hi, i want to talk about non-disordered paraphiles.
fair warning that i'm currently ill, and it's the middle of the night for me, so this may just be sickly yapping, but nevertheless. i want to talk about non-disordered paraphiles, because no one ever talks about non-disordered paraphiles.
a non-disordered paraphile is a paraphile whose attraction/paraphilia does not distress or disable them. though non-disordered paraphiles are similar to disordered paraphiles, we are not the same, purely because of the fact that, once again, our attractions don't distress or disable us, and if they do, it's not significantly. for example, we are a non-disordered zoophile, and we don't feel any urges towards animals, nor does our attraction hinder us in our daily life, a lot of which is spent around animals. however, that may not be the case for a disordered zoophile.
this is, in no way, our way of saying that non-disordered paraphiles are the "good" ones, and disordered paraphiles are the "bad" ones.
we've seen too many posts about paraphiles, where people claim that paraphiles (sometimes all, oftentimes just singling-out the big three) need therapy or psychological help. if you're a paraphile and you feel you need therapy, then go for it! get the help you need and live your life to the fullest! however, just being a paraphile β yes, even a zoophile/pedophile/necrophile β does not automatically mean that someone needs psychological help. it doesn't matter if they say openly say that they're a paraphile, if they talk about their fantasies, if they talk with other paraphiles, etc. as long as nobody is being non-consensually harmed, there's no problem.
every person that argues that paraphiles should get therapy or that they need psychological help, seem to conveniently forget about the existence of non-disordered paraphiles. then, their argument of "I just want you to get help for your illness" (which is not a valid argument, btw. people should choose to get help on their own terms, not because some stranger on the internet bullied them into it. the only time others should decide if someone needs help is if someone is harming others) falls away and sounds an awful lot like "you make me uncomfortable, so i think you should be institutionalised".
tldr: remember that not all paraphiles are disordered, and stop fucking telling paraphiles who aren't hurting anyone that they need to get therapy for the mere crime of being a paraphile.
