#label confusion

[aromanticfacts]

For the fiction anon; I believe the term is fictoromantic

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[aromanticfacts]

If I'm 13 years old and have never experienced romantic attraction to anyone but have experienced platonic crushes (kinda when you really want to be friends with a person) and sexual feelings towards girls and boys and non binary genders. Do you think it's possible that I'm aromantic? I've lately been suspecting this.

That sounds like aromantic pansexual. However, it could also be platoniromantic, depending on which you feel more comfortable with. owo But yes, that is an aromantic thing!

- Mod Lenn

[aromanticfacts]

I want to identify as aromantic, since I don't think I've ever been romantically attracted to anyone in real life, but I every once in a while get romantic crushes on fictional characters. Can I still be aro?

Yep! That still falls into the aromantic umbrella.

I’ve seen a term for that somewhere, but I can’t remember what it was or where I saw it. Does anyone know?

- Mod Lenn

[aromanticfacts]

I've heard of akoiromantic being explained as having romantic feelings stop once youre in a relationship. If that helps the other non

That is another valid meaning for akoiromantic. We've come to understand akoiromantic is an incredibly broad label that affects everyone just a bit differently (then again most labels do anyhow).

But thank you for the input! :)

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

Is there a term for where I feel on the spectrum? I feel like I'm akoiromantic but also kalosromantic - like I want a romantic relationship but as soon as I'm in one, any feelings I have fade and I feel trapped and uncomfortable even if I like the person and they've done nothing wrong?

Normally we would have an answer for this Nonnie, but unfortunately you caught the mod who is experiencing the exact same dilemma. It's a weird place to sit on the spectrum and I completely understand where you're coming from 100%. I'm even looking for a better fitting label myself. When I find one I'll be sure to post it up for you.

I'd like to open this up to the community, if they have any ideas for a better fitting label would they please share it?

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I'm not sure if I'm aromantic. I might be demi-romantic. However, there are some girls that I do like. However, I don't like how the very idea of showing a great deal of appreciation for their existence can (at times) come off as if I'm trying to establish a relationship.

One thing to remember is that just like with every single identity there is a spectrum. Even with aromanticism too. There's a spectrum with how aromantic you are, how you show how aromantic you are, and how willing you are to push your boundaries for someone. So for you, you might be comfortable liking someone if they are right for you, but not be willing to be classically romantic with them. Just find what works for you and what makes you most comfortable and remember to be honest with yourself and those around you.

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I like to read cute romantic stuff in fanfic or books and I can appreciate it in other people but I have no personal interest in it for myself and have no need or want to be romantically involved and I'm not emotionally available. Is that still aro?

That is still aro indeed. Usually other aromatics agree that is liking the aesthetic of romance while not liking the physical. It's like not liking cake at all but appreciating the decorative frosting on one when you pass by a bakery window. 

Though the main way to decide if it is aro is if you identify as aro while experiencing those feelings. If it fits then go forth and conquer. If it doesn't then reflect inward and figure out why aromantic doesn't fit it right in your mind.

- Mod Kairius

[aromanticfacts]

I'm really not sure what the term for what I am is. I've had crushes in the past but the moment they reciprocate I lose interest. Like something clicks and I realize I'm kidding myself. This happens with both genders and I've really only had two or three huge crushes. I tell my friends I'm bisexual but it really doesn't feel right saying it. I haven't had a crush in about two years and I really have no desire to date but sex isn't a problem for me at all. I feel like I'm stuck. Ideas?

That sounds quite a bit like what both of us mods are. The term is is called akoiromantic, however in the past it was referred to as lithromantic. It's where you still experience attraction but any reciprocation is undesired and can even cancel out the attraction. 

Seeing as you find attraction to males and females and have no negative feelings toward sexual activity I would say the label you might like to use is akoiromantic bisexual. 

- Mod Kairius