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me as a teenager: man it sucks to have no privacy or autonomy but i guess its for a good reason. when i turn 18 i will realise how young i was and understand why they did all that.
me as an adult: teenagers are an oppressed class, their abuse is normalised and systemic and they need to start killing people
Yikes
Nobody is lgbt. None of us.
the exclusionists have won. They’ve excluded everyone. My god.
For reference, “allos” = “allosexual” = “anyone who isn’t asexual / isn’t on the asexual spectrum” so, according to whichever galaxy-brained exclusionist wrote the screenshotted post, no one who’s ace or who isn’t ace is LGBT. Not a single one of us
go home everyone lgbt is closed
also I don't think parents "these days" are uniquely terrible, I just think neglect is showing up in new ways as technology progresses. today's ipad kid would've been wandering around in a ditch alone all day and night before. parents not wanting to have to deal with children is not a new phenomenon.
Today's iPad kid is quite literally yesterday's "shoved in front of a TV for hours on end" kid.
I've actually been witness to many adults just giving their toddlers a phone or iPad to keep them quiet and satisfied, which is horrifying. Exposing them to technology from such a young age is never a good thing. I understand that, for many parents, they might feel like there's no other way to deal with them, but they could look for alternatives? See if there's any local parks or any other places where their kids could spend their free time and meet other kids outside of school environments. Look for friends in their neighborhoods so their kids can hopefully have other kids to play with rather than be stuck with a device. At least, try and make time on the weekends to spend with them, and if they have any relatives who live nearby, grandma's house could be a way for the kids to socialize more. Encourage healthy hobbies in their kids rather than just 'yeah, they're happy spending all their free time on a pc/phone/games so it's okay'. There's so many things parents could try, but no. They just give up and offer phones as the easiest options. Which honestly, kinda feels like neglect, in my opinion. Which also bears reminding: if adults in relationships who are considering the idea of getting married feel that they're so busy they couldn't spend much time with their kids, then it's better to not have them, imo.
legit excited to see this come around again
my checking account is called my Lamborghini account and my savings is called my Hollywood hills account. when I have to go to the bank they see that shit. if they knew if was from this dumb fucking video I think they would execute me
girl she's dead what do you want them to do. hang the corpse
Jax spent her whole life miserable and then died without self actualizing. if you need her to suffer for her mistakes, she's got it covered: she ended up with no friends and a bunch of abject self-hatred that killed her. even if we accept that kind of punitive framing, I think she more than suffered enough, and saying it's not enough just seems cruel to me.
it's true and you should say it.
coming out of the tags to say that some of us have been saying this for years and have been called all manner of degenerates, perverts, and pedophiles over it, and we really deserve an apology we will never receive
We DO deserve a fucking apology we'll never get, and not to soapbox, but lemme just throw out another fucking explanation of exactly why this shit keeps happening in the slim chance that it helps at least one person not fall for it: Fascism in ANY form will ALWAYS present itself as reasonable to YOUR sensibilities. It preys on a lot of things, your disgust reaction, your fear reaction, your own shame, your need for a tribe, your need to feel like you're part of something bigger than yourself, your need to protect your resources, your need to boost your own ego, your need to feel better than others, and in my opinion, the worst thing of all that it can prey on is your WANT TO DO GOOD. It turns that Want To Do Good against you, gives you "acceptable targets" and sets you loose, thinking that you're being a fucking super hero. Fascism will ALWAYS feel okay when you're doing it because you understand why you're doing it because you've been told why you should be doing it by someone who's fucked the narrative to make you feel good about hurting other people because they've convinced you that you are protecting people by doing it!! Fascism tells you: "The sort of people who value a sex scene in a movie are perverts, and perverts are dangerous, right? Oh god... What if they're a rapist and that's why they like that sort of stuff? Yeah, that trans girl that made that post about movies needing sex scenes... She pisses in a diaper, that's fucking disgusting right? And she likes weird fiction... And diapers are meant for kids... So... Yeah... Exactly, you got it! See you figured out what she was too! So you should trust your gut with these people, you're really good at spotting them! You know when someone is evil! And you DEFINITELY should not listen to a pervert explain themselves, because... Right, exactly, what's the point? They're just going to lie about it and probably say gross shit to you." Did you catch how that worked? It let YOU make the conclusion. It let YOU answer the questions and start setting shit in stone in your own mind. And the next thing you know, you're using fiction as proof, anything outside of your own comfort levels as evidence, you've become an emotionally reactionary fascist who genuinely believes you are making the world better, and safer, for the people you love, and who love you in return. Fascism doesn't begin with violence, it begins with a kind hand held out in your direction from someone else who believes they're helping. You might not even realize you've fucked up. Ever. That's how it works. That's how it thrives.
THIS!!!
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If we don’t learn from history we are doomed to repeat it.
The most interesting question you can ask about any character is not what do they want. it's what do they believe they deserve. because those two things are almost never the same and the gap between them is where your entire story lives. a person can want love completely and believe they don't deserve it and that belief will destroy every good thing that comes toward them in ways they won't even notice they're doing. write the gap. the gap is the character.
roald dahl was antisemitic and misogynistic. george orwell was openly homophobic. edgar allan poe married his 13 year old cousin. dr seuss cheated on his wife (and was racist as well as antisemitic!). hp lovecraft was racist as fuck. anyways they’re fucking dead it’s not like you’re enabling their behaviors in the afterlife or something. then again I think they bleed into the books so uh keep an eye out for that
the difference between these old white guys and jk rowling is that the former group is all dead. jk rowling is alive and using your money to oppress trans people
ALL DERE TYPES LIST
So, I'm compiling a massive list of all the dere archetypes to the best of my knowledge. Why? Because I have no life. If anything is inaccurate or if I'm missing something, let me know. I'll add more and more as I go along. If you have any good examples for a type where characters are concerned, let me know✌
Turning this into an ask meme! Reblog and send an emoji based on what kind of dere you think the person who reblogged this came off as
💢Tsundere- Tsunderes are your archetypal "hard on the outside, soft on the inside" type. At least the classic variety is. Classic tsundere characters tend to start out aloof and avoidant with fiery tempers but over time they will begrudgingly show a gentler, more easily flustered lovestruck side to the right person. There's a second type of tsundere in which the character is sweet, gentle and friendly most of the time but that one person will trigger their fiery temper and that's how you know they love you.
🤫Dandere- Dandere characters tend to start out as someone who is very shy, quiet, asocial and withdrawn. They don't talk all that much and may not show a lot of emotion. However, around the right person they may open up more and show that they are a very friendly, kind, loving person beneath their withdrawn exterior.
❄Kuudere- Kuuderes are oft confused with danderes but they aren't the same thing. A kuudere has an icy demeanor. She is aloof, doesn't show emotion, and possibly pragmatic and very cynical. But if the right person comes along and earns their trust, the ice might just melt and the kuudere in question is revealed to be a very soft, kindhearted gentle person.
🔪Yandere- Ah, now for a scary type. A yandere may often appear sweet, cutesy,loving, and romantic on the surface but if you catch their interest you're FUCKED. Yanderes are extremely jealous, possessive and obsessive of their love interests and will go to any lengths to have them by their side. Those lengths often include kidnapping said love interest, killing their friends and family so they can have the person all to themselves, or at worst killing said love interest because if they can't have them, no one can. There are more benign types of yandere in which said yandere is clearly obsessed but doesn't go much further than stalking or going through their love interest's trash. Creepy still? But mainly harmless.
💕Deredere- A deredere is a character who is sweet, loving, and energetic through and through. There's no guesswork involved with these guys. They typically have quite the bubbly disposition.
👑Himedere- A himedere is like a tsundere or kuudere who demands to be treated as if they were a princess by their love interest. They may or may not be actual royals. They often show a bratty, spoiled, regal, or arrogant disposition and may treat their love interest as one of their "royal subjects" or call them a peasant.
✝️Kamidere- Similar to himedere, except this person wants their love interest to treat them like a God or goddess. They may or may not actually be one. They may demand that their love interest worship them. Also very arrogant individuals.
🩸Yangire- A lot of people confuse yangire and yandere but they are very, very different. A yangire refers to a character who often seems cutesy, sweet, and harmless or maybe even just plain normal (which is indeed genuine) on the surface but it masks a very violent, unhinged side of their personality. Unlike a yandere, this violent side isn't necessarily triggered by romantic love or jealousy (though this isn't to say that a yangire can't fall in love), it could be triggered by lots of different things.
🤬Tsungire- A tsungire is a character who is angry, fiery, hostile, irritable and maybe even arrogant through and through. They are fiery and angry outside, violent inside. They are nearly unapproachable.
🎭Tsunshun- a tsunshun is a character who is irritable, fiery, aloof and hostile inside but actually very sad, depressed and lonely on the inside. It's a "mask" of sorts to hide their sad, vulnerable, sensitive interior.
💧Coodere- hard to find an exact definition on this type, but they appear to be a milder type of kuudere. Instead of being an outright ice queen/king, a coodere might seem kind of distant or aloof, maybe a bit unemotional and laid-back but they conceal a very sweet, friendly lovestruck side and blush easily. They also probably cry a lot.
👍Undere- Undere is a "yes-man" kind of dere. They will probably do whatever their love interest wants and agree with them a lot in order to get closer to them. If I remember correctly, they've probably known their love interest a long time, maybe even their childhood best friend and were most likely closer to them than anyone else but went on unnoticed.
😜Bakadere- bakaderes are very childish, ditzy, silly and naive types. They're also pretty immature even though they tend to be quite kind. They pretty much act like a little kid when it comes to love and handle it quite amateurly.
😷Byoukidere- A byoukidere usually is very kind, sweet, and helpful and reserved in love but they always have some kind of terminal illness or are severely disabled in some way. They may want to experience true love before they pass away.
😊Bodere- a bodere is like a fusion of a tsundere and a dandere. They are often shy, easily embarrassed and easily flustered around the person they like and will lash out in order to hide their shyness
😒Darudere - Daruderes come off as bored and apathetic to basically everything. They may be entirely anhedonic for the most part....until that special person enters the picture and livens up their life. They usually end up a bit more cheerful around this person and showing a sweeter side that is more interested in life.
😞Shuundere- Shuunderes are very sad, isolated, depressed, lonely and unmotivated. They may be suicidal. Their love interest may be able to help them open up and cheer up. There's also a second type of shuundere that hides their sadness behind a cheerful facade and only those who get close enough to them see how sad they are deep down.
😳Hajidere- hajideres are a lot like danderes but there are a couple of key differences. They will be very easily flustered, bashful, and nervous around their crush to the EXTREME. They might even faint. However, unlike their cousin the dandere, they act pretty normal around everyone else.
😤Hinedere- hinederes have a cold, extremely cynical, pessimistic, harsh disposition. They probably have severe trust issues and may or may not be kind of arrogant. But towards the right person they will open up and show a bit of a kinder side and mellow out somewhat. These types have probably gone through a lot of trauma.
🤑Kanedere-Kanederes are essentially gold diggers and attracted exclusively to those with lots of money and a high social standing.
👿Mayadere- a mayadere refers to a character who starts out as the villain and probably will try to kill the protagonist but they end up falling for the protagonist and switching sides. They may still remain dangerous and unpredictable though!
🐈Nyandere-a nyandere is a type of character who shows a lot of cat-like attributes and behavior. They may or may not be tsundere, much like an actual cat and may or may not be a catgirl/catboy
🤴Oujidere-This is more or less the male equivalent of a himedere. He wants to be treated as a prince by the one he loves, and may want them to "serve" him. They are typically very regal, refined, and have a very dignified bearing. They may or may not actually be a prince. Alternatively there's a more benign variant in which they may be like a prince in a chivalrous sense, viewing themselves as a knight from a fairytale and have an always-save-the-girl/guy-complex. The second type is usually quite protective.
😏Sadodere- A sadodere is a sadistic, cruel, manipulative kind of person who lacks empathy and gets off on toying with their love interests feelings. They may be known for being a tease. They also enjoy humiliating their love interest and may hurt them physically and emotionally.
🚫Devidere- a devidere is the type of character who will try and ignore their crush in a feeble attempt to make their crush jealous or pay attention to them
😍Megadere - a megadere is like a benign variant of a yandere. These characters are typically very cute, upbeat, and sweet but will develop an extremely obsessive fixation on a person and fawn over them the way a fanboy/girl fawns over a celebrity. Are they obsessive and prone to jealousy? Why yes, but unlike the yandere it takes a more benign form such as obsessively mooning over them or stalking. They usually do not get the guy/girl but this isn't always the case.
😌Oujodere-an oujodere is very prim and proper, ladylike, calm and mature. They are gentle and calm. They are also very compassionate but they'll outright shower their love interest in their love
☯️Dorodere- Doroderes seem cute, sweet and innocent on the outside but on the inside are deeply emotionally disturbed. They bear similar thought patterns and tendencies to yanderes/yangires/sadoderes but will not typically act on such thoughts. They may have issues that cause this kind of behavior and their disturbed side will slowly be revealed to those who become close to them. An individual may not always be a dorodere may not always be a dorodere but may develop those qualities over time due to trauma or being raised around violent individuals. They tend to be very unpredictable.
🤪Ahodere- a whole ass idiot over here. They're not like bakaderes because they lack the naive aspect. They are often very boisterous, constantly messing up, and very oblivious to displays of love but are actually very sweet people, especially once the dumbass figures out the person they like likes them too. Ahoderes are usually boys and usually paired with tsunderes
💋Teasedere- a teasedere is very flirtatious and playful and mischievous. They're probably a trickster type. They are quite caring but may purposely annoy or tease their love interest to get a rise out of them.
👊Thugdere: thugderes are brash, rude, tough and probably involved in criminal activities. They get into a lot of fights and probably have a bad reputation and are known as someone you don't want to mess with but show a very kind, affectionate and loyal side towards their friends and partner.
💚Goudere: this one is a little harder to define but the general consensus seems to be that a goudere is "an unstoppable force that does whatever she pleases for her master, out of live for her master". Gouderes are most likely more boisterous than yanderes despite the similarities to them. She will do whatever she deems is best for her master....whether he wants her to do it or not. She lacks the possessiveness of a yandere because she would willingly and forcefully make a harem for her master.
💔Usodere: seems sweet and innocent on the outside but is actually a compulsive liar
👹Onidere: Variant of tsundere. They possess incredible destructive power and are actually demons. Most people don't dare go near them but they are kind and gentle towards those they love. Monsterfuckers eat your heart out!
👰Kekkondere: This kind of character wants to marry their love interest right away. From the moment they meet them, they've decided their future with that person. Falls in love quickly, may go yandere if their advances are rejected.
💤Nemuidere: this kind of character is someone who sleeps a lot. They don't have much interest in anything other than napping and are known to be quite laconic. They are usually very intelligent. The right person, of course, may motivate them to take more of an interest in life.
📣Uzadere: Oft confused with bakadere and ahodere. These characters are very loud, boisterous, annoying, and probably not very smart but sweet and well intentioned.
🏋️♂️Kiredere: This is an extremely harsh variant of tsundere. They act a lot like an overzealous personal trainer to their love interest and tend to yell at them a lot. But it's all because secretly they care deeply for the person and snark at them in the name of personal improvement and wanting to bring out the best in their love interest
😩Masodere: Thiskind of character complements a sadodere perfectly. They have a strong attraction to humiliation, pain, and manipulation and would get off on their love interest treating them in such a way.
I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:
It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.
Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.
1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.
2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?
3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?
4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”
5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.
6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)
I have been in EMDR therapy recently to help with past trauma and like 90% of the appointments is just this post. Which I thought was silly at first bcs I was like "well I know how I'm feeling, I feel bad" but man you have no idea. Literally JUST talking through whatever stressful thing I have going on at the moment and whenever I feel a Big Emotion stopping and acknowledging, naming, and sitting with it. I've made more progress with my trauma and mental illnesses just doing this in a single year than I have in like 10+ years of therapy.
It might feel silly or pointless at first but stick with it, it really helps.
As someone with alexithymia, I have found DBT's handouts on "Understanding and Naming Emotions" really helpful in being able to tell what emotion I was having to then validate it or manage it. They are detailed. On each emotion page, Marsha Linehan (long may she live) put things under the following headings, to create a detailed emotion profile:
[Emotion] words - synonyms for and variations of the main emotion e.g. under anger is fury, outrage, resentment, bitterness, annoyance, frustration, hostility, etc
Prompting events for feeling [emotion] - so for anger some prompting events could be "having an important goal blocked," "you or someone you care about being threatened or attacked," etc
Interpretations of events that prompt feelings of [emotion] - similar to above, but it is thought patterns or beliefs that could prompt having a feeling - an example for anger is "ruminating about the situation that caused the anger in the first place"
Biological changes and experiences of [emotion] - so for anger, bodily experiences like fast breathing, a tightness in your chest, tensed muscles, being unable to stop crying - and urges you might get, like wanting to hurt someone
Expressions and actions of [emotion] - just what it sounds like. For anger some examples are: walking heavily, stomping, slamming things; brooding or withdrawing from others; mean expression; physically or verbally attacking someone; crying; grinning
Aftereffects of [emotion] - what happens after the first intense wave of emotion finishes. For anger it includes: narrowing of attention, ruminating about past and imagined future situations that could make you angry, depersonalisation and dissociative experiences
I tend to slowly scan each part of my body for physical sensations, body language, and urges (ie "biological changes and experiences") and then try to match those to an emotion, now that I have those cheat sheets. Getting good at this took a lot of practice and repetition. For me at least, it is a manual skill I have had to build up.
Working backwards to figure out what emotions you might logically have in response to an event and seeing if those match what you are feeling can be really helpful too.
You can find these DBT emotion handouts here (scroll to page 7 for the start of the emotion profiles):
And here is every single DBT handout from the official manual for anyone interested (don't sue me pls):
Also helpful to other people I have talked to is this emotion-sensation wheel by Lindsay Brahman, which some people find easier to follow:
Just don't do a me - I took this too literally at first and thought that only the sensations directly branching off the emotions made up those emotions. In reality there is a lot of mixing and matching, and a lot of stuff not covered on the wheel. It is a rough (but often useful!) guide.
And here is another useful infographic that comes from this article by Greatist, which they adapted from a 2014 study that aimed to map bodily sensations of emotions. Yellow areas are the most activated/tense regions (so they might feel hot, tight, tense, full of energy, warm, maybe sick or fluttery if it is your stomach), and blue areas are the least activated regions (feel heavy, hard to move, maybe weak or cold)
And finally a tip for my neurodivergent friends: when you are scanning your body for emotions, look for signs or causes of overstimulation first, and address that before you try to do any of this - headphones, leaving a space, eating or drinking, turning off lights, weighted blankets, going somewhere cooler or warmer, stimming, whatever you need/can reasonably do. In its early stages overstimulation may feel like an intense emotion, and unfortunately mixing them up can lead to some bad and unproductive times.
i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping
this also goes for aesthetic or -core titles. 'y2k tank top' is going to get you resellers and fast fashion brands advertising to people looking to meet a current trend. 'thin strap crop tank top' is going to get you a diverse group of results and not upcharge you to hell and back
additionally, shop second hand when you can, second hand and thrift sites typically organize clothes by the cut and color. theyll be more affordable than a depop seller curating you a style to sell you
useful terminology for different kinds of clothing shapes :)
here are more terms! these are all from enérie. it is a really good blog that has lots of fashion terminology and it's a good mix of menswear and womenswear! they also have a book as well compiling all their diagrams. you could also look into getting a visual fashion dictionary for terms as well!
Pro tip for conlanging. Dont start with basic words like 'air', 'speak' 'animal', etc. Start with really specific complex stuff and work back.
Maybe you want like.... 'ephemerality'.
How does that break down? Is it formed from other words combined, or is one base word altered?
State of change -> Changestateness
Change gives you a word for alteration, movement, time maybe.
State gives you a word for form, shape, the present.
You can break them down further now.
Forms and shapes, relates to the body. Body conveys material, flesh.
Movement, can come from walking, running.
Walking -> legs, feet.
Material -> crafts, harvesting, processing.
Now you have lots of words!
If you do it the other way round you will have a set of words that all come from a handful of basic words and so all sound the same and are bloated from using the same words over and over.
Speaking from experience.
Write Your Story
I just showed my 11-year-old son how many coffee shop AUs there are on AO3.
Why?
He sat down the other day to write a Minecraft story about three kids who go through a portal in their back yard and end up in the world of Minecraft where they have to battle all the big bosses (I didn’t even realize there WERE big bosses in Minecraft but that’s beside the point). He wrote three chapters with a little input from me – his first beta – and y'all?
He was fucking excited. To be writing a story.
Today he came home from school and seemed a little down, so I asked him about it only to find out that some little asshole at his school told him, “There is already a Minecraft story.”
Me: Okay? So what?
Lucifer: If there’s already a story, no one will read mine.
Immediately, I dragged him in and pulled up my AO3 account. My boys know I write fanfiction, so I showed him my account and how many subscribers I have. Then I showed him how many Teen Wolf stories there are. And then, because it seemed like the perfect analogy, I said, “What if I wrote a story where two characters meet in a coffee shop and fall in love? No werewolves, nothing at all to do with the actual Teen Wolf universe. Just Stiles and Derek meet in a coffeeshop and fall in love.”
He laughed.
I showed him Mornings Aren’t For Everyone. Showed him how many hits it had, how many kudos, how many lovely comments.
Then I said, “So do you think, if anyone else wrote a story about those exact same characters meeting in a coffee shop and falling in love… would anyone read it?”
He laughed and said, “No because you already did.”
So I clicked on the Sterek tag and refined to coffee shop AU. His mind was blown to see that they ALL had thousands of hits and kudos and comments. Then I clicked on JUST the coffee shop AU tag and showed him all the fics across all the fandoms written by countless different people.
I’m going to tell you all now what I told him because it applies to everyone.
Write your story. It doesn’t matter that someone else has written a story about that subject. They didn’t write YOUR story. Only you can do that.
And I want to read your story.
Holy crap, this is A+ parenting and such a good lesson.
keep thinking about how I wrote in my dissertation about how every time a new form of public/social space emerges it's immediately popular with kids and teenagers who see it as a chance at freedom and then adults colonise it and kick them out. this happened with malls in the 80s and diners in the 50s and pool halls in the 20s. my dad was doing research on this trend in like 1975. and I was like "yeah so this is going to happen to the internet" and then five years later every government suddenly decided to ban kids from everywhere online. I hate being right especially when I don't even get paid for it
a specific type of suicidism that i haven’t seen anyone talk about yet is that suicidal people are unable to talk about their experiences, unfiltered, in mainstream online spaces. you look up the word “suicide” on any social media and you get a pseudo-nice message about how much the corporation really truly cares about you :(🫶
a few examples:
what this really is (allegedly) is a signal of not being liable should you die. connection, community, etc. for suicidal people doesn’t matter because suicide is a no-no word for corporations. so instead of being able to talk about your experiences as someone who lives with suicidality, you’re either forced to use advertiser-friendly toddlerspeak (e.g. “sewer slide”) costing you your dignity, or you get hotlines shoveled your way - hotlines that can call the police on you if you are too candid about your suicidal experience.
TL;DR: being a suicidal person violates community guidelines.
The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.
I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.
Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!
But let me tell you a story:
I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.
One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.
At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.
I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.
Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.
The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.
And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.
So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.
So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.
By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.
