#outing cw

[fictionkinfessions]

I'm sorry I ran, Ena. I'm sorry I couldn't accept your kindness. Deep down, I knew you didn't see me any differently after my classmates outed me, but I panicked. I wanted you to keep seeing me as a "normal" girl (aka a cis girl)

Even if you could never see me as "normal" again, you always saw me as Mizuki. It didn't bother you at all that I'm trans. You were disgusted with my classmates, not me (can't tell if this is a memory or wishful thinking but I think you broke Student A's nose)

Thank you for still waiting for me after that. You were a good friend

-Mizuki Akiyama (Projevt SEKAI fictive)

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[aro-culture-is]

aro-ace culture is while being outed to your generally supporting (?) parents they still ask if you're dating when mentioning a friend with different sex and just answering annoyed that you'll probably never date, only to get the reply that this seems like a lonely life because your friends will eventually leave you behind.

Realizing having been told that all your life really lead towards the expectation to be abandoned and working hard with your friends to overcome this.

I'm so glad to have great friends who support and reassure me.

Interestingly, some studies actually found distinct evidence that single people tend to be more socially integrated with others in their lives than married couples:

"Does singlehood isolate or integrate? Examining the link between marital status and ties to kin, friends, and neighbors", https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407515597564 in case this Open Access article is, for some reason, blocked and you'd like to check out a friendly place that lets you insert DOIs for unblocked articles.

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[dathen]

A tangent from that last post but some friends and I have noticed a really upsetting new trend for how frequently Jon gets outed in TMA fic without any warning tags, and without it being treated as a bad thing.  (And not just for asexuality--like trans Jon hcs are pretty common, and we’ve seen it so many times for that too)  Or like...scenes where when Jon is allowed agency for coming out, his friends (why is it always Tim and Sasha??) pulling some kind of Love Simon guilt trip nonsense about how dare he feel he has to hide it and how dare he not trust them etc. etc.

I don’t necessarily think this is because there’s an outing scene in the show, which is also played as lighthearted, but it’s so common and so upsetting to come across that I think as a fandom we could stand to talk about it a LOT more.  Another one for the “no, just because it’s done to Jon doesn’t mean it’s fair game and totally fine” bucket.

[nblesbianbenhanscom]

Trashstack (again) - General - prompts: 1, 2, and 3 if possible! If not all three, just go ahead and do 1 please and thank u Ollie I love u 🥺🥺🥺

“It’s pouring rain. Why are you here?” + “I love you.” “Tell me that when you’re sober.” + “I love you.” “You shouldn’t.”

***

The rain is coming down so hard Richie can barely see. He is freezing and completely soaking wet. He pushes some hair out of his face, stumbles around a corner and almost trips, but manages to catch himself at the last minute. He takes a deep breath and looks around. Surely he has to be close.

And then he sees the building. Ben’s building.

Barely looking around, Richie stumbles into the street, and almost gets hit by a car. It honks as Richie yells and flips it the bird. He rights himself and keeps moving. When he gets to the otherside, he takes a breath before climbing the steps to the buzzer.

Holding his arms close to himself, Richie shivers as he tries to find Ben’s apartment number. He pushes the button.

Nothing.

He pushes again.

Still nothing.

Pushing again, he holds it down for a long time.

“What the fuck?” Ben’s voice cuts through.

“Ben. It’s me. Let me in.”

Silence.

“Ben. Please. I’m freezing my nuts off out here.”

“It’s pouring rain. Why are you here?” Ben asks.

“I want to talk to you. You left- You left before- Please.” Richie’s whiney and near tears and he fucking hates himself for it, but Ben had left him alone at the bar and Richie wants to make sure he’s ok, wants to talk to Ben more than he’s ever wanted to talk to anyone in his life.

“Please let me in, Ben.” He lets out a sob. “Please.”

Read It On ao3

[dead-deal-ama]

Just thinking abt that time my mom outed me twice (sexuality and gender 🤪) and made it a VERY scary and invalidating situation 💕 she also didn’t want me to talk about it for about 4 years 😍 and genuinely didn’t belive that bisexuality was a valid thing . Ahhh memories

[instonveevinder]

4 years ago was the greatest robron week of all time... it truly had everything

Robron in suits, flirting in front of Lawrence and Chrissie, home farm husbands, Aaron's parents interfering.

Aaron being a dick, betrayal, hatred, lots of Aaron crying, his undying devotion to Robert and belief he was perfect, The Kiss.

Robert thinking he's getting a dirty weekend away and being very smug about it, car talk, Canon Versatility, secret phone recordings, neck kiss, Robert vulnerable and honest, everything falling apart in an epic way.

Robert's weird moral compass (okay to hold someone hostage but not giving him water? He draws the line there), epic love lines, Robert being protective of Andy, I WISH THAT WAS ALL I CARED ABOUT, YOU'RE THE WORST MISTAKE I'VE EVER MADE, FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU RUINED EVERYTHING, Robert at the very edge but refusing to accept that Aaron doesn't love him, Robert absolutely crumbling at thinking Aaron hates him, I MEANT IT I LOVE YOU!

Robert the doctor, Aaron being Aaron and making Robert more aggravated, Robert crying in the kitchen, so much vulnerability, letting them go because of Paddy, the boob squish, Aaron delivering the most savage affair reveal, BECAUSE HE WAS WITH ME, Robert crumbling again.

Chrissie revealing everything in the pub to the most brilliant reactions, Robert actually telling someone about Aaron of his own accord, looking for support from Andy, getting thrown out and truly losing everything... epic

[flintsjohn]

michael's coming out? ☕

oooh boy. right, so i’ve talked about this before in a meta post and in michael’s ep of the qab podcast, but i’ll forever be mad that he never got a coming out scene where he was the one controlling the narrative. bc let’s review: with isobel, they’re talking about her, and then he brings it up so offhandedly and she reacts like she already knows (and we later find out she knew about alex, how, we don’t really know); with max, it’s max bringing the subject up both times (when he uses alex against him, and when they’re in the bunker and michael identifies as bi); all other times are instances of him being outed (and ig he only really knows he’s been outed to maria? bc she brings it up? and i GUESS - im always very confused over who knows what in this show - he doesn’t know that kyle, jenna, and liz (liz most likely, since it was in the finale) know. so like....... i love that they had him identify as bi with the actual word, but it breaks my heart that it’s basically never on his terms, and i have this nagging feeling that it never will be because now everybody knows so even if he does come out in his own words to them, they’ll likely react like isobel did. so im sad over him what’s new :///

[exyrpf]

like, i understand why carlos thinks he has to tell kiki, because she’s his partner.

but this isn’t lying about eating the last of the ice cream. not outing someone isn’t lying

and it’s KIKI of all people.

no matter how much you love her, carlos baby you have to know she is incapable of shutting the fuck up keeping secrets.