#nb stuff

[xenovirart]

i need their fit so bad...

[vespertilii]

My pronouns are don't talk about me in third person while I'm within earshot, that's rude / when I'm not within earshot idgaf how you refer to me

[aleatoryw]

my theory on why “agender clothing lines” are always so dull and shapeless is that it’s the same logic that makes people very judgey towards nonbinary people with prominent secondary sex characteristics, like breasts or facial hair. those things are gendered by society, so for a true ~neutral~ look, they must be hidden away. similarly, anything that can be considered masculine or feminine style - too much jewelry or makeup, anything with a fitted waistline, anything too tailored or boxy, skirts/dresses, buttoned shirts, even colors themselves - must be stripped away, leaving only neutral colors and items that are already considered unisex, like a hoodie.

this is nonsense. obviously. but clothing manufacturers still seem to think that what people want when they talk about “agender” clothing is something so bland it cannot be gendered. fully androgynous, just like the hypothetical nonbinary person with no secondary sex characteristics or defining features at all. what i want, personally, is more ‘masculine’ items that will fit over my boobs. i would like one (1) button up shirt that fits. i know plenty of amab trans or nonbinary people have mentioned that they want ‘feminine’ items that aren’t so short. and a lot of nb people love loud stupid patterns! we gotta impress upon the cis that nonbinary isn’t a third gender category defined by shapelessness and neutral colors, it’s an umbrella of different genders, and cannot be defined at all. and also that we love an outfit made entirely of statement pieces so the above stops happening.

[roboticutie]

Just felt like reuploading this again

[watcher0033]

They just keep give hot takes after valid takes. This guy, I swear-

All true. And to add to that- misgendering or mislabelling some people's races is bound to happen or understandable sometimes. It's a diverse and broad crowd out there. You'll never really know.

So, it will happen. And it's ok. Well, not really but u get it- The important thing to remember is when we're being corrected or informed, we keep in the knee-jerk reaction(to those who have it) of attacking that person or feeling so guilty or constantly apologizing about how much you were wrong that the conversation/interaction losses sight of what is being addressed in the first place and the person who was actually wronged.

True. Apologizing is good and all but don't make it all about you. And don't be such a white knight either that the person or idea you're defending is being silenced.

We've all created platforms that makes us act and feel louder than everyone else in the room. And everyone else feels the same way back. But if you heard voices being actively silenced by others and you want to help- then help. But don't make your voice louder than what was actually being said.

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[variousqueerthings]

cis men talking about how trans men posting about all kinds of body types, flat chests, big chests, bottom growth, phalloplasty, has helped them embrace the bodies that they’ve felt insecure about

trans women twirling in their dresses and being butch and having all kinds of sized breasts, giving cis women an opportunity to revel in the parts of their own selves that they feel connected to

understanding pleasure, not being afraid of bodies and what they can do 

top surgery scars redefining ideas about shame at “non-perfect” gender presentations and “ugliness,” because if scars are beautiful, they’re beautiful, and they shouldn’t be hidden away, and they say as much or as little about your gender as you want them to

body hair or lack of body hair, tall or short, shoulder width, size of your hands and feet, open and proud body non-conformity, the opportunity to revel in all the kinds of bodies that exist, rather than believe that any little imperfection according to limiting standards needs to be destroyed, hidden away, taken as a mark of inferiority of gender

femininity masculinity void new binaries lack of binaries fag gender dyke gender boi grrrl queer gender tethered or untethered to anything you want it to be, be your own body

creation of the self, theories about bodily autonomy that stretch across lines of transness/disability/race/sex/ethnicity, transition as something to be unafraid of, rather than desperately holding onto stagnant realities that can be changed if you’re brave enough and allow yourself to be inspired and to live, transitioning as you age, as we all do

social lines redrawn, new masculinities and femininities injected into the populace with hormones/joyful representations/different communal connections, no need to enforce correct gender behaviours, no need to be afraid of appearing weak, appearing loud, appearing wrong... 

trailblazing bodies trailblazing minds spiritual, practical, rational, grounded, free-floating, impossible to repress ideas, impossible to destroy people, potentials for a past-present-future, always there, always will be here

[curiouscarnifex]

You don't have to talk about everyone all the time but if you say stuff like "transfemme and transmasc" to refer to the entire trans community you are excluding nonbinary people and we can be pissed about it.

There's a difference between focusing on everything and not excluding people from a group they're part of and the fact that "Hey don't leave us out of our community" is apparently a fucking monumental task speaks a ton about how we're still seen as an afterthought and not actually part of the community.

[jessie-lou]

Consider this your official invite to my gender birthday.

Feel free to use these if you also gender.