hey! i'm a little curious about the shift in your dynamic. what parts of the dynamic are you dropping? will you no longer call him Daddy? :o
hey! sorry to be responding so late anon. i appreciate the curiosity and i love getting to talk about this because i feel like it’s something i don’t see a lot on here.
when we started our relationship my bf was explicitly Dominant and i was explicitly submissive. i thought i wanted something with a lot of structure, daily expectations, etc. and he was happy to oblige.
…until we’d been doing it for over a year and both felt frustrated and kinda like the dynamic we’d set up wasn’t suiting us anymore. my daddy has a more submissive side he’d been inadvertently suppressing and i wasn’t getting the fulfillment i’d anticipated from my long list of rules.
so where we are now and have been for about a year is accepting that we’re not 24/7 dynamic people, we’re bedroom kink people! (something i low key stuck my nose up at the first few years i was exploring bdsm and kink)
we’ve agreed that we just want to do what feels good for us. we need to be able to let go of the expectations we think other person has for us so that we can fully explore things we want to do. so that’s what we’re doing! no rules, no power dynamic, no expectations other than loving each other and helping one another feel fulfilled through acceptance and celebration of our full selves 🤗
but yes, i will always call him daddy. it’s just a part of our relationship at this point, and i’m still frequently little so the title holds up!
