People who say "Society loves tomboys! Society has no problem with women embracing masculinity!" have never spoken to an (ex-)tomboy about what people started saying to them at puberty.
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People who say "Society loves tomboys! Society has no problem with women embracing masculinity!" have never spoken to an (ex-)tomboy about what people started saying to them at puberty.
To be entirely honest, I do not think the discomfort some people feel being around masculine presenting butches, transmascs, and trans men is purely a lingering trauma from cis men that they cannot help. While I think it certainly can be, or can contribute- I believe this line of thinking often functions as an excuse to refuse examining that what many are actually uncomfortable with here is gender nonconformity.
^This is butchphobia and exorsexism btw. Genderqueer lesboys have been a part of the community for far longer than any of these folks have been alive and if you don’t like it YOU’RE the problem, full stop.
“masculinity (rather than gender conformity) is universally rewarded for everyone in general including women (and people perceived as women)” okay great. now please point me in the direction of this huge majority of successful rich famous unabashedly hairy hypermasculine butch women that should surely exist in the mainstream public eye if this is the case.
Very very obnoxious to me when a transandrophobe says “trans men have it better because they’re just seen as butches” in what universe are butches treated well???
if you believe that masculine women, not even trans men and transmascs, MASCULINE/BUTCH WOMEN, arent oppressed based on their gender nonconformity and are in fact privileged for it, youre a transphobic, misogynistic, lesphobic butchphobic idiot. youre so many phobics. and i better not see any fems reblogging this with some dumb shit about "butch privilege," talk to butches and transmascs and trans men and masculine people expected to perform femininity and hear how many of us have been victimized, ESPECIALLY by yall specifically
The whole point of the intracommunity bullshit with the Epstein trans email is thus follows
Jeffery Epstein apparently paid a guy named Robert Trivers to ‘study’ trans people, which just had Trivers stroking his dick to a fetishized stereotype of trans women and calling trans men dickless freaks. That’s it. Trafficking to or from Jeffery Epstein isn’t mentioned in the email. Trafficking wasn’t mentioned, but an outdated stereotype of trans women doing sex work (survival sex really) to pay for hormone injections was
People were naturally disturbed by the contents, but some people took this email to a pedophile as a victory lap for why trans men are lying about issues like rape, trafficking and survival sex and are actually jealous that trans women get raped - taking real life trans women victims of rape, trafficking and survival sex, acting like that’s gender affirmation for them and indulging in rape culture against trans men. These are people who call themselves transfeminists btw
Also, where did the notion that trans men or butches aren’t sexually fetishized come from? The prevalence of feminizing tomboy tropes, dykebreaking kinks, detransition chasers, THE ENTIRE OMEGAVERSE GENRE?? These things exist and go entirely unexamined and unchallenged, because that would involve taking trans men, butches, etc as a serious subject of inquiry
Maybe seriously comparing and contrasting the ways rape culture affects trans women, trans men and everyone in between, we wouldn’t have to put up with such intracommunity bullshit
i feel sick.
[ID starts: A post by frierenburger, saying "You can't be butch. it's just not possible" followed up by a reblog from the same user saying "I don't care if it's "part of lesbian culture" the shock collar is not coming off until you're in a dress with your nails painted." ID ends.]
(Note: Checked the account to make sure this wasn't an untagged kink/fetish post taken out of context. It's genuine, the user even followed up with "reasons" of why it's "misogynystic" to present masc.
Don't harass this user, just block.)
This is anti-masculinity, butchphobia, and misogyny. Masculinity is not a negative trait. Masculinity is not inherently toxic. Desiring to be masculine does not automatically mean you hate people who are non-masc.
Not to mention that it's misogynystic. This sounds like a tradwife narrative of "girls have to be feminine or else they're failures!!!" which just reeks of not believing in women's autonomy.