#ocd jokes

[nonbinarymlm]

We Need to Accept that Silly Things Can Hurt People

Please allow me to ruminate a bit more on mental health on this blog. I have ADHD and OCD, both disorders commonly stereotyped and conflated with minor, silly behaviors like yelling SQUIRREL when you see a squirrel and organizing things by color. These stereotypes can often minimize and erase the genuine difficulties and harm that these conditions can cause. That’s very true, and it often causes intense sensitively and knee-jerk denial around stereotypes around this. I don’t think that’s necessarily the best reaction, because sometimes people can have symptoms very similar to these stereotypes.

I think we need to accept that silly things can hurt people. Silly, ridiculous symptoms can devastate people’s lives. People shouldn’t have to react into their painful past and trauma to get people to take their symptoms seriously when those symptoms are silly on their face, because that turns things into a pain competition and can result in gatekeeping how much people must suffer before their seemingly ridiculous symptoms get taken seriously.

I think we just need to, as a society and culture and social norm, accept that silly things can genuinely, sometimes intensely, hurt people. Yes, I do have the impulse to tell an animal’s name when I see that animal, and yes it’s part of my symptoms that makes it harder to me to drive and hold conversations and do basic functioning. Yes, I do worry about incredibly tiny and silly things, that the world’s tiniest cut means I’m literally dying, and this has at times been incredibly miserable to live with and severely inhibited my functioning and nearly lost me a job. Also I’m going to joke about it sometimes because it’s funny. I’m not going to find a joke about it from a stranger with no OCD funny, because they have no idea how much pain it can cause me.

Sometimes these conditions are absurd in ways that are funny. That’s true and people with the conditions should be able to joke about it. But everyone needs to understand, just because a symptom is absurd doesn’t mean it can’t also devastate you and ruin your life. So if you don’t have these conditions and aren’t super close to someone who has them, I think you should be sensitive and avoid joking even if it seems silly and funny. I think there is where true destigmatization lies: accepting that the silly brain can also really hurt.

[musical--llama]

Stop making OCD jokes 2020

[neat-mackinnon-disney-crosby]

Wait. You have OCD? I had no idea.

Yeah. It's a fucking doozy because for like the first 23 years of my life I thought everyone got stuck in cycles of repetitively doing things and had intense anxiety if they didn't do the things, and it was just a normal thing that nobody really talked about. (Ding dong, I was wrong.)

But then I watched this documentary about how people with OCD navigate life while being at war with themselves every day, and it clicked that I probably have it. So, I went to see a therapist and yep.

It's complete fucking ass, but my pencil cups are always organized. SO THERE'S THAT.

[ocdrantings]

New take on OCD jokes and memes: I am bitter most of the images on google images are those with little understanding of what OCD is and aren’t even that funny and get in the way of me finding relatable and actually hilarious memes 

[your-ethereal]

It's unsurprising to me how some OCD tags are full of things like "I'm so OCD my messy bun has to be tidy!" or pictures of girls' nails with a tiny line that has smudged, and them being like "I'm so OCD LOL".

I'm not usually one to get pissed over things like this, because in a way I'm used to hearing it. However, it's still tiring when it's an actual debilitating - and often distressing - anxiety disorder, and you have to hear the same ignorant jokes day after day. OCD is a disease, not an adjective. I'm sure you can muster the intellectual ability to think of some different ones. And the jokes are often ignorant to what OCD even is, OCD isn't simply needing everything to be straight and clean all the time. OCD is not a synonym to 'clean-freak'.

"I'm so OCD" doesn't even grammatically make sense. You can't be "so obsessive compulsive disorder". Fuck.

[xoxo-riah]

Kid: Mrs. P, I need whiteout!

Mrs. P: Mariah, can you get that for him since you know where it is?

Me: .........

Kid: I get it! It's because you're such a perfectionist!

Me: ... I hate everyone.....

[candybanshee]

I have lived with anger, ignoring it, feeding upon it, learning to use it before it laid my visions to waste, for most of my life. Once I did it in silence, afraid of the weight. My fear of anger taught me nothing. Your fear of that anger will teach you nothing, also. I cannot hide my anger to spare your guilt, nor hurt feelings, nor answering anger; for doing so insults and trivializes all our efforts. [T]he strength of women lies in recognizing differences between us as creative, and in standing to those distortions which we inherited without blame, but which are now ours to alter. The angers of women can transform difference through insight into power. For anger between peers births change, not destruction, and the discomfort and sense of loss it often causes is not fatal, but a sign of growth.

Audre Lorde, "The Uses of Anger: Women Responding to Racism." Keynote presentation at the National Women's Studies Association Conference, Storrs, Connecticut, June 1981. 

[candybanshee]

Behind the Brand: David Klasfeld of Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetics

BtB: IS THERE A STORY BEHIND THE BRAND NAME, OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE COSMETICS?

DK: Yes, there is in fact. I joke that I'm not just the President of Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetics; I'm also a client. In naming the company, my intent was to celebrate the way these sorts of compulsions can be channeled into a productive lifestyle, and to also convey a sense of humor and enjoyment in the art of makeup. So many companies make makeup sound way too serious, and almost prey on people's insecurities in order to get them to buy their product. I can't stand that approach. At OCC, we know you're beautiful already and want you to want to purchase our product because you love makeup as much as we do. Our motto says it best, "Because You Don't Need To Be Made Over."

bell hooks explains that the commodification of otherness as a "resource for pleasure" allows difference to become an "alternative playground" where members of dominant groups affirm their "power-over in intimate relations with the Other."

When I tried OCC Lip Tar in Sephora today, (in Radiate, I think?) I hoped I could squelch the nagging feeling that something wasn't right, even though I'd wanted to like the brand, got excited about the vibrant colors, was intrigued by the ultra-deep pigments. The saleswoman on the floor was very thoughtful, however, and after asking why I didn't like it, she recommended Hourglass's Opaque Rouge lipstain in Icon.

There's something in the connections between hooks' conceptualization of eating the other as play, and makeupping as play, and David Klasfeld's rationale that the moniker Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetics responds to the "way too serious" beauty industry - seeing OCD as fun? - but I can't quite pin down how it all fits together.