#mascphobia

[tiny-steps-forward]

btw- when you only post about trans women- we (transmascs and trans men) notice.

we notice when all the posts you reblog only talk about protecting trans women. we notice that all the positivity posts only mention trans women. we notice that every time you talk about hating terfs, you only mention that you love trans women instead.

we notice, and honestly. it feels like shit. please. try to include us. thats all we want.

[souldisgrate]

"Hatred of masculinity within queer spaces puts transfems and trans women in danger by the way!"

Oh wow.

Are you sure buddy?

Are you sure that they're the only ones who are getting hurt and being in danger?

Seems like you forgot someone really REALLY important like... trans men? Trans mascs? Masc nonbinary people?

Ah no of course I'm joking, transfems and trans women are the only one :]

[knightfaetality]

The takes from older white butch/femmes about “these young femmes are corrupting butch/femme by wanting to be trophy wives while their butch does everything for them” need to actually shut the fuck up.

Firstly, yall are already in a couple, you’re not personally affected by the potential dating pool. Your hostility towards younger femmes for not behaving as “femmes should” is femphobic and sexist and an issue with control. Check yourselves.

Secondly, you aren’t entitled to femmes and their preferences. If their relationship dynamic preferences are to be domestic wives, then how the fuck does that impact every single butch alive? NOBODY has access to control a femme’s preferences, and to believe so is FEMPHOBIC.

You don’t have to match with anyone if you’re incompatible, so what is the goddamn issue? As long as everyone is communicating and clear about their preferences, these femmes will find a butch compatible with their dynamic and you won’t ever have to worry about it.

Thirdly, you do not get to homogeneously define what the butch/femme dynamic is. There has been and there shall always be a variety of butch/femme couples. I do not give a fuck if it annoys you, being annoying is not a legitimate harm.

Fourthly, “go find a masc”? What the fuck is wrong with you? If you believe a specific behaviour is harmful, then offloading it to another group of human beings, is absolutely fucked up mascphobic behaviour. You do not give a shit about protecting your fellow queers while you posture as well-meaning queer elders, and that is damn insufferable.

Lastly, for the same couple who fucking said that butch/femme culture were “traditionally white”, white-washing Butch/femme history, supported anti-butch4butch content, and then ironically telling others to “do their homework”: You sound hypocritical and pretentious as hell.

You didn’t do your homework, you ran with whatever the fuck you liked, which I think every butch and femme is entitled to (not the racist whitewashing erasure part but the preferences in relationship dynamics part). The difference is that you are asserting preferences as a universal law, and that is anti-queer behaviour.

Get the fuck over yourselves.

[the-donald-trump]

"t4t is transfem only"

"transmascs cant talk about passing"

"transmascs are invading trans spaces"*

next thing you know the tirfs are gonna say transmascs aren't even allowed to call themselves trans! dont fall for it! the goal posts of 'appropriate' transmasc behavior in the eyes of tirfs have not stopped moving and will not stop until they are dead or detransitioned. we are all trans, that's enough.

*all real takes i have seen from tirfs

[knightfaetality]

Essays on Intersectional Trans/Masculinity & MoC

Harming Intersectional Masculine of Center (MOC)

Allinity, Extrallinity and Allexity

ICE Victims 2025-2026

Chinese Orientalism and the Appropriation of chivalry and noble gentlemanly virtue. (This gets a lot deeper to why the Anglosphere, European and Japanese Bushido/Warrior chivalry is so gendered and classist, but I refuse to enlighten colonial appropriators further. I’m gatekeeping the integrity of these virtues to their Chinese roots from now on.)

Intersectional Moc & Dysphoria

Femboys, Ladyboys, Fetishising Asian Culture & Whitewashing.

“Passing” & Bathroom Safety

Territorial Victimhood in Online Discourse

Butchfemme & Measure of Gender

Intersectional Feminism, Misandry & Anti-War

Misandry and Intersectionality Logic

Misandry & Colonisation

[Rant]My Transandrophobia & Sinomisandry MoC Experience

[Rant]“Soft Masc” and Sinomisandry

[Repost] this-is-anti-masculinity Introduction

[knightfaetality]

Just wanted to say thanks for giving a fuck and being an ally to the virago community. The hate we’ve been receiving has been fucking exhausting and soulsucking. So many assumptions are being made about us left and right and it feels like people have already made up their mind about us before even getting to know us at all. Like that our gender nonconformity or identity as a whole must be surface level or trivial or nonconsequential or even malicious. we’re just a hypothetical concept to them, not real people. And I get the feeling that a lot of the antis just go into this already with the presupposition that we’re just ‘whiny straight women who want to be oppressed so bad ‘ and that surely there couldn’t possibly be anything fundamentally different about our gender and orientation experience from other heterosexual people that we might want to have language for so we can talk about it finally (not to mention not all of us are straight anyway, some are bi.) The assumption that us being heterosexual just automatically means we’re granted the same social privilege as cishetnorm people, totally disregarding that we’re also gnc, and that we couldn’t possibly face any sort of discrimination or isolation or violence is just so confidently wrong. They haven’t seen the mountain of anon messages in our community of people thanking posters profusely for showing them they aren’t the only one in the world like them and there isn’t something wrong with them, who tell the exact same life story, where they spent their whole life being treated like a monster and a freak of nature and horrific stories of lifelong bullying and abuse just for the intersection of their gender nonconformity with their attraction to men. i say intersection because the combination of the two is a totally different experience than just being one or the other and i feel like people are missing that. The hetnorm straight people tell us we don’t belong with them and the queer community tells us we don’t belong with them… so before our community the only other option was to disappear. we’re too rare to know anyone else like us irl and finding each other online was like this insane miracle, and also a super new thing. The humble luxury and joy of having someone else to relate to and understand you was something most of us were experiencing for the first time ever. It has been fucking devastating to not be able to do anything but watch as that has all fallen apart at the seams and burned and crumbled before our eyes after we became the Latest Controversial Topic on tumblr. The people who think we’re “just straight who want a special label” don’t get it. We spend our whole lives feeling like and being treated like frankensteins monster and then we FINALLY find others like ourselves and build a precious space where we’re safe to exist and then one day people take one look at us and decide we’re evil and need to be chased out of even that space too with fire and pitchforks. And idk we’re used to that kind of reaction from heteronormative ppl but to have OTHER queer people belittling us and mocking us and sending us threats and doxing people is just so bleak and hopeless feeling. And it feels like we can’t even defend ourselves publicly because we’re outnumbered and it will only stoke the fire. So I guess what im saying is thanks for being a voice for us right now. dealing with the hate feels a bit easier when you know there’s at least one person who cares to call it out and make an actual effort to understand us

I hear you and I’m so sorry that the virago community has been going through a shitstorm of trolls, exclusionists, separatists, and bigots. Especially when there’s been so much harassment from cisheterosexual people against virago individuals already, to have queer peoples who are expected to be safe spaces for non-conformity—attack you like this…I absolutely understand the heartbreak.

It is beautiful that all of you have built this community and have resilience in one another. Never lose that. And I hope more allies show up for your community too! I know I will keep defending you beautiful folks.

From what I’ve seen, many of these critics have nothing of value to justify their hateful attacks against the virago community.

And on a side note, I believe other viragos have also brought up that calling themselves a “bi butch” had incurred so much violence and backlash online and offline, that they’ve called themselves ‘virago’ to specifically curtail this reaction.

This leads me to suspect a part of this does come from femphobia, bimisogyny, biphobia, misogyny, mascphobia and butchphobia (and other bigotries involving discrimination against GNC folks).

Such that there’s a desire to own and be entitled to the autonomous gender expressions and sexuality of another. Where it commodifies masculinity or femininity in a person for the benefit of oneself. And this leads to discrimination when say, a masculine woman is not entirely “reserved” for a specific population, but has a preference for others.

It seems to also echo the same anti-masculinity, mascphobia and butchphobia, when non-butches and non-mascs disparage butch4butch or masc4masc.

It echoes femphobia, when non-fem/mes disparage fem/mes and even butches for not presenting ‘feminine’ and ‘masculine’ in the way the viewer wants. The crime apparently, is having any autonomy at all in deciding for yourself, who you are.

It is echoes how when any person has a preference that excludes a group on a non-discriminatory basis—some entitled fuckhead will crop up to bully them.

And as always, some queer separatists keep searching for a new marginalised group to pin “proximity to cisheteronormativity” on, and to disparage. It’s selfish and pathetic bullying for their own egos and for THEM to feel secure in their queerness (which says a lot about their relationship to queerness actually).

It is reheated nachos again and again, always finding a new group to hate. What sucks further is that they never bother to hold a conversation with the peoples who identify as such, center their voices, and humanise them.

This is not the virago community’s fault. Please stay safe and well all of you! And please take breaks as well. This can be so exhausting to go through and you should all know what these folks say is never a true reflection of your right to belong in the queer community.

[the-donald-trump]

desc in alt id

[the-donald-trump]

"gender is whats in your pants" *pulls a paper out of my pants that just says TME*