Hello! I just wanted to thank Jo for the sweet reply! :) I (already) tried the advice you gave other than going to wlw-events (sadly enough we don't seem to have those in my city) but I still can't figure it out:/ I'm also stellunarian and so my enby experience makes me feel a slight disconnect from the stories of others, and because of my mental illness I struggle as well. I know I just need time but patience is hard so sometimes it's frustrating haha (1/2 ice)
I guess I should just wait and hope for the best but that’s something I’m not good at… I also have difficulty distinguishing comphet from actual attraction and since I’m also questioning aro/ace I feel lost… I’m sorry if this is too rambly haha I just can’t find myself relating to my queer friends as much which makes it tough for me to open up to them:/ thank you for listening though! (2/2 ice) ———Hi, no need to thank me, really! I feel you, I really do, I’m stellunarian and have mental illnesses as well. Those only make things more difficult to figure out. Giving it time and trying to be patient is very important here, but I know it’s far from easy. A trick might be to actually go and use different labels you think might fit you. Chances are there that you’re gonna feel a bit uncomfortable or start questioning and doubting anyway, but try to sit down, write those doubts down, and analyse them. Also, with all the experiences I have made so far, be it from myself or with/from other people, if you even are questioning whether you’re hetero or not, or ace or not, chances are very high you aren’t. All the hetero people I asked, told me they didn’t question it. They’re sure of it. Same goes with allo folks. (I hope you understand what I’m trying to say. xD)Distinguishing comphet from actual attraction is difficult, and I’m afraid there’s no advice I can share on that, I’m still struggling with that myself. :’DAnother thought I just had, maybe check out some Queer discord chats? There you could get advice from many different people, find others in similar situation like yours. @fuckyeahasexual has a really nice discord server, ace focused, but it has general group chats. I’m afraid I don’t know of any other queer discord servers, so that’s all I can help with on that. You are always welcome to ramble, just letting off steam can help a lot sometimes! Wish you all the best, you got this. ❤-Mod Jo
