#i'm probably doing it wrong

[drunkeninlovesailor]

Plushie shenanigans

Aka, Bumblebee being fed like the smol baby he is

Parenting done right

Plus this creature here

Enjoying the view

[abcd-adventures]

So, I have this visualization exercise. . .

Realistically, I knew that introducing a new tiny human into the family would come with some bumps.  Last night, there was a bump.  I have little B all day long, so I look forward to some support from the husband for the last 1.5-2 hours from when he gets home from work until B goes to bed.  We also alternate putting B to bed and it was the husband’s turn.  When B started getting fussy about half an hour before bed, I suggested the husband give him a bath.  Husband’s response was: “I’m not really good at baths.”  😑 To this I responded, “Well, isn’t practice what will remedy that?” And, he said, “I feel like he’s close to a meltdown, so I don’t want to do it.  I’ll give him the bottle and put him to bed, though.” In my brain (with EXTREME sarcasm): “Oh, will you. . .on your turn?  How generous of you.”

Now, granted, I am typically the one who bathes B.  However, dealing with a sick baby--even one as good-natured as B--is demanding, and I wanted a break (especially because I had just endured an HOUR-long phone call with my MIL during B’s last nap of the day, robbing me of the time I’d promised myself I’d read for a bit).  Add to that the fact the husband still refuses to do the snot sucking and B was too congested and will not take his bottle unless you clear his nose. . .well, I got very annoyed.

So, on our dog walk later that evening, I said, “You know, I’m not thrilled about the fact that you’re adding baths to the list of things you’re not willing to do with B.”  We were both quiet for a long time, and then he said, “I don’t like the implication that I’m not fully involved in parenting our child.” So, basically the conversation had to stop there because had I responded, my response would have been, “Oooooh, did that come across as an implication. . .because I feel like it was just a clear statement. . .”  Annnnnd, that would not have been helpful or productive.  Whoever said, “Never go to bed angry” definitely didn’t know me. I was not capable of finishing that conversation (productively) last night.

As I was going to bed--before I more productively thought through the situation and planned my response for this evening, when I can have the discussion without feeling ragey--I engaged in one of my little anger-diffusing visualization exercises.

See, I have these slippers--they’re amazing, super soft and supportive on the top, but sturdy on the bottom.  When I’m pissed off at the husband, I visualize getting one of those slippers in my hand, winding up, and just chucking it at the back of the husband’s head.  Then, and here’s the best part, I slow it down in my head to see the exact moment it whacks him in the back of the head--with that ever-so-satisfying “thunk”--and then I take a moment to enjoy extreme satisfaction in the image of the shock and offense that would play out on his face. It never fails to give me an evil giggle! 

I know.  I know.  That’s absolutely AWFUL.  BUT, in fourteen years together, I’ve never actually hit the husband (with a slipper or anything else), and despite how awful that exercise sounds, it’s not like the husband KNOWS about it.  And, it diffuses my anger enough that I can focus on more productively solving the issue.  So, judge away. . .BUT, should you ever decide to try this trick, I bet you’ll be less quick to judge in the future because it’s satisfying as hell.

[simplywrong]

ship bingo - sewis! 💚

[sheerioswifties]

How did you set up your tracking hashtag? That seems so cool! 😊

Just on like the home page you can put in tags you follow like if you wanna see anything Taylor you'd follow #taylor swift so you can type in to follow whatever tag so like I put #usersheerioswifties and go check for things tagged. I know there's easier ways especially with xkit or whatever but I don't have that so I do everything the hard way

Send me weird asks, things about Taylor, FMK(celebs/fictional characters), randomness

[sirladysketch]

So Samhain coming up, and this is the time of year that I truly reawaken from the dull heaviness of summer’s heat. Cold weather rolls in and you can feel the shift in nature as things begin to shift towards dormancy. The stars are brighter, and the leaves dance in crisp winds scented with woodsmoke and the promise of frost. The sunsets burn in splendid colors, punctuated with the dark shadows of trees and flocks of birds that speckle the sky.

This is my favorite time of year, and the celebration of Samhain is a celebration of these changes, of endings and new beginnings. But as much as I would like to recognize it and observe it in my own way, I worry that not including rituals that are more religious in nature would mean any celebrations would be considered cultural appropriation and ultimately undermine the true meaning behind the day’s festivities.

I want to remember lost loved ones and think about fun stories and happy times we spent together. I want to meditate on my place in the world, both in how I’ve worked towards being a positive force in people’s lives, and how ultimately my part in the cosmos is minor and therefore something I shouldn’t worry about. I want to plan how to work towards bettering myself while accepting my strengths and weaknesses. In short, I want to meditate on the cycles of life and death, and to appreciate my place within them.

But I commit myself to no gods, and I will raise no altars. I consider myself spiritual, not religious. If I want to experience something awe-inspiring, I’ll go outside for a long walk, or listen to a favorite song, relish a particular piece of art, savor a particularly well done piece of writing. Or I’ll spend time in quiet, meditative appreciation of loved ones who are still with me, and think fondly on those who are not.

I guess my question is this: At what point does altering (or picking and choosing) the rituals of a holiday to suit your own beliefs go against the core beliefs of that holiday?

I mean, we’ve celebrated Christmas for years, getting a tree, singing carols, exchanging gifts, and seeing friends and family. But it holds no religious connotations for me. It’s a celebration of another year’s end and the promise of a new one, filled with friends and family. Does that mean that my celebration of Christmas has any less value than someone who observes it in a church? Am I doing it wrong for not involving God in those celebrations, focusing on the solstice instead of a superimposed birthday celebration?

I just... I dunno. Maybe I’m overthinking it, I just worry that my commitment issues to any specific religion or religious practices would upset friends who celebrate in “earnest” (whatever that might mean).

[onlyhokenobi]

it’s super fucking weird to me that I just spent 5 hours building sculpture with wire and i just want to keep doing it even though I’m home now and my project isn’t due for another 2 weeks. Like I really enjoy it? Even though my hands are black and there’s tiny cuts all over them. It’s kinda relaxing???

[mslanna]

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[mslanna]

I’m already way over the word limit for the submission. So why am I typing out the porn again?