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When your three delightful children are playing quietly while you make dinner, but actually, the eldest is mummifying your phone in sellotape, and the middle is painting the patio in fairy cum.

In case you're worried that @mrhaitch have sensible children; we don't.

None of them have yet admitted to being the one to pour dish soap into my water bottle though:

Frothiest vomit I've ever had. And not even that will clean out all the filth inside me.

Love,

-- Haitch xxx

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Woman smiling while vacuuming, 1908

Boundary Testing, Hoovering and Aggression Disguised as "Jokes"

Boundary testing is a common occurrence with abuse because often times the abusers like to see how far they can trespass on their victims boundaries. This is often why when abuse victims return to the relationship they endure more severe incidence of abuse post-return (Arabi, 2017). When abuse victims return to the relationship, the abuser can feel more aversion and disgust towards them for being weak, however challenging them also ends up in the same direction because how dare anyone disrespect them (Arabi, 2017). The dynamic is always a lose lose for the victim. Boundary testing allows the abuser to disrespect and degrade their partner in a systematic way. Hoovering refers to a technique to bring the victim back into the abusive situation, including sweet words, empty promises, and fake remorse (Arabi, 2017). Aggression disguised as jokes is also common in abusive relationships. It serves to discount accountability for their rude and cruel comments designed to degrade and put the victim down as harmless and funny jokes. This enables them to shift accountability to the victim for their "overreaction" or "reactivity." Aggression disguised as jokes ties very closely into #16 Bait and Feign Innocence.

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