My (19M) brother (28M) hit me and thinks it’s okay
So my brother and I used to be friends like we got on and he was really cool.
I got into some trouble a couple of months ago surrounding drink driving which I regret. my brother helped me out with the legal stuff at the time so I thought we were cool.
I don’t have a car and my brother isn’t letting me use his so couple weeks back I borrowed his without telling him. I know I shouldn’t have done it but I wasn’t drinking or doing anything dangerous but when he found out he completely overreacted and started yelling at me. I kind of lost it and then he hit me and completely freaked me out.
Instead of saying sorry he has been acting weird and overbearing. He either ignore me or talks down at me all the time and asks where I’m going. He makes insane demands that make no sense like don’t stay out at night, tell us where you are. Like I’m 19 years old not a child. I think he should be trying to make amends and instead he is doubling down on acting like a bully.
How do I get him to act normal and in fact actually apologise for getting physical with me and acting like he has some say in what i do
You did not "borrow" his car. You STOLE his car. He is treating you like a child because you're acting like one. You stole his car, you clearly haven't taken accountability of that or apologized. If you'd been caught by cops in your situation, you could have had his car impounded. You want to be taken seriously? Then grow the fuck up.
Don't stay out at night and be accountable to your location are not "insane" demands. They are reasonable requests from the person who helped you stay out of jail for drinking and driving and then didn't even report your ass for grand theft auto. You should be immensely grateful he is willing to give you yet another chance.
No, he shouldn't have hit you. But he didn't do it to hurt you. He did it because you are scaring him. You are entitled, spoiled, unthinking, and uncaring. Do you even understand that your actions could have killed a person? Killed or disabled multiple people? Apparently not, since you are comfortable STEALING a car instead of facing the damn consequences of your actions.
You want to rebuild trust and make things normal with your brother? Accept you majorly fucked things up and do the work to make it right. Don't go out at night. Tell him where you're going when you leave. Do not fucking touch his car again. Get your damn life together. All in all? He's not the one who needs to make amends here. Your 19 year old entitled immaturity is showing its entire ass here.
