#internalized

[kiyomitakada]

in some mundane jdramaverse near takes one look at light’s identity issues and goes oh i know this one! all you have to do is suppress kira as much as you can. if that fails you can also make a puppet and pretend he’s possessing it. and light’s like …are you sure that’s the problem…? while mello fights all the way to front to shout DO NOT

[liliesareblooming]

Fans refusing to see Hyuna in "feminine" tropes and as more than just a brash woman is internalized misogyny and colorism

Hyuna has traditionally masculine traits like being loud and outspoken and thus she is deemed as the "man of the relationship" and fans go wild when they see hyuna in a dress, cause she's supposed to be manly, how can she wear a dress? you need to realise a person can express themselves however they want irrespective of their personality, also, the issue with dark skinned characters almost always being loud and brash is so harmful to the self esteem of p.o.c. , this is soft power, eventually everyone starts seeing black/brown people as loud , brash or worse barbarians, this is WILDLY prevalent in webtoons and animes

whatever is in quotes is ideas i dont believe in. There shouldnt be any set feminine traits/tropes and their shouldnt be terms like man of the relationship.

[guiltyidealist]

I just think we should start framing these things in the first person. I am not immune to propaganda. I have implicit biases, in spite of my explicit beliefs, which I need to keep in check.

[rain-rainynights-side]

it's such a paradox isn't it? i crave love yet choose to stay silent

[this-is-islamophobia]

Islamophobia is wanting to wear a hijab, but worrying I'll be attacked.

This is internalized 💜

Hijab is YOUR choice, and YOUR choice only! No one should or can police what you wear. Why is hijab such a big deal for other people? What’s so wrong with wearing fabric over your head? Remember that other religions have similar things to the hijab, such as nuns! It’s a symbol of modesty and femininity 💜

So my sister, it is up to you if you want to or not! Remember that anyone who hurts you for wearing it, will get what they deserve in the hereafter 💜 this is just the dunya!

[mascamaiorum]

In Praise of Shadows

Jun'ichirō Tanizaki

“...our ancestors, forced to live in dark rooms, presently came to discover beauty in shadows, ultimately to guide shadows towards beauty’s ends. [...] And yet, when we gaze into the darkness that gathers behind the crossbeam, around the flower vase, beneath the shelves, though we know perfectly well it is mere shadow, we are overcome with the feeling that in this small corner of the atmosphere there reigns complete and utter silence; that here in the darkness immutable tranquility holds sway. The “mysterious Orient” of which Westerners speak probably refers to the uncanny silence of these dark places. And even we as children would feel an inexpressible chill as we peered into the depths of an alcove to which the sunlight had never penetrated. Where lies the key to this mystery? Ultimately it is the magic of shadows. Were the shadows to be banished from its corners, the alcove would in that instant revert to mere void. This was the genius of our ancestors, that by cutting off the light from this empty space they imparted to the world of shadows that formed there a quality of mystery and depth superior to that of any wall painting or ornament. [...] Were it not for shadows, there would be no beauty. [...] Perhaps it is only a mischievous trick of light and shadow, a thing of a moment only. But even so it is enough. We can ask for nothing more.

[girl4music]

Do I have a “problem” with making every same-sex intimate relationship or deep friendship I observe and engage in in TV art/entertainment romantic? Yes, I do.

However… I don’t see the “problem” in doing that.

Meaning: I don’t see why it’s a “problem” that it can be interpreted as romantic just because it’s intimate and deep. I don’t believe it being interpreted as a romantic relationship changes what that relationship already is.

I think it’s sad that people look at romance in that way to be honest. I especially think it’s even sadder when it’s real life. Like how longtime friends seem to have that perspective when they feel like they’re falling in love with each other. That if they lean into those feelings, it can or will reduce their friendship so there’s this need for it to remain platonic because involving romance would ruin it for them. Ruin their friendship.

Nope. Don’t see it that way. Never have. And I don’t ever think that’s a problem with romance. I think that’s a problem with people that devalue what “romance” is because the examples to draw from are disappointing. Such as what they may see in TV art/entertainment.

As for the “same-sex” aspect to it. It never seems to be a problem that it’s interpreted or read or assumed as a romantic relationship when it’s opposite-sex instead.

So why ever should it ever be if it’s same-sex?

WLW or MLM specifically?

I value platonic relationships too. But the thing is is that if I genuinely believe that it works or looks better as romantic, then I don’t understand why it’s a “problem”that I no longer think or believe of it as platonic because I don’t understand how it suddenly being thought of as romantic negates it being a beautiful, authentic, serious and compelling relationship. In fact I think that it makes it more of all of that, not less than. I think rather the questions that need to be asked when it comes to this is: Does it make sense? Does it feel more authentic? Is the storytelling working better with it being this way? Are the character representation and development arcs for the characters thriving because of it being this way?

If the answer is “yes”, then why is it ever a problem?

This is internalized homo/queerphobia. This is an internalized perspective that even when a same-sex relationship looks or feels right deep down, it still looks or feels wrong on the surface rather than the other way around. This is something you’ve only been taught to see and believe as “wrong” because it’s not opposite-sex. You should look into it because there is nothing wrong with it being gay or queer or with it not being heterosexual. If there is nothing ever wrong for you with romance and love between straight characters, then there is nothing wrong with romance and love between gay or queer characters. Love in general is not wrong.

What’s wrong is that preconceived judgement when it comes to the loving relationships represented in TV art/entertainment between characters cannot be validated as romance just because those characters are same-sex but it’s perfectly fine when they are opposite-sex.

There’s never any “problem” with it being romantic over platonic when it’s a MLF. But not WLW or MLM. Or indeed… anything polyamorous/polygamous. Why?

It’s either fully conscious externalized homophobia and queerphobia or unconscious internalized homophobia and queerphobia. I only have sympathy for the latter.

But my sympathy can only go so far. Sort your shit out.

If you can’t, then don’t bother interacting with me again. You know who you are. This is your only warning. I won’t tolerate any negative vibes when it comes to this because I will just assume you’re being a dick because I can make assumptions too and claim that I am 100% right about what I don’t have enough legitimate information on. I mean I can, but I’ll try not to. I’ll try to give the benefit of the doubt and believe that you’re simply just misinformed or poorly educated.

That’s the difference. Internalized homo/queerphobia isn’t a crime. But it does need to be acknowledged and addressed and I only have time for people who want to do that as opposed to people only using it as a weapon.