So for context, I have no reason to believe I'm intersex. I've not dived deep into my biology, but based on my medical understanding, I'm just an average perisex individual with a few hormone swings. I am multi-gender, but obviously that's not the same.
I have not fully informed myself on what the recent UK Supreme Court ruling truly means for the queer community, but what I've heard is disturbing, and knowing JK Rowling is involved says nothing good to me.
Because of my lack of detailed research, I wasn't yet ready to make any arguments about said ruling, but a woman I know made a FB post about the ruling, and how it's not transphobic. She herself is cis and I don't believe has much experience within queer circles but like I said, I wasn't ready to argue with her on FB. I did point out, however, that regardless of whether or not the ruling targets trans folk (which even if it didn't isn't the point, the point is how people use the legislation to attack us) that in every ruling and decision like this, intersex people are forgotten, discriminated against and ignored. I didn't even put it that bluntly. We had a very good discussion about the differences in UK practices and mindsets regarding intersex rights versus those in the US, I talked about how my understanding is that DSD (which she used) is NOT an appropriate term, yadda yadda. It was reasonable and a quiet step forward.
But oh my lanta. Now I get it. The comments from other people, talking about how intersex people don't exist, how differences in chromosomes/hormones/etc don't make you not a woman (but refusing to define womanhood), how DSD is the term to use and intersex people don't like the term intersex.........There was one woman who genuinely, politely asked about XX and XY as sex-determining. You could tell that she genuinely was asking, "Wait, there's more to this than that? I didn't know!" But everyone else was determined to state that 1.7% of the population just doesn't exist.
And like. Long before I came out as multigender at 28, I was in the waters of gender non-conformity. I was dating a trans woman, my sister is trans, I was already GNC myself. But I'd never borne personal, firsthand witness (ignoring political attacks) to the social disappearing of an entire group of people. Yes, obviously I'm exposed to the genocides of queer folk, Palestinians, POC. I know we're being disappeared en masse. But I've never actually communicated with someone who just straight up said, "Those people don't exist."
And now I have had just a fraction of that feeling injected into my life, and I just - how do people survive? How on earth do intersex folk still wake up every day and make coffee and exist with joy? I had ONE bad conversation, and I'm so fucking upset. And I know nothing! I don't even feel super comfortable saying certain things because I don't want to speak for a community of which I am not a part! But I can't just not respond when people are telling me that humans aren't real.
Please, I am so open to feedback. I hope this all comes across the way I mean it to. I don't want to speak for anyone, or over anyone. I just - I'm isolated, and now I can appreciate so much more the reality of what all of us who are targets are fighting.
Okay, I know I said I’m avoiding opinions but I need to get this out before I continue with today fjsbfjsnsk. AFTER THIS IM TAKING A MENTAL BREAK FKSDBFSBF
Tw: Mention of respawning, death, suicide, toxic behavior, cursing and slight mention of abuse.
Heads up before I start, I want to say I am someone who believes it is possible to shift permanently and I also believe your physical body, in no way, can be affected by shifting unless you mean trauma wise because you shifted to somewhere not so mentally friendly and so on. I may change my belief depending on whether it has enough backing or makes sense, logically, to me. So if you’re reading this when i’ve changed my views then you can go “heeeeyyyyy old you” and move on from this post lmao. Anyway here we go!
This "permanently shifting is respawning" BOTHERS ME SO MUCH. I, personally, want to shift permanently because I see no future here, I have no interest here, I am not in a good home situation, and that SHOULD BE valid. To associate people who want to live a better life and live out their dreams in a safer form with something that isn't on the communities best side is going to . . .
1. Spread misinformation on the definition of respawning
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Ahem, and before I move on let's look at the definition
Respawn: (of a character in a video game) reappear after having being killed.
This could also relate to reincarnation. Let's check that definition too.
Reincarnation: the rebirth of the soul in a new body.
See also "reincarnation, also know as rebirth or transmigration of a living being begins a new life in a different physical form or body. "
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2. Not only will it spread misinformation, those who hop on the "majority belief train" might spread hate towards those who really can't stand to be here.
⚠️ Permanent Shifting and Respawning are two different things. Respawning has no definite security that you will be in your DR, it's too risky. As for permanent shifting, you simply shift and stay. There is no harm to your body or anything and you can ALWAYS come back if you decide to, something respawners cannot do. Permanent Shifting and Respawning are two different things. Comparing those two is like saying shifting in general and Respawning are the same because they both involve leaving this reality. They arent, and you know it. Just because they both stay in their DR doesn't mean they are the same. If you disagree, I have an entire server and a lot of people to back me up that it is not the same. They all agree, it's two different categories. Permanent shifting isn't always permanent and you can come back, there's no harm to you or your body. Respawning isn't guaranteed, nor can you ever come back. There is a big difference. Stop clustering. I spoke with a respawner on Amino who said that Respawning is the disposal of the body AFTER shifting and ties are severed. It is not done by then consciously. Secondly in addition to that, permanent shifting means you can always come back if you change your mind and the ties with this reality is still there. There is a big difference here. ⚠️
People who see no future here are not cruel to their families. People who, at an early age, dreamed of being somewhere else other than 'home' are not cruel. People who want to see their comfort characters and stay there, consciously, are not cruel. It. Isn't. Wrong. It isn't disgusting. It isn't mean. It isn't "mentally ill." If you see it as wrong then tough luck buddy because I don't care. Unfollow me or block me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
ANOTHER THING THAT IS BOTHERING ME.
Those who shift permanently are not evil, cruel, or stupid. Nor are they harming their old reality/current reality body. And I do not want to hear the "you can't shift permanently without respawning" excuse. Yes, you can. Shifting your conscience has no time limit. It does not in any shape or form, in my mind, make sense logically that there is a time limit where your cr body, which shouldn't have control over you in another reality, just yeets you back.
Why does this community INSIST on just blocking respawners and giving them hate. I don't support it 100% right now, but what I'm saying is don't bash someone who needs your help?? Like I get the whole "I'm going to shift and my CR body will die right after I leave" is unsettling to a lot of people and many might be triggered by the topic. I get that. But ????? Y'all are TOXIC as hell to completely bash these people. (And if you haven’t then good for you ILY here’s a lolipop 💖🥺🍭.) Like??? Yes, you can verbally do that because it’s the internet. But should you, morally? In my opinion, no. If someone is saying they want to dispose of their body and you tell them they aren’t welcome to talk to you, then what the actually HELL.
( I get that someone randomly venting to you is frustrating and mentally draining which can cause worsened depression or a worsened mental state; always ask first before venting unless you need immediate help, kids. So to clarify, that’s not what I’m saying in this context. )
Don’t be a d*ck. Stop hating someone who may even need help. That’s TOXIC AS FUCK. I don’t CARE if you think it’s weird or gross. Belittling, excluding, bullying, etc is invalidating someone who could use information and support and that is DISGUSTANG. I DON’T CARE IF YOU DON’T LIKE WHAT I’M SAYING. Don’t hop on the majority train and stay there because you’re too afraid to voice a different opinion so now you’re going to be a d*ck. It’s not cute nor is it funny. As Michael Jordan said, “Stop it, get some help.”
All I literally ask of anyone reading this is to validate those who you know nothing about. Talk, communicate, and reach out. If you feel uncomfortable with it, that’s fine. If you feel triggered by the topic then that is also fine and VALID. Just don’t be an ass to other people who might feel the same way.
Also as a closing and before I hear “I’ve never seen this issue, you’re just starting shit” kind of thing I will have you know IT DOES HAPPEN. Especially on amino and discord servers I have been on. It does happen. It needs to stop.
Instead of bashing them and then saying they're wrong with no further explanation maybeeee you should try something more decent. For example you could explain to them what respawn is, the effects to those here, how it works, and avoid anything opinionated until they have the facts (I’m going to use facts as a loose term being that we are a small and new community and we still need more scientific backing or experiences to gain more insight). Also you should explain that YOU DONT NEED TO RESPAWN TO STAY IN YOUR DR PERMANETLY. A number one factor, that I have noticed, is they take the risk to respawn because someone failed to inform them that they didn’t need to kill themselves to stay in their DR permanently. Due to this, they take the risk because they would rather do it than ever come back to this reality which may not be kind to them at all. And that is a community failure. Instead of bashing someone who may need help, talk to them. Inform them.
⚠️ALSO FYI some people respawn for spiritual aspects but right now I'm talking about the suicidial part of the respawn community so if you're a spiritual respawner I'm not talking about that, I'm just mentioning the other part. 🧍🏻♀️⚠️
Quick question if that’s okay! Is it respawning if you cut ties with your CR, but don’t dispose of your body when you shift, or would that be permanent shifting? Sorry, i think I confused myself when I was thinking about it :/
Permanent shifting is when you shift and then stay in your DR. Your ties aren't cut and you can always come back to the CR. (If we mean ties as in life. Some ties can mean your connection emotionally or ties as in your physical life.)
Respawning is when you shift first and then let the body pass through either "natural process" or "other ways." Which cuts ties with the CR.
I've never heard of shifting and cutting ties (unless you mean just not going back.) Which could classify as cutting ties with the CR, but the tie is still there if you're alive! (Which is perfectly okay, you can still stay in your DR for as long as you like! There's no time limit.)
In my personal opinion, no, that isn't Respawning. It's simply "shifting." My reason? You're cutting an emotional tie and not a physical tie. So no, it's not Respawning. Respawning is a forced, purposeful, pre-meditated, and planned disposal of the DR/OR's physical body.
Now there are opinions that since you're staying and cutting ties that means you're Respawning. Which, if we think about this, no that doesn't make sense. When you shift you are going to a new place and technically not consciously aware in your OR/CR. You're also forming a new emotional tie to your DR/WR. Therefore "cutting an emotional or conscious tie" in a way. But we don't classify that as Respawning. And the same goes for permanent shifting.
Your life doesn't end in the CR by permanent shifting, and you can always come back. It depends on the person whether they want to cut an emotional tie.
If it helps, here's definitions I've collected from the communities I've been in and people I've met.
Shifting - Visiting or staying in a DR/WR/TR. This can be any reality. Though most of these groups have different realities they want to visit. This group is widely popular.
╰﹕ ˳⁺੭︰Side Note: This group may be widely popular, but also generally unaware of the subcategories and groups that happened before the shifting term and group was widely known about.
Permanent Shifting (Subcategory of shifting) - A term I use, but haven't seen. I use it since Tumblr is the only website I've seen that associates staying in your DR as Respawning. I do not believe it. Nor does it make sense to me. So I use this term 💖. It means you stay in your DR/WR.
╰﹕ ˳⁺੭︰Side Note: The only time I would think that physical/life force ties are cut is if they didn't script time to be different and they stayed for 100+ years. But I wouldn't classify that as Respawning being that 1) you can prevent this by changing the time difference 2) it can be in no way purposeful as permanent shifting isn't meant to kill your CR body. It simply means staying in your DR without the intent of harming yourself. While Respawning typically has the intent of harming the body after the shift. The difference should be obvious by now, hopefully?
Respawner (Subcategory of shifting) - A term used to describe someone who shifts first and then let's the body pass through natural or other process. It's widely controversial but also another popular group.
╰﹕ ˳⁺੭︰Side Note: Keep in mind, anyone who tells you that Respawning is not shifting first may be unaware of what Respawning is. They shift first and then let the body pass. This is to "make sure they don't come back." THOUGH there are some in the community who believe they can go to another reality if they respawn/cause death without shifting first. There aren't many of them and it's even controversial within the respawn community. (Opinion up ahead) Respawners, also, tend to be more spiritual from what I've seen. There are religious groups within them and/or more spiritual outlooks on Respawning depending on which group you join.
Conscious Dimension/Reality Shifter (Subcategory) - People who believe that certain, some, or all realities have a conscious awareness and are capable of interacting with humans. These people shift to a reality which they are friends with. Some stay, some don't.
Conscious Dimension/Reality Respawner (Also a subcategory) - Same as above, but with Respawning.
Pocket Dimension/Universe/Reality Shifter (Not a subcategory, it's controversial whether it is or not.) - Some people shift to what is called a "Pocket Reality or Universe." Scientifically, then can exist. It's called "A pocket universe or bubble universe is a concept in inflatory theory, proposed by Alan Guth." Some believe they have a conscious, some do not.
╰﹕ ˳⁺੭︰Side Note: These places in our Universe are too small or too easily accessible to be considered a different dimension, but also "controversial" whether it is or isn't. So it's classified as an extra "pocket in space." It's like an "independent section of space-time" within the universe we live in. There are different types and different beliefs for this particular group. Such as the differences between a pocket reality, universe, or dimension. Or whether some of these are accessible.
Reality Creators - Typically, it can go two ways. They are generally people who believe each reality has a conscious, including our CR/OR, and they are able to speak with them or encourage other realities to form. (Opinion ahead.) It's more of a belief, and most speculate they just shifted to a reality where these things happen and they are able to. But then again, there are a lot of sections/beliefs in each term listed here.
"Funny" how so many ads are misplaced now that are solely focused on finally having big family gatherings, Christmas markets etc. again when in reality Covid is still there and stronger than ever. And one shouldn't participate in the shown activities with a clear conscience.
