#mod kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I've heard of akoiromantic being explained as having romantic feelings stop once youre in a relationship. If that helps the other non

That is another valid meaning for akoiromantic. We've come to understand akoiromantic is an incredibly broad label that affects everyone just a bit differently (then again most labels do anyhow).

But thank you for the input! :)

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

Is there a term for where I feel on the spectrum? I feel like I'm akoiromantic but also kalosromantic - like I want a romantic relationship but as soon as I'm in one, any feelings I have fade and I feel trapped and uncomfortable even if I like the person and they've done nothing wrong?

Normally we would have an answer for this Nonnie, but unfortunately you caught the mod who is experiencing the exact same dilemma. It's a weird place to sit on the spectrum and I completely understand where you're coming from 100%. I'm even looking for a better fitting label myself. When I find one I'll be sure to post it up for you.

I'd like to open this up to the community, if they have any ideas for a better fitting label would they please share it?

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

Since we have gotten so many asks asking about labels I've added a link on the side of the blog that links to a page with all the labels I could find. If there were any I forgot feel free to point them out.

[aromanticfacts]

Is there a word for "I don't experience romantic attraction but I'd like to be in a romantic relationship"?

The word you're looking for I believe is Kalosromantic which is defined as "Desiring a romantic relationship but never feeling romantic attraction towards anyone."

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I'm not sure if I'm aromantic. I might be demi-romantic. However, there are some girls that I do like. However, I don't like how the very idea of showing a great deal of appreciation for their existence can (at times) come off as if I'm trying to establish a relationship.

One thing to remember is that just like with every single identity there is a spectrum. Even with aromanticism too. There's a spectrum with how aromantic you are, how you show how aromantic you are, and how willing you are to push your boundaries for someone. So for you, you might be comfortable liking someone if they are right for you, but not be willing to be classically romantic with them. Just find what works for you and what makes you most comfortable and remember to be honest with yourself and those around you.

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I like to read cute romantic stuff in fanfic or books and I can appreciate it in other people but I have no personal interest in it for myself and have no need or want to be romantically involved and I'm not emotionally available. Is that still aro?

That is still aro indeed. Usually other aromatics agree that is liking the aesthetic of romance while not liking the physical. It's like not liking cake at all but appreciating the decorative frosting on one when you pass by a bakery window. 

Though the main way to decide if it is aro is if you identify as aro while experiencing those feelings. If it fits then go forth and conquer. If it doesn't then reflect inward and figure out why aromantic doesn't fit it right in your mind.

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I'm sorry if I'm bothering but where is the submission box?

Not a bother! I just fixed the coding so you should be able to find the submit box now on the left hand side of our page! You can also always go straight to the page itself at this address --> x

[aromanticfacts]

I read the last message you answered and I have to say I'm actually about the opposite! I absolutely despise all the chocolates and flowers, and grandstanding gestures of romance. Though I don't mind the act of falling in love with, I just don't do it very often. Is this alright too?

Anything short of being disrespectful of/killing people is okay. Romantic actions aren't for everyone. Don't ever feel pressured to enjoy them just because you're still chill with falling in love. 

And if anyone tells you that you have to like romance just put on a pair of sunglasses, flip them off with both hands, and moonwalk the hell out of there.

- Mod Kairius