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[monriatitans]

Why I Say I'm ADtistic Instead of an AuDHDer

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Why I Say I’m ADtistic Instead of an AuDHDer

First of all, I was diagnosed as ADHD first; why does Autism get to go in the front? Jokes aside, sort of, the other reasons are the multiple spellings and pronunciations:

Spelling

AuDHD(er)

AUDHD(er)

AUdhd(er)

Pronunciation

A-U-DHD(er)

AW-D-HD(er)

If I missed any, it proves my point. With ADtistic (A-D-tistic)… that’s it, unless someone wants to be a smartass. ADtistic is easier to remember. In addition, AuDHD(er) / AUDHD(er) / AUdhd(er), while creative, is too much of a mouthful and takes too long to say, anyway you wanna say it. And typing/writing it is annoying. ADtistic, however, has the same “ring” Autistic does. “I don’t ‘have’ Autism; I’m Autistic.” “I don’t ‘have’ ADHD and Autism; I’m ADtistic.” Inversely: “I don’t ‘have’ ADHD and Autism; I’m an A-U-DHDer/AW-D-HDer/Any I missed.” Also, saying “I’m ADtistic” will, probably, prompt the question, “Don’t you mean autistic?” which creates a teachable moment. Or the opportunity to be a smartass, if that’s your thing. Lastly, more of a sidenote, since every language is made up, and new words are being made up for them on a regular basis and/or being redefined, when only talking about ADHD, I say, “I’m ADHD” instead of “I’m an ADHDer.”

I am ADHD. I am Autistic. I am ADtistic.

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Me in a nutshell. #autism #autismawareness #autismacceptance #imautistic #iamautistic #asd #aspergersyndrome #aspergers https://www.instagram.com/p/CnTNoDhteOE/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[evolvingthefox]

I really struggle with boundaries. I struggle with making them and keeping them. I struggle with all things boundaries. The other thing I struggle with is small talk, and a part that comes with that, over-sharing. One of my client’s guardians likes to talk to me on a “friend” level. We are not friends. I am paid to care for her brother. I often talk to her on the phone to answer questions about her brother, and discuss things in the program, but our conversations can go on much further than that. She often keeps me on the phone for 1-2 hours, and she talks nonstop. And she barely talks about her brother. What she does talk about is a lot of stuff that makes me uncomfortable. She makes it almost IMPOSSIBLE to have any kind of professional boundaries. She tells me crazy personal information, she makes racist remarks, she’s xenophobic, she’s a Trump supporter, she’s even fatphobic...and she’s overweight! It goes on and on. She swears, but is like, REALLY OBSCENE. Makes crazily obscene jokes. And I don’t know how to handle any of this properly. I have gotten in trouble so many times with my company for “oversharing” with her, being unprofessional, giving her too much information, etc, but every time I’ve asked for help or coaching, they don’t give me any and tell me I can switch to another program if it’s too much...Today, her brother is away for the weekend...and she called the program to talk to me four times and when I didn’t answer the phone, she texted my cellphone twice. I refuse to talk to her today because her brother isn’t here, and I usually use today (my Monday) to transition back to work. If we were going to discuss her bro’s care, it would be one thing, but she’s SPECIFICALLY calling to shoot the shit. This gives me sooo much anxiety since I keep getting in trouble, plus she makes me so uncomfortable. Tonight, at 8:57, as I’m putting my second client to bed, the phone rings AGAIN. I maaaaay have ripped the phone cords out of the wall and left them out until it was time to leave...for her to text my cell...#boundaries #healthyboundaries #professionalboundaries #autistic #iamautistic #actuallyautistic #ihatesmalltalk #auditoryprocessingdisorder https://www.instagram.com/p/CHB6SUsB8Kt/?igshid=1x27udacuycuq

[evolvingthefox]

This is what it looks like when I plan for a meeting. I have been struggling at work the last two years. It has been a very long, ableist two years. I work for in the Direct Support field and work with adults with various developmental disabilities and I love my job. It has ALWAYS made sense to me. I have always been on a level with my clients that I do not see with the other #neurotypical staff. I have often felt shunned by neurotypical people and my job is no exception. I have been without supervision in my program for two years now, due to the constant revolving door that is staff and management, and I have been running this program single handedly. And when I would reach out for help, I would often be met with empty promises and list of everything I was doing wrong instead. Even when I was going through my evaluation process and they knew I was being screened for ASD, they continued to punish me for tiny tasks undone, when I was begging for help in all the same areas. I had finally reported my big boss for bullying me. All those papers on that desk are gathered notes from over the last two years, proof or the bullshit they put me through. This is how much I over-prepare. I only got to read ONE single sheet of paper. This is what it means when people say #autistics are detail orientated and have trouble seeing the big picture. I can see all the tiny, but bad things upper management is getting away with, but in the bigger picture, I am just a nuisance for this company that is pointing out their faults, and they don’t like that. The meeting ended well, I’m ready to put the past behind me and move forward. This isn’t the job I want to do forever anyways. #iwanttohelpotherslikeme #autistic #iamautistic #actuallyautistic #autismspectrumdisorder #asd #sensoryprocessingdisorder #spd #auditoryprocessingdisorder #apd #imnotmadeforofficesettings https://www.instagram.com/p/CHArR7GBFo-/?igshid=kvscno5s562n

[autism-blogs]

Autism acceptance month:Tips on how to survive NT madness

So this post is mainly for Autistic people who are excited to share their culture. And when i say "NT" I mean like people who are basically autismphobic... I'm sorry, still getting used to the terms. Anyway people are getting attacked for sharing autism headcanons and facts and art etc..

And its mostly by NT's who don't understand anything. Like if you share a headcanon saying something, they pretend that they'll understand it by claiming that you're being offensive or trying to generalise Autism. Or that "my 1 year old cousins, dogs, neighbours dads, friends, grandmother's, grandson doesn't act like that, therefore this is wrong" Most people with Autism will probably understand it better but you need to keep in mind that Autism is very wide. You can't look at one autistic person and say: "THEY REPRESENT EVERYONE ELSE" There are people who probably like wearing clothes when going to bed at night, because it's comfy and sleeping naked makes you feel weird in certain areas. And there will be people who feel completely sensory killed because of the clothing. Anyway that's one of my points. There's also people who love making friends but don't know how to and people who prefer being alone because human contact is a pain. Anyway, you have 3 options when an NT attacks. You can either Educate them, fight with them or ignore them. 1) It's important that people understand that autism isn't just an insult, 12 year olds use online to insult someone. You need to explain that autism is like the pics art color gradient (that's the only example i have). Maybe they'll understand better and won't be so ignorant.

Fighting with them is kinda stupid but hey, if you wish to just be the PC principal in South Park (no i don't watch it, I've just seen a video clip of it.) Just try and find the things they say and change it into something offensive. But i wouldn't recommend it. You're just wasting your time.... unless you're a loser.

3) Ah the best one. Just ignore them. Some NT's lack knowledge, meaning they're unintelligent. It's hard to explain autism to someone who's stupid.

Btw, if you're an NT (not autistic) don't take offence. i mean this mostly for people who insult autism or assume they understand it when they don't.

[mybloodjustwantstosayhellotoyou]

Looking to understand myself better. #autism #iamautistic #womenwithautism #autismawareness #gettingtoknowme

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