Merp
I’m no longer accepting one-sided friendships. I’m either going to call you out or cut you out.
I’ve definitely been that friend in someone’s life that hurt the other person or did something I shouldn’t have or handled a situation poorly. But I take every one of my mistakes and I try to learn from them, grow, and be better. Admitting that you’re a bad friend or a crappy person isn’t enough. Put in the effort to correct your bad traits and toxic behavior. You’re not a bad person because you make mistakes or have lapses in judgment. That’s human. What makes it bad is when you’re unwilling to change.
“I’ve tried to change, but I am the way I am.” That’s a cop out. If you actually want to change, you will. Don’t try.
Just do it.
Anything less is just a farce.
Don’t get me wrong, changing yourself is not easy. It requires some deep self-evaluation and you gotta look your flaws directly in the eye. It’s something I’m still working on myself. Clearly, I’m not perfect.
Changing yourself takes time and it’s not easy. But it’s not impossible. You just have to be willing to put in the work.
This last year has been a major learning experience and I’m feeling a mental shift and a change within myself as a result of the various situations I’ve experienced within that time.
It’s not just about getting rid of toxic people. It’s about recognizing my own mistakes and shortcomings and putting in a concentrated effort to learn and be better.
It’s about knowing that I can’t control other people or their actions, but I can control myself and I can choose to conduct myself in a certain manner despite how someone else is behaving.
And it’s also about valuing myself and my time not only more, but enough to recognize when some people just don’t deserve either.
Like I said, this last year has been a very major learning experience. And as corny as it may sound, I feel like I’ve reached a new level of maturity. I definitely still have a lot more growing, learning and maturing to do; but this feels like a pretty big level up. 😌
