#kalosromantic

[prettiest-pride-flag]

Round 1, Match 69 — Pastelrainbowgender vs. Cupioromantic

Which pride flag do you prefer?

Pastelrainbowgender

Cupioromantic

Voting ended onMay 10

PASTELRAINBOWGENDER Definition: Pastelrainbowgender is an aesthetigender under the pastelcolorgender umbrella connected to the pastel color spectrum as a whole, and is connected to the pastel variation of the rainbow. One who is pastelrainbowgender might feel as though their gender is validated, related or though their gender is best described by all or many pastelcolorgenders at once. Flag creator: Manzenk0 (2021) Colour meanings: Unknown

CUPIOROMANTIC Definition: Cupioromantic, previously known as kalosromantic, is a microlabel on the aromantic spectrum. Cupioromantic is defined as someone who does not experience romantic attraction but still desires a romantic relationship. Cupioromantic individuals are typically romance favorable but they do not have to be. Cupioromantic may also be used by those who sometimes feel romantic attraction but still desire a romantic relationship even without attraction; for example, a demiromantic individual who dates someone before they feel attraction to them, possibly on the assumption that they will develop romantic attraction later on. Another example could be someone who is frayromantic who dates someone after they lose their romantic attraction. Flag creator: Mothfree (2021) Colour meanings: The darker pink = love, the lighter pink = lack of attraction, the white = relationships, the lighter green = romanticism, and the darker green = romance.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Cupiofray Pride Flag

Cupiofray: being cupio- in a fray- way (or being fray- in a cupio- way), or experiencing a mix of the two, or being in the midway between both fray and cupio.

For example, desiring certain forms of relationship while not feeling attraction, then they feel attraction but loose it after an emotional or deep connection with a person; desiring a specific form of relationship even when they are not attracted anymore in the attraction associated with the type of relationship.

It includes mesi/grey areas, depending on the perspectives it could be allospec, aspec, pomospec, quoispec, etc. or simply cupiospec.

[cubeflag]

Kalosromantic flag

(Desiring a sexual/romantic/etc relationship but not feeling sexual/romantic/etc attraction towards anyone in particular.)

[a-romantic--aromantic]

June aro carnvial draft

**To Be A Cupio Aro, Without Amatonormativity**

Being able to desire a relationship and express wanting one without comments on how to get one. Being able to laugh with friends and talk about how id love to date them and how wonderful they are and incredible and boosting their self confidence without ever making them uncomfortable because. theyre aro. and without amatonormativity theyd be less uncomfortable. because even if my desire is real, the expectation for something to come of it would be gone.

I could talk about wanting romantic relationships and no one would ever need the details of abuse or failed relationships to understand that i dont intend on actually entering one. understanding that i want to feel romantic attraction not because something is missing but because its an experience i could try, because then id have a basis for what isnt quite romantic feelings, in and of myself.

with my cupio identity i could desire these relationships and instead of being called a "romantic" or being told i just havent found the right one, i'd be called a dreamer. itd be imagining a fantasy scenario for myself, no different than imagining what it would be like to shapeshift into a giant dragon. and it clearly wouldnt be based in reality and a missing need.

people could joke that my head is up in the clouds or that im always looking for the next person to be attracted to, but the joke is that its based in nothingness, just wishful thinking. me looking for someone is out of boredom and comfort, not out of demands for me to find a life partner, not out of conformity, but out of my own enjoyment.

any interactions with romo are understood to be temporary and enjoyable, but never meant to be finding a permanent partner. its enjoying every second of being alive the way i want to and not the way im expected to be, or as an act of rebellion from my aro identity.

my being aro is accepted as enough even if im doing all of this, because with amatonormativity gone, theres no reason for me to be acting to fill any role, alloro or aro. i can just do what i'd like without it being some big active protest of stereotypes

[twixtandshout]

(here there be monsters)

Is it possible to yearn for lands unmet?

Empty maps smoke in my lungs, coat my ribs, scratch my throat,

Arms curling like parchment round nothing at all.

Oh, I'm a country myself, a ground worth exploring, but –

(but, but)

The heart has a wanderlust unsatisfied by this cage,

and even absent winters, I can't help but wonder what's beyond.

[aro-aceplace]

Aspec ABC’s C is for...

Caedromantic / Caedsexual: Aromanticism/Asexuality influenced by past trauma. For trauma survivors / PTSD only.

Cupiosexual / Cupioromantic (Alternative Labels: kalosromantic / kalossexual ) : Aromantic/Asexual but still desiring a relationship

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Crush: A crush based on romantic attraction. Also known as limerence.

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Apothicupioromantic/Cupioapothiromantic

Apothiromantic: a romance-repulsed aromantic identity.

Cupio-/Kalos-: not feeling attraction and still desiring a relationship.

Repulsromantic: An orientation characterized by repulsion to romance.

- Ap

[aro-aceplace]

Aspec ABC’s K is for...

Kalosromantic / Kalossexual (Alternative Label Cupioromantic / Cupiosexual): An orientation described by the desire for a romantic/sexual relationship despite the individual not experiencing romantic/sexual attraction.