a reminder
It doesn't matter why someone has a feminine and/or masculine gender identity without being a woman or a man.
Even if the gender identity in question has a specific reason for developing, such as alienation from white/thin/neurotypical/etc. binary folks, clicking with certain stereotypes without wanting to be grouped with women/men or anything else, that doesn't make these nonbinary identities themselves problematic or fake.
I bet a lot of cis women/men aren't overly invested in their own gender identities, and they just repeat what they were assigned because they don't want to identify as anything else either. It's just that non-cis identities are overanalyzed and dissected, since those are seen as problems that could/should be "solved" in place of accepting someone's actual gender identity.















