Guys, I need some advice. So me (20F) is living with my mother (46F) and younger sister (17F). It’s not like I am living in HER house it’s more of it was we were living with my grandma (her mom) but she passed (a year ago) when we were living with her so we have stayed since then. We both pay monthly (at least I do. There has been a lot of times when she hasn’t.) I have my room and her and my sister share a room. Not trying to be greedy but it was my room when my grandma was still here and I am not giving it up.
Anyways, I feel like I have no privacy with these people. I have came into my room a few times in the past and thought they went through my things so I bought a lock for my door but I think they figured out how to unlock it themselves without my key.
Basically two days ago (Saturday) I stayed at my friend’s house. I needed to get away from my house for a bit. When I got back yesterday (Sunday) I immediately noticed that someone had been in my room. The door was still locked but a few things had been moved. I am pretty sure I have OCD because I notice small things anytime someone has went through my room, everything has a place in my space. I have a snack drawer that had been completely turned around, I had a boba packet missing from my mini fridge, the clothes hung up in my closet had been moved to each side, like someone had pushed them apart(which I don’t and never have done.) You get my point?
I then went to my mom’s room and confronted her on it and she said that she didn’t go into my room and I shouldn’t be questioning her because she is my mother. I said no one is allowed in my room again. My sister (through text) said that she has been gone for most of the day and didn’t go into my room. I’m not sure who it was but definitely one of them went into my room while I was gone.
Later that night my mom knocked on my door yelling for me. I opened it up and she was a mad that I didn’t hear her and claimed that I walked off when she was talking to me but I clearly remember her yelling at the dogs so so I went to my room with my dinner. Anyways, she asked me if I had anything to drink and I said no (I don’t but even if I did and said yes she would just hound me for all of it slowly). She said “so if I push past you and look in your mini fridge you won’t have anything?” I said no then she tried to push into my room and I fought back by pushing the door back. I threatened to call our landlord and she got mad saying “He is not my boss, he is my younger brother! I am your mother!!” I said “I am an adult! I pay to live here and this is my room!” She eventually gave up and stepped back so I closed the door and locked it. She got mad and banged on the door and said “You are disrespectful! You wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for me!”
She then went to her room and called my younger sister saying “No one else wanted me to have you two! My two kids that no one wanted me to have but I still did treat me like shit.”
Things quieted down after that but it was also late and I only left my room once to use the bathroom.
I wish I could leave lol but I can’t afford it. What should I do?













