#npd support

[barkbitebarkback]

supportive friend looking to learn more about npd!

I'm asking about personal experience because everything else is demonized as fuck including medical advice :)))))))) /neg

backround: my best friend has npd, and we have had a pretty open line of communication about it. it is figuring things out as things come up and I'm aware everyone had diffrent experiences. I just have questions that I think would be best answered based on others personal experiences and also because these things haven't come up yet/it doesn't know what it needs around these things yet.

- how do you want and need to be supported when crashing out? what kind of reassurace is good and what may feed into the negitive aspects of npd that can be harmful.

- what are things that, when done alone, fill your direct and indirect attention supply? how can you be supported and pushed to continue doing activities alone besides encouragement and praise for your work and experiences?

- what are small seemingly inconsequential things that when interacting with others help with attention supply? like certain kinds of praise, reassurance, phrases, and experiences that can be worked into day to day conversation and time spent togther?

- what are things you wish people understood about npd? how does envy affect your relationships, and how can it be worked around? what are some things that you wish people avoided in conversations about npd? what are things people wouldn't expect to be helpful around npd? what are things that are a big deal when you have npd?

thank you!!!! if you have anything that I didn't ask, please feel free to add! or any resources I can go to for more information!

[iveeaten3humanorganz]

those people when I tell them “narc abuse” isn’t real and they were just emotionally abused, but the reason you don’t want to say that is because you feel ashamed of being emotionally abused because in your eyes emotional abuse is less than physical abuse because you view emotions as inherently weak:

[louiskechi]

the thing is i do believe narcissistic personality disorder SHOULD be renamed because the term “narcissist” has so many negative connotations that this can and will inevitably be devastating to a lot of peoples’ lives, but i also believe that it’s a lot easier to change the language we as individuals use than it is to change the language the entire medical field uses.

my point is, in the meantime, we can be compassionate and we can treat narcissists like people.

[socalled-egg]

I hate the term narcissistic abuser sm ugh. Okay yeah my mom is probably a narcissist; but she’s not abusive because she’s a narcissist, she’s abusive because she’s an abuser. Having npd and being an abuser are two wholly different things. Argue with the wall.

[brandimccauslin]

If you hate narcissists for wanting attention, please never have or interact with children.

[feministfog]

using “narcissist” as an insult is the same as using “autistic” as an insult. you are saying someone is bad because they have a disorder.