#parenting fails

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[hashimasims]

Trying not to swear when things go wrong because you have a parrot (toddler) running around means that today I now have to hear “where’s the fork?!” On loop after I spilled my coffee this morning lol 😂

[agentrouka-blog]

I can't talk in the name of Grrm, but Sansa knew EVERY house in Westeros because she loved to read about them. Arya was less interested in the houses than she was to know the world with her eyes (Sansa is a female version of Grrm that loved the romanticism of the knights and tourneys and history, before he realised that in medieval times there was a lot of blood too).

I believe Cat knew more about politics because she lived in the middle of a war, and as the Lady of one of the Great Houses (that if I remember well she has to manage alone while pregnant and her husband in the South), she had to learn quickly. Also, in AGOT we had a Holster Tully on his last days, but he wasn't ignorant of southerns politics to not teach Cat one or two things... specially when you have Walder The Late in your "loyal" vassals... and Tywin Lannister at the next door. In the North, the houses are more loyal (consider the Northern Conspiracy in the books), scratch the Boltons and a few ass*****, and you wouldn't consider to teach your children, that are surrounded by a hundred of loyal people, about reality until they reach their teens.

Sansa was 13, and Arya 10? Ned and Cat trusted that Septa Mordane would teach them the basics of a "proper" lady for a big house. They didn't know that their family would be separated and killed so violently.

As members of a strong and powerful house, in a land of people that usually care for each other, why would you think that your children would need to lose their fantasies?

Hello anon.

Catelyn is politically savvy because she literally acted as the Lady of Riverrun in her mother’s stead from a young age. Not because of a few months of exposure to war when she was almost 20.

Also, considering how literally every single thing went down in the actual books, you’d think a LITTLE bit more awareness of reality would have been... useful? For all of them?

“They couldn’t have known that life might be dangerous for their kids one day...”

They literally lived through World War One in their youth. WHAT. What would it take for them to allow for the idea that they live in a dangerous world and may want to prepare their children for that with even the very basics of political education. Are you seriously questioning how Arya not knowing the House sigils is problematic?

Sorry. This approach of “Keep the kids ignorant instead of making the effort to explain it to them so they understand” is kind of triggering my rage buttons. This is how parents hurt their children through a selfish desire to avoid confronting reality themselves. In the real world.

[shinyasahalo]

Why “Daddy Daughter Dates” Are Bad.

The whole concept of the “daddy/daughter date” is bad because 

1.) The word “date” refers to something you do with someone you see as a romantic and/or sexual partner, or a possible romantic and/or sexual partner.

2.) It does not prepare them in any way for actual dating, because actual dating is only done with a romantic and/or sexual partner, who should be someone who is your equal, and the parent/child relationship is not equal.  A child is a dependent of their parent, a woman should never be a dependent of their romantic/sexual partner.

3.) It is heteronormative;  they always assume that their daughter will be a cisgender heteroromantic heterosexual.  If the child realizes that they are a lesbian or a transboy, they are getting the message that their father’s love is conditional.  

[fratboyintraining]

Just had a throwback to the 7 years my dad and I both were wrong in what we thought my middle name was spelled as, took me applying to my first volunteer gig for us to be corrected, my mom was hella disappointed.

[raspberryrose6]

Parenting fail.

I only turned around for a few seconds!!!

[mouser26]

To parents out there

I had my jr and senior prom taken from me because I wanted to take a girl (as a friend)  My parents said it was to keep me and her from being bullied even though we were going with a mixed group of friends 13+ years later I still resent them for it And in that same 13+ years I never told my family about any of my relationships How I did end up dating that same girl  a year later... how we were together 5years before we went our own ways, how I had a stalker for about 3 months cause a guy that came into my job wanted to date me Fuck they never even knew I was engaged for like 6 mos (a drunken mistake but 6 MONTHS) My mom only this past month (i’m in my 30′s) learned I am asexual (by my own admission)

My Dad ‘took away’ my graduation Party (2 days before it was supposed to happen) because I didn’t want to spend all day in the car with him and my step-mother to go pick up her parents who flew in from out of state

I wasn’t even allowed to call the guests myself to tell them the party was off I have no idea what the lesson I was supposed to learn was I now have close to 0 relationship with my dad

I have no idea why I felt the need to share this except that I hope maybe someone learns you don’t always “Get over it”.

And while I’m well aware these are stupid things to hold onto I’m also painfully aware these are things I will never get to ‘make up’  I spent 17-18 years looking forward to these things and was denied for reasons that still don’t make sense even with over a decade of thought.

Just a little something for your consideration.

[crazypyp]

See, you can’t