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I hate how neurodivergent has been watered down to "just adhd and autism".......

The community MADE to be inclusive of ALL atypical brain functions.... Has turned exclusive/gatekeeping at worst and watered down to 2 single conditions at best...

I'll see people call an experience neurodivergent when it's exclusively an autism experience.... And when I point out that ND isn't just adhd and autism, I get told it's "not a big deal" and "who said it wasn't???? huhhh????"

Like.... gods FORBIDDDDD a neurodivergent who's more than AuDHD.... DARE talks about feeling excluded from their OWN community!!!

For reference, aside from adhd and autism, i have many personality disorders and am schizospec..... I've tried talking about my schizo and pd experiences before in a post and got people in my inbox telling me to "stop clogging the neurodivergent tags when I'm not neurodivergent" and i just deleted all the posts I made cause I couldn't handle the harassment and it gave me a really bad panic attack.....

Also... by "clogging"... I made like 3 posts at most. Which were me talking about my distress of people not tagging horror elements and the horror elements triggered my psychosis and paranoia....

This is ableism which is most likely perpetuated by rigid thinking from certain neurodivergencies.

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i think every single disabled person should be able to get more wrathful this month if they want to. y'know, as a treat

This is silly solidarity! Disabled people get to bite, kick, or punch 1 ableist this month.

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Solidarity experience! I want to be a nun, my faith has always been very important to me, but nuns are a bit strict, and I’m a picky eater. When I went on a one week visit to a monastery I was worried they’d be mad at me for my picky eating, everyone is mad at me for that. My picky eating doesn’t really follow rules I guess, just this arbitrary “badness” about certain foods and I can rarely if ever overcome and eat it, I don’t know if it’s my autism or ocd that causes the picky eating. My family and friends have always treated it like a burden and something I need to grow out of. So I thought the nuns would be the same, why should I expect different? During my stay one of the sisters who was in charge of plating my food (I ate up in my room for most meals) she asked me if I disliked anything I was given. I decided to tell the truth, I told her I don’t like corn but I will eat it (and by eat it I mean choke it down) she responded by immediately telling me I won’t see it on my plate again. This surprised me. Why did she care if I liked the food or not? I said I’d eat it. She then asked if there was anything else I didn’t like and so I told her that I’m not a fan of chicken with the bones in or fish, and she just accepted that. And I never saw those things on my plate for the remainder of my stay. I know it’s small, but it meant so much to me that for the first time, my food preferences were respected and not treated as a burden or an insult.

another experience with these nuns.

I was on call with my VD (vocations directress, she is in charge of determining if it be okay if I enter the community) she knows I have ADHD and anxiety (the autism and ocd are not diagnosed but I am in the process of that) and she asked me how my ADHD effects me, so that she can help if need be. This shocked me, no one has asked me that before, I almost cried because of how nice she was being. I explained to her what executive dysfunction is and instead of judgment or being told I was lazy she said “that makes sense” and she has asked how she can help with my anxiety, again something I’ve never been asked about. I’m always given unsolicited advice or asked what I do to help it, but Ive never been offered support before. I’m just happy and shocked that the first support I’m getting are coming from the people I thought would be stricter on me. My desire to be a nun has grown because of these lovely ladies and I’m excited to see where it goes

This is solidarity! I hope that you are able to enter the community and follow your faith, anon!

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my 9 year old sister says I'm not disabled and mocks me in a baby talk voice whenever I try to talk about it. she also has gotten violent over me saying i don't identify as human and has said I'd like my deadname when I'm older and would go back to using it. she says i fake my chronic pain to get out of doing things and that i caused it. she's also called me a narcissist as an insult

What the actual fuck.

@this-is-alterhumisia as well as ableism. @this-is-saneism for the accusations of narcissism. I’m so sorry, anon. I hope that your sister receives the help she needs to not be so insulting, disrespectful, and bigoted towards you.

Addition from Mod Lucien: this is also transphobia due to her saying you'll "like your deadname when you're older".

Addition from Matty: She is nine so I believe this was learned behavior from an outside source, having a discussion with her may be difficult, but if you can find out why she's being so discriminatory in so many ways (hopefully without having to talk to her) that might help. - I say check her youtube feed when/if you can, my guess is this may be caused by a pipeline/rabbithole she went down. - not meant to sound like I'm excusing her behavior by the way! I think this behavior is abhorrent

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ableism is how even my considerably “woke” (for lack of a better word” my friend group is, most of them still believe people with NPD are inherently evil

Narcissistic personality DISORDER. It’s in the name, people, this is a DISORDER! A mental illness! That changes your personality outside of your control! This is ableism and it pisses me off!

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This Is ableism autism isn't contagious and not a problem to be solved. The comments back to this post Is right stupidly is the problem here

Image ID: A Quora post with the question “My son hangs out with an autistic kid sometimes and I don’t want him to start taking after him and becoming autistic. How can I nip this problem in the bud?”

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This is ableism!

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"If I had tourettes my tics wouldn't be insults or slur because I'm a good fucking person"

(post I have seen on Twitter)

Are you? are you a good fucking person?

This is ableist. People with Tourette's or other tic disorders don't get to choose what their tics are.

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I don't know if this is allowed, but I have a question about the "making a villain character disabled" ask. Is it harmful to simply have a villain character be disabled? Or does the disability have to be a part of what makes them villainous? I'm genuinely curious and have no ill intent in asking this and really do apologize if follow up questions om asks aren't allowed.

Don't worry about it! Clarification is always welcome - even us mods have to ask for clarification.

The blog @cripplecharacters has a great series of posts/asks on writing disabled villains. You can find that here. I think that's a better resource to point to than trying to reiterate a lot of points over and over again which could be explained by scrolling through these asks.