#parenting yourself

[sirswooshnoodles]

That… actually worked???

Ok so I need to eat lunch but don’t wanna bc it’s hard rn, thanks fatigue

And I decided to try this idea of parent yourself but very literally, I was both a parent and a small child. Sitting child me down and asking what’s wrong.

Child doesn’t want to eat lunch. Why? Because it’s hard. Her feels kinda bad, he’s really tired. Yes, he is a little hungry, but still.

So, I gently tell child me: eating is good for us, eating could make us feel better and more up to doing some of the fun things we want. I go over some food choices, and how even if one of them isn’t available, the others are still easy to make. And I’ll be there, holding kiddos hand the whole time, walking him through it. I know it’s hard. I know he pushes through a lot. So I am patient, kind and supportive.

And suddenly, getting up and making a sandwich isn’t such a daunting task anymore?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I- guess I’ll be trying this more often?!?!??

My sheer disbelief, dumbfounded-ness, and incredulity that this actually help has also helped me feel less like I need to melt into the ground and more like I can make a fucking sandwich. I got this. That sandwich that doesn’t exist yet is fucking doomed guys, imma make it and eat and then some chips too bc fuck yeah!

[hiddenrituals]

Loving yourself means speaking kindly to yourself. Which is admittedly very hard if you had parents who didn’t.🤍

Fuck them. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle to yourself. Your inner child is waiting for you to love them. 🤍

Your inner child needs YOU to love them in the ways you wish other people would.🤍

[soleil-crunch]

[empresspiscea]

RE PARENTING YOURSELF

Notes compiled from Nu Mindframe video of the same title.

Parenting is a combination of nurturing and discipling your child.

Nurturing: Teaching children how to and allowing for them to explore the world.

Discipline: Instilling respect and responsibility for crossing those boundaries.

A lack of discipline creates a narcissist and parents who lack nurturing will hinders a child’s growth in their personal life and emotional expression. Narcissistic parents purposely starve their children of both so there is always the yearning for emotional affection and they don’t discipline them so they can be completely depending on them.

What was your mom’s parenting style? How would you seek the void of her nurturing from others? How did she try to instill discipline in you? Does she have a voice in your head?

This also has me thinking about understanding the duality of my childhood (Gemini 4H), where i lived in this emotionally isolating + toxic space, but I had the space to create what i want and live in my own land once a week. Life with my mom was very emotional draining, due to the discipline she tried to instill in me and it offered no supplementation. Life my father was very emotionally free, but lacked structure and a foundation for expansion (i guess because he was never really around, and when he was we could never do anything.)

gosh, there’s a lot of thoughts racing through my head. 

id love to explore mothering/fathering myself further, so i plan on spending october outlining reparenting from the perspective of my aries moon + taurus saturn natal placements / transits.

[leorivr]

self-indulgence with no self checks was your flaw

I wonder if it'll be mine as well

Maybe that's why, I'm always looking both ways when I'm having a good time.