#not passing

[transmascpolls]

transmascs, has anyone ever mistaken you as transfem? how did it make you feel?

yes, it made me feel dysphoric/upset

yes, i didn't really care

yes, it made me feel euphoric/happy

no, i've never been mistaken as transfem

nuance/other

results

Transmascs, has anyone ever mistaken you as transfem? how did it make you feel?

Yes, it made me feel dysphoric / upset

Yes, I didn’t really care

Yes, it made me feel euphoric / happy

No, I’ve never been mistaken as transfem

It’s complicated / other

Results / not transmasc

Voting ended onDec 31, 2025

[skeletonappreciationday-bones]

no way i have to go back to school on Tuesday…chat im so cooked

[hobohobgoblim]

The way kids and old people simply can't ignore my voice not passing. I work in a daycare with a bunch of grandmothers.

[reneestjohn10]

Someone on Facebook once called me a ‘white passing person of color’.

As a white looking black woman ( it honors me without accusing me of trying to be someone I am not )

I really liked that ❤️🥲💫

[iammikedee]

I guess I’m a genderless goblin because wtf is this?

So, I know I’m starting to pass and that’s awesome. ***STARTING***TO*** pass, not fully passing. I’d say about 4/5 of people sir me, and the other 1/5 ma’am me. 

This morning, someone at work (who, in all fairness, used to know me as she before I came out) came into the office and said “Hey lady!” She corrected herself before I could even say anything, tried to tell me how handsome I was and she could tell there was a difference in my appearance and blah blah blah... I was like “Thank you,” end of story, not enough mental energy in the world to keep me invested in that conversation. Sometimes, people who knew me before transitioning call me she by accident, but it’s never quite so jarring as HEY LADY and it really threw me for a loop. Especially over a year of being on T. 

THENNNN...

My boyfriend called me on the phone and was like, “The property manager came by and said he needs to park a big truck in front of our garage tomorrow morning, so if we need access to the car tomorrow we should park it somewhere else tonight. Then he said he already told my brother about it. I asked [Brother’s Name] and he said he had no idea what I was talking about, so I guess he meant you.”

And...yep! Earlier this morning the property manager did in fact tell me about the parking situation lol. So he thinks I’m my boyfriend’s brother, which is validating and also very very kinky. 

[uncleghostt]

Not to be a crank, but people telling me I'm valid does not make me feel anymore valid.

Saying

"trans guys who don't pass are valid!"

"trans guys who are pre-t are valid!"

"trans guys who haven't had top surgery are valid!"

I know it helps some people, but I still feel so much shame for looking the way I do. I feel guilty for asking people to use my pronouns when I know I don't pass.

It doesn't matter how vaild I am, I still can't help but experience negative feelings towards being this way.

[boyburning]

suffocating dysphoria