Why email > phone #
Making new friends these days usually consists of meeting someone somewhere and exchanging phone numbers.
I used to do this a lot only to realize I was self-sabotaging and disappointing myself. I now only exchange emails and realize that a person's true intentions lie in whether or not they turn it down.
Do they want to get to know you or get your attention?
Usually people only text when they're horny or bored.
Emails are like letters. You are forced to actually think about what you are sending the person.
Texting a stranger you met once in person is harder because you can easily end up falling down the "small talk" hole. This leads to dead ends and ghosting.
Emails can, like a letter, showcase a lot about a person's personality through their sentence structure, topic choices, and demonstrates their levels of creativity and empathy.
With texting, sooner or later one person doubts the other's interest and a mutual "omg does he/she dislike me?" Leads to a bilateral defensive "I'm not gonna text first" attitude. Avoidant ghosting.
Emails vs texts are like: cafetierre brewed coffee vs instant coffee. One has flavor, one tastes like cardboard broth. It's not hard to pick which is more enriching, satisfying and relationship-building in the long run.
However I am not against texting at all. Texting is better than calling sometimes. Everything has its pros and cons. I'm just going by experience and preference here. But there is this trend these days with ghoster-bashing. Maybe figure out the person's personality type, why they would ghost, and how to avoid ghosting.
Maybe others can relate.
