'm just getting these gag-inducing tradwife wannabes talking about how "God likes pretty girls and don't you want to honor your sacred femininity" blah blah bleeeech. Basically, I like my own tomboyish femininity plenty, but I need to learn body language in a more traditionally feminine way so I can mask my neurodivergence better.

I hope this isn't clueless or harmful in any way, I'm genuinely really sorry if it is and that's part of why I haven't asked until now--this feels like one of those "I don’t know what I don't know so I might accidentally put someone else's eye out in my flailing" things, so if I'm making any assumptions I shouldn't be or costing someone any mental bandwidth they didn't want to give up, and you have the spoons to tell me that gently, I want to be the best ally I can be and would appreciate it, and you have my sincere apologies. I wish you a better day than you’ve had so far and that you happen upon puppy kisses that help make it so. So...can anyone give me a hand in finding some sort of resources? What should or could I be looking for?