i have such a problem with "have to". i don't fucking "have to" anything ever. in social scenarios, "have to" is just a more adult way of saying "nuh-uh". "You have to come for christmas" no i don't, tf. "You have to have understanding for others" no i don't. what? they won't like me if i don't? ok so? i already don't like them. "You have to let them do this" says who, i say no. and in other scenarios, it's usually not even true, it's just something people say to make you do what they think is right because it makes them uncomfortable if you don't. "You have to eat before the trip", "You have to sleep more", "You have to go on vacation sometimes" i don't have to do shit. even in extreme scenarios, there is always an alternative. sure, if i don't show up to work, i might get fired. see, there is still an alternative. i can choose my preference, but i don't simply "have to". i'm in control here. even if i could die if i don't do something. i can also die, ok.