i don’t really GET the whole “so1 fix” “sp3 fix” thing in the typology community. because like. wdym ALL three instincts are neurotically prioritized for you. and on top of that, they affect different specific parts of you??? and not your core type????? 😄😄
the thing about instinctual variants in the enneagram is that ONE instinct is neurotically focused on more than the others, warped oppressively by the core type’s passion into more emotional territory (which makes a subtype). it’s called the dominant instinct and it’s less of “i’m good at this instinct” and more of “this instinct is how i learned to survive”.
it wouldn’t check out that the dominant instinct wouldn’t affect your fixes as well, because the other two instincts become a secondary instinct and a blind spot. so the instinct order just switches up whenever your 3 fix is 3-fixing❓like…
example: a SX/SP 748 (SX7) wouldn’t have a SP4 fix or something because the SP is a secondary instinct that ASSISTS the dominant instinct, SX. the E4 fix also assists the E7 core when it comes to image because of E4 being the heart fix of the tritype. it all funnels back into the SX7, aka the actual subtype that takes precedence.
like i see how people treat it more like a fun thingimabob but what if somebody new sees it and accepts it as fact 😶
Self-Preservation dominant, Sexual 2nd, Social blindspot (SP/SX)
> Mindset: "I can have merging/intensity without having to leave my orderly & pleasing lifestyle." (imagination, safe people and relationships, when the safety of these are challenged they withdraw)
> Earthy, mysterious, quietly intense, seem oblivious to the greater social world around them, favour personal interests
> Slow to commit, but when they do it is a life commitment to establish an impermeable bond
> Can attach to others at a root level in contrast to their surface formality
> Sanctuary of home, decorate spaces to reflect their taste/depth
> Want to live in secure comfortable environment where they can pursue their private interests in depth
> Archetypes: The Grave Digger, pirate, voodoo fetishist
> Missing Social, fresh air/sunlight
> Shrouded/hooded quality, cave dweller
> Can be oblivious to the collective good
> Communications are intimate, personal, no aura of the collective
> Friend-of-the-dark, non-judgemental with people’s underbellies/corruption
> The elements as metaphor: Downward death, decay/destruction, undertow, carcasses recycling into earth fertilizing
> Molten fire SX in earth’s core SP, volcanic, threat of eruption
> Psychic nudity/revelation threatens the SP/SX with self-destruction, or at least social self-destruction, which is all part of the distilling process toward the desired one-to-one bond.
Sexual dominant, Self-Preservation 2nd, Social blindspot (SX/SP)
> Mindset: "If I can make (us) have an orderly & pleasing lifestyle, I can keep up and escalate all this merging/intensity."
> Internally conflicted, inconsistent behaviour SX blocked by SP, brooding, troubledIsolation vs. emerging
> Strictly personal outlook, not concerned with social consensus
> Searching for missing piece, soulmate, form a secret bond
> When stressed, severe sexual tensions may manifest as erratic behaviour
> Restless, torn between stable home and urge to wander/explore intensity
> Want the intensity of partner/pursuing personal interests with the stability and comfort of a home sanctuary
> Archetypes: The Alchemist, shaman, self-injurer, cutter, tattoo artist
> Missing Social, fresh air/sunlight, when you take away air you get death
> Shrouded/hooded quality, cave dweller
> Oblivious to the collective good
> Communications are intimate, personal, no aura of the collective
> Friend-of-the-dark, non-judgemental with people’s underbellies/corruption
> The elements as metaphor: Upward death, rebirth, metamorphosis, burned to death and born again from new elements
> Losing self to die in the other in upward peak of flame and ecstasy
> A lightning bolt captured in a bottle. The energy is always there but it's contained in a glass jar and only breaks free once in a while. The SX/SP is boxed in energy, self-contained, cutting, and focused. SX/SP types will often look angry even when they are not. There is a certain reality of emotion which they display that is due to their social obliviousness. Most SX's will be honest almost to a fault. SX/SP want to choose their friends wisely. A "with me or against me" attitude reminiscent of 6 and 8s. The least inhibited of all stackings. Cares less of what others think of them. The most likely to get into physical altercations, and may even enjoy fighting. Healthy SX/SP's will display a playful selfishness.
> SX/SP have a inner confidence which is not usually found in other stackings. However they may lack social confidence or just may not pay any attention to social rituals at all. Put a SX/SP in a busy bar and they will be confident in themselves. But make them sit at their parent-in-laws for a formal family dinner and you won't see that same confidence. It's inner confidence rather than social confidence of the SX/SO. May be very popular without knowing or putting emphasis on it, unlike SO types.
> SX/SP does create a kind of isolationary tendency though even in extroverted types, an in-their-own-world vibe, kinda oblivious sometimes. But ironically they can also be extremely insistent and aggressive on issues they feel strongly about, which they go on about in the SO realms in ways that will cause stronger SO's to cringe, it's so rough and undiplomatic. They can fall in love with their soapboxes. They can tune out of conversations, reacting suddenly when someone says something interesting, then snapping back to their inner focus whenever it gets boring. Also, making the odd crude joke, in bad taste. Or a faux pas, where they don't know it's the wrong thing to say until afterwards, or don't care.
> SX manifests as strong drives towards pleasure, new experiences, personal transformations, spontaneity, being provocative and in the spotlight, flaunting to impress, extravagance, and unrealistic romantic fantasies and whims. But SP counters with worries, fears, practical downers, erecting walls, a need to hide and be secretive, and needs to conserve time, space, and energy.
Energies in the Stackings
SX-firsts, aren’t as aware of the interactions between them and others and the environment, rather… their more aware of the chemistry. So while the so-firsts are more “mechanical”, the sx-firsts are more “chemical”. Focusing on SX-first issues involve: Am I close to my gf/bf? Am I close to my family? How much in common do we all have? Do I really like this thing? Am I attracted to it? Is that person attracted to that other person? etc. They’re more aware of the bonds and the chemistry between them and people, as well as environment, and other people and other people, as well as other people and the environment. They really like being close to their intimates, and are generally passionate about things. Likewise, they fear that those chemical bonds could be broken, and when they are, they are emotionally hurt. They feel literally separated, and ripped away from the other person or object.
SP-first issues revolve around: Am I healthy? Do I look good? How are my financial issues? How is that person’s financial issues? Am I hungry? etc. In other words, SP-firsts worry more about fitness. Fitness in general, of course, not necessarily just body fitness. Therefore, they worry more about how fit they are in their environment, as well as how fit other people are in their environment. They want to be fit. This represents more a potential energy, rather than mechanical and chemical energy. When someone leaves them… I guess perhaps they feel more unfit, since I’m sure they may rely on others to keep them fit. Though, its still more important for they themselves to be fit on their own.
[ok, não sei ainda qual sequência é mais minha cara. ainda acho que sx/sp]
i wish i was a character in a show so people could accurately type me, even though I know i’d be pissed if they mistyped me or typed me as something I hate. I love knowing more about typology but i also hate it because I cant stop until i type myself perfectly which never happens and i just end up having an identity crisis because it feels like i don’t know myself, but I refuse to not type me because i want to know everything and myself and refuse to have people know themselves while I don’t. But it just takes so much effort and work and i hate it. Maybe i’ll have to wait until i’m 26 to do it all again and be absolutely sure, but i want to know NOW.
