#introvert relationships

[introvertobviously]

Introvert Problem #196 When you're not sure if you wish your online friends lived closer so you could see them more often, or you're grateful your online friends don't live closer so you don't have to see them more often.

[apixiedyedhere]

Is it normal that I suddenly feel tender emotions for an individual I lacked these for in the past? Has my brain turned the memories of them into a sort of avatar through which to channel delayed emotional responses to many different things and people? I am averse to their return, but in my mind, we are on good terms and I am content with never seeing them again.

[murderandmbti]

An introvert's guide to dating

The club isn’t the best place to find a lover so I go nowhere, stay at home, cuddle with my pet and read a book instead.

[apixiedyedhere]

Why email > phone #

Making new friends these days usually consists of meeting someone somewhere and exchanging phone numbers.

I used to do this a lot only to realize I was self-sabotaging and disappointing myself. I now only exchange emails and realize that a person's true intentions lie in whether or not they turn it down.

Do they want to get to know you or get your attention?

Usually people only text when they're horny or bored.

Emails are like letters. You are forced to actually think about what you are sending the person.

Texting a stranger you met once in person is harder because you can easily end up falling down the "small talk" hole. This leads to dead ends and ghosting.

Emails can, like a letter, showcase a lot about a person's personality through their sentence structure, topic choices, and demonstrates their levels of creativity and empathy.

With texting, sooner or later one person doubts the other's interest and a mutual "omg does he/she dislike me?" Leads to a bilateral defensive "I'm not gonna text first" attitude. Avoidant ghosting.

Emails vs texts are like: cafetierre brewed coffee vs instant coffee. One has flavor, one tastes like cardboard broth. It's not hard to pick which is more enriching, satisfying and relationship-building in the long run.

However I am not against texting at all. Texting is better than calling sometimes. Everything has its pros and cons. I'm just going by experience and preference here. But there is this trend these days with ghoster-bashing. Maybe figure out the person's personality type, why they would ghost, and how to avoid ghosting.

Maybe others can relate.

[apixiedyedhere]

My personality type makes me feel like I can heal an incel and teach them how to love themselves and love others so they can one day fly into the beauty of life like an injured bird who's wing I nursed back to health but then my personality type also makes me relegate inceldom and its orc minions to the same dungeon where I keep war, plastic pollution and sacrificing cats.

[introvertobviously]

INTJs and Making Friends

The problem with being an introvert is finding people you connect with but not knowing how to "friend" without over-committing yourself.

[thinkingofyours]

Echo Bonds: When Silent Stares Build Deeper Love Than Words Ever Could

In a bustling Delhi café, newlyweds often scroll through their phones. In a quiet home in Kerala, a pair married for 47 years drinks their chai in absolute silence. We often mistake the former for disconnection and the latter for boredom. But the truth is a long way extra intimate. Recent behavioral studies in urban India suggest a fascinating paradox: 62% of Indian couples report feeling most…

Echo Bonds: When Silent Stares Build Deeper Love Than Words Ever Could

[dahliatravers1234]

Receive Love. Embrace It.

Quite recently, I realized that when I read messages from my Long Distance Partner, I need to take a pause, hold space for him, and fully receive his expressions of Love and affection. Sit with them, embrace them, feel them. (And not just read to respond.)

Oh my goodness! My soul has felt embraced by his love. We are thousands of miles apart, but I feel his soul’s presence, his Love so strongly. 

We’ve had more deep conversations, too, sharing from the more vulnerable corners of our souls. Expressing our Love for each other in new and different ways. 

The practice has helped me recognize and more intentionally receive expressions of Love from others in my life, too. My heart feels so full!