#mod jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

pt2 also, do i have to come out?? i dont EVER EVER EVER want to come out to ANYONE in my family and i only want to come out to maybe one cis friend and only other trans people. lastly, is it odd i don't really like calling myself trans?? im more comfortable saying ya im a girl even though i dont usually feel like a girl??? please help im so anxious rn

You do seem to have dysphoria with your chest.

As for coming out - you NEVER, NEVER, NEVER have to come out. Ever. To anyone.

That decision is solely up to you. No one else. Even if they try to make you, you don’t have to disclose it at all.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

How would you use the pronoun ey? Is it ey is or ey are?

As I’ve seen it, “ey is.” But you should ask around just in case.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

Is there a way to have both a penis and a vagina? I've wanted a penis since I was about three, but I'd like to keep my vagina as well. Also would I be required to go on testosterone before surgery? I'd like to remain fertile (so no t). Thanks!

Eeehhh, this is a hard one.

When they typically fashion a penis (by the way, the plastic surgery for a penis is usually absolutely awful as I’ve seen it), they take a large piece of skin from a sensitive area of your body - armpit or below it, usually - and then roll it and stick it on, using a fallopian tube as an extended urethra. Sometimes small tube-shaped machinery are put into it instead.

Going on testosterone before surgery I don’t know about.

The only thing I can tell you, anon, is a packer. There are ones that can function so you can urinate out of them. My fiance uses one and he did have to adjust, but it works apparently. If you go on T, and wish to have a child, you have to go back OFF of it for about six months to a year before you’ve restored your fertility, and even then it’s iffy.

You’re in a pretty tight spot there anon. I can’t say I don’t feel the same way sometimes, however.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

Sometimes I dress more feminine and sometimes I dress more masculine and I ID as nb... Does that make me that one thing that starts with an a and has an x in it? I can't remember the name.

Androgynous? Perhaps.

You can be nonbinary and present differently from your identity. Gender expression =/= gender identity.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

hi, i have a mysterious gender and ive been trying to identify it forever now but i always turn away from the labels and like i know what my genders like but i havent found a word for it? and i guess i dont need a name for it but i feel like i want 1

Gendercryptic is a good word.

Here, check out this list I use all the time. You may be able to find something good.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

hi! if my gender fluctuates between being a boy & being genderless/agender, am i genderflux or genderfluid? thanks!

Genderflux, I’d say!

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

I'm nonbinary and I have a preferred name that's different from my birth name, but my parents really don't like that i'm trans. They don't Stop me from doing what i need to do, but they make sure that i know that they don't approve. I'm about to start applying for jobs and the apps usually have a spot for preferred name, but I've got this awful anxiety about it, I feel like I'm doing something bad/wrong by writing in my preferred name. I don't know what to do. can u offer any advice???

My advice: Put in your preferred name.

Your employer/interviewer should make note that your preferred name is different, and you request that name used instead of your birth-given name.

If you can, see into the handbook and protections the business covers. Most disallow any trans discrimination, and if you catch people being very exclusive about which name you use, you can take it up with management. The odds of them acting on it I can’t be sure about.

But you wanna know a business that’s awesome with given names? Starbucks. Trust me. Starbucks is LGBT job heaven.

~ Jensen

[nonbinaryresource]

I've been feeling less like a female and I've never felt male before for over a month now, and I tried coming out to my mom but she yelled at me for it. My English teacher is accepting and is perfectly okay with it, but when she talked to my mom about it, my mom got very mad at her too. I am contemplating calling CPS because of this as well as an abusive father, but I need advice. Should I call them, or just force myself to be a cis female like my parents want me to? (I'm graygender)

Don’t ever force yourself to be something you are not. It rarely, if ever, ends well.

Your self expression is ALWAYS more important than someone else’s comfort. In this case, you being graygender and comfortable with yourself is far more important than them thinking it’s wrong. You don’t have to conform to their rules, just because you live under their roof.

My only warning is that CPS can only do so much. And if they do intervene, you may either end up in a dozen different foster homes, or with a family member. And in that time, you never know what others may think and the situations you may be in.

So if you’re extremely young - under 12 I’d say - consider alternatives.

Also, just as a disclaimer - none of us are professionals, and cannot give life advice. We can TRY to help, but we’re not going to guarantee everything will work out for the best.

~ Jensen