Oct 22, 2025
Shout out to folks with Short-Duration Hypomanic Episodes And Major Depressive Episodes!
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Shout out to folks with Short-Duration Hypomanic Episodes And Major Depressive Episodes!
some show screens + memorable lines from “One Septendecillion Brass Doorknobs”, my fanfic novel version of DGHDA S3
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Hi there so I have bipolar NOS and severe anxiety. This is probably unrelated but I always think people are a lying to me. Even the people I think I trust. I trust my bf more than anyone but for some reason I think he's making things up, even if it doesn't seem like it. Even big things, like his grandad having a stroke. This happens a lot with everyone. If someone says something remotely implausible I think they're lying. Its uncomfortable. I have no idea why I'm like this?... Advice?.. thanks
Hi darling,
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been dealing with this lovely! I can definitely imagine it’s really difficult to constantly think that people are lying to you. Have you been lied to often in the past, by someone you thought would never lie to you? If that’s happened to you, it could explain why you’re currently struggling with this. Our past experiences often are an explanation of current habits, although not necessarily. Especially when we’re still young, we are still growing, both physically and mentally. That means that when something happens when you’re young, it can have more impact than it would have if it had happened when you were older. So if you were lied to a lot when you were younger, this can cause for you to experience the strong belief that people are often lying to you.
Like I said, this isn’t necessarily the explanation. Sometimes we struggle with something while it seems there might not really be a reason for it. This can be annoying, because it doesn’t answer our question on why we might be dealing with it. But what’s really important to keep in mind is that it doesn’t make your struggles any less valid! They’re just as valid as any other struggles.
Something that can help when struggling with thoughts like this is to try and challenge your thoughts. There are different questions that you can ask yourself to challenge those thoughts. These challenging thoughts can be:
What’s the worst that could happen? This is a tricky one, because it isn’t something you want to get stuck in as that won’t help. However, sometimes we fear something and when we ask ourselves this question, our fear seems to be bigger than the worst case scenario. For example, I fear change a lot because it’s new and scary. It helps me then to ask myself what the worst thing is that could happen, because in those situations the worst is that the new thing won’t help me. But then I can always go back to my old way of doing things. So in that case, the worst case scenario rationally isn’t as bad, even though it feels like the world ending.
What are the odds? This question is difficult in your case, as there isn’t a lot of research on how many percent of people lie, but maybe it can apply in other situations.
If it happens, will I get over it? Yes, yes you will. It will be difficult, no one will deny that! Being lied to isn’t fun at all. But you can get through those difficult times. You’ll feel bad for a while, it’s truly upsetting. But you can get through it and that’s important to keep in mind! My favourite quote applies a lot here. Sometimes what seems impossible, is just hard. Often when we’re struggling, we tend to catastrophize. When we’re feeling bad, we feel like it’s impossible to get through those tough times. But, you’ve done that before, you’ve gotten through those tough times. It isn’t impossible. It’s hard, but it isn’t impossible. You can get through it.
What’s the best that could happen? Trying to focus on a potential outcome can shift your thoughts away a little from that you fear they’re lying to you. It might be a thought that calms you down a little.
What would you say to a friend who was struggling with thoughts like this? Often we can think more rationally when we aren’t in the situation ourselves. I can give advice to other people (at least, I hope it’s helpful!), but I struggle with following my own advice. My therapist asks me often what I’d say to someone who sent in an ask here at MHA. I’ll then try to imagine writing an answer, and then I can come up with something that can help me, which I couldn’t think of when I was trying to think of how to get through the situation myself. Of course I can’t always think of something, but it’s a start. We also tend to be kinder to our friends than we are to ourselves. So if you struggle with the thought that you don’t deserve to be told the truth and that’s why people are lying to you (this is just an example, I don’t know if this is a thought you’re struggling with), it can be hard to go against that thought. But if a close friend of yours said something like that, you’d probably have something to say on why they do deserve the truth and why they aren’t being lied to. And then, why are you different? Why set different boundaries for yourself than for others?
Try to think of an alternative thought. Is there an explanation to what’s happening (for example your boyfriend’s grandad having a stroke) that don’t include him lying? Yes there is, namely that his grandad’s had a stroke. Is there proof that you can give for this alternative explanation?
Something else that’s good to keep in mind is that we’re always searching for proof for the beliefs we have. So your belief is that people are lying to you. You will therefore notice small things that could be seen as proof for that. But small (or big) things that are proof for the fact that people are not lying to you will probably go unnoticed. Try to keep an eye out for this more, so that you start building up this proof. By doing this consistently every day, eventually it will start to feel more true. What can really help is to write it down, as that way it sticks around more. I read the other day that writing something down equals reading it seven times. Just a fun fact :)
Are you receiving professional help for your bipolar disorder and anxiety lovely? This isn’t something you have to deal with all by yourself! Common treatment options would be medication or therapy, although usually a combination of those is recommended. You can visit your GP / local doctor and explain shortly to them what you’ve been dealing with. They’ll then be able to refer you to someone such as a therapist, psychiatrist, or other mental health professional. You can read more about getting help here. I hope this helped at least a little bit!
Sometimes what seems impossible, is just hard.
Keep fighting beautiful <3Love Pauline
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DGHDA screens + a scene from my S3 fanfic novel, “One Septendecillion Brass Doorknobs”
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I just read the first few chapters of your Dirk Gently novel and I wanted to tell you that I really love it! I haven't been able to really focus on a book in the last few weeks, this is the first thing I have read more than two paragraphs of at once voluntarily, so thank you for this amazing story!
omg thank you!! i swear every time i get a comment or someone writes in a reblog tags or whatever and says something nice about OSBD my brain just goes *keysmash dopamine explosion*, it absolutely makes my day,,,,
also 100% can relate on not being able to focus, i am usually a pretty fast reader and i go through an average novel in about a week in normal times. not since the pandemic though! i think i’ve only read around 15 fiction novels last year, not including fanfic....... yeah. i’ve started a new book last week and i’m only like 20 pages in. not fun!
wishing you all the best though, including ability to read any book you want to! 💗
thinking hard about what to do with OSBD in terms of posting schedule cause like, i’m not sure posting two chapters a week is actually very good for my progress on it
i am way ahead in terms of first draft but editing is a pain in the ass and it stresses me out. i don’t like constantly coming back to edit chapters so that i can release them asap and i’d actually rather draft the rest of the novel first, then edit, and then post all the remaining chapters at once
but also i’ve already committed to that posting schedule so idk... i don’t wanna lose the people who are already used to reading chapter by chapter, cause if i stop now and wait till it’s done, there will be a pause till like December
so if there are any OSBD readers here - what are your thoughts? are you willing to wait till December or would you rather have those chapters regularly?
in either case i might have to scale it back down to one chapter a week cause twice a week is just too much right now considering that i have my MSc thesis to work on...