🌱 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗦𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 : 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 𝐢𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 : 𝐚 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢 𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐲 - 👇🏻🦌
Have you ever found yourself in a circumstance, most likely in a clothing store, where you're trying on outfits and one of the outfits you're trying on doesn't quite fit right, but is close enough to your size. It's very annoying. You have two options here. You can either go back out and ask the store clerk if they can check if they have the correct size for you or you can settle for what you have in your hand and just deal with it. What would you do? 🦌
Some would go back out and ask for the right size, while others would just shrug it off with a sigh and settle for what they have because to ask someone makes them feel like a burden or inconvenience of anothers time. The others are who I want to dedicate this post to, so if this isn't you, keep scrolling. 🦌
Dear Others,
When I was younger. I spent most of my life in similar circumstances to what I stated before. I would say yes to things that I honestly wanted to say no to. I would tell people I was fine when I actually wasn't. I would go as far as to say, "That's good enough." or "I'll deal with it." To things that I shouldn't have dealt with or seen as good in any shape or form. This led me down a path of becoming a chronic pathological people pleaser that I am now just recovering from. 🦌
So, how do we fix this. The simple answer is learning to say no and to not be afraid. The complicated still includes those things, too, but with more depth. When you find yourself in a situation where something isn't how you want it, and you know it can be better or fixed, give yourself the space to say something. Show yourself compassion instead of judgment, recognize that you are human too, and are allowed to have human emotions. Realize within yourself that your opinions matter and what you say is important. 🦌
When you settle for things that you don't really want and tolerate what is just good enough; the only person that is getting hurt is you. No one else. When we speak up, not only are we showing up for ourselves, but we are teaching others how to do the same. By saying something, you are giving people the opportunity to learn how to show up for your needs and give you what you need. Not saying anything will prolong the cycle and further cause you hurt and may even create restatement between you and the other person. 🦌
Speak Up - Say Somthing - Have No Fear
The End
