#parent expectations

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

A few months ago I was talking to my mom about how I don’t think I’ll ever want kids, and honestly I probably wouldn’t be good at that responsibility. And my mom, in trying to be supportive I guess, told me I’d “be a good dad”…

My mom was very… enthusiastic about guiding me to be a good dad when I was growing up. Like that’s what I was raised to be. And I guess she hasn’t fully let that go.

I just wanna be the weird but cool gay aunt.

[trexrambling]

Can we make it a norm for mothers to not expect their daughters to give them grandchildren please and thank you. We are worth far more than just our uterus.

[saaac86-blog]

A dragon and a worm.

Just today I heard him say that back in Taiwan he was like a dragon but now that he is in Australia, he is nothing but a worm.   I hear him say this at least once a year.

Are my experiences shaped by the fact that my father blames me for changing his fate thus and that a large part of what I’ve been expected now as an adult is to repay for his sufferings?

[waltdisneyconfessions]

“I used to use movies to get my parents to understand how I feel: they didn't understand it through Mulan or Brave or Inside Out. This just makes me sad cause I realize they will never understand what their high expectations are doing to me.”

[equalityspeaks]

Hello, so I have 2 older sisters who both identify as lesbians and I'm quite a bit younger and i identify as bi. But see only one of them is out to family and she actually just got married and now my family is suspecting the other one and said some hurtful things about how they could never accept her. and my mom knows I'm bi but nobody else and she basically told me i should only act on feelings for men and i this isn't really a question per say but i just needed to get that off my chest

Hi there. Sorry for the late reply. 

Thank you for sharing, sometimes when we are able to get things off our chest, it helps a little bit. Sure, it may not directly fix the issue at hand but sometimes it does help you feel better. 

These issues can be difficult and complicated, also sometimes complex. It’s exhausting, takes time and patience and sometimes this can cause deep frustration. I try not to judge any parents but each parent should always give their children complete unconditional love from the moment of conception. Unconditional love means that nothing should affect or change their love. When we speak of love we expect that means giving respect to the person, being supportive, nurturing, helpful, and the list could go on and on. See what I’m getting at? 

I see ignorance here with your mother and it may take her some time to realise that it is completely normal and okay that two of her daughters identify as lesbian and one identifies as bisexual. Though it seems like she has a lot of hope for you to develop a relationship with a man as it’s not going to happen with your other sisters but she has to let go of that and eventually realise it is completely up to you in regard to who you like and who you end up with. 

I hope that with time she sees this and realises you choose who you want to love. 

X

[spachik]

I don't understand why my family expects anything from me. My older siblings can somehow make a million mistakes and get off more or less scot free, but I get nagged and yelled at and lectured for every little fuckup? I'm supposed to get everything right the first time? Sorry, parents, that you've already gone through two kids who fucked up school-wise, but don't expect me to somehow be perfect.

[swatchy]

so I have 3 essays to write in a period of 2 weeks, 2 essays are 1,500words each and another is 2,500 words... ok I have finished 1 and now am working on #2 and my dad just called to ask how I am doing and then asked if all essay's are done... its been 1 week and he expects 3 essays to be done?!

yea... no.