The doctor told us that working with him in physical therapy wouldn’t make a difference, that he would either walk someday or never walk.
We had seen many doctors, specialists and therapists. Riley was a mystery from the moment he was born. He was our fourth child and, following in his siblings shenanigans, he was not ready to come into the world until well after 40 weeks gestation. With the prior 3 pregnancies, my water never broke, nor did I have productive labor followed by a normal delivery; instead, with my first and second being 42 weeks, my water was broken and I was induced. With the second child, mercifully, I was induced with an epidural in place!
By the third child, we knew the drill and I waited so long to go to the hospital that when I got there, I was quite further along and the baby was ready to make her appearance. Unfortunately, as with her mama, she wanted to take a stand quite literally and was coming out upside down. To further complicate matters, she was compressing the umbilical cord and so, in the middle of a February ice storm she was held in place for 45 minutes until the team was ready for an emergency c-section.
Naturally then, when I was coming up on 40 weeks with Riley, I explained to all the doctors and nurses who would listen that my kids didn’t like to follow protocol and I was bound to have a delay in appearance with him as with his fellow siblings. The hospital still insisted I go to 42 weeks until they intervened, though I urged them to break my water and induce, as I knew active labor had come, though slowly. Non stress tests indicated the baby was thriving in utero, despite the fact that when I didn’t lay on my right side and drink juice, his heart rate and movement slowed.
Oh the things I would do over! I could’ve opted for another c-section at 40 weeks, but I was cautioned that a vaginal delivery after c-section was the way to go because it carried less risk; less risk to the mother anyhow. So well past my due date, after crying and laboring in my bed, my husband insisted I be taken to the hospital and have that baby taken out of me, by c-section if necessary.
When we arrived and was checked I expected the doctor to proclaim as usual, that I was only about 2 centimeters dilated. Much to my shock, however, I was 8 centimeters and almost ready to begin pushing. So, when the time came and I was pushing (or rather my body was pushing as I learned previously that it was out of my hands once the heavy contractions started. In a blur, I remember the doctor hollering at me that the cord was around the baby’s neck and I must quit pushing. Of course, I couldn’t and he continued to reprimand me. So when Riley came into the world, like his siblings, he was quiet. No cries, whimpers or moans did he produce. He was rushed to me so I could see his face and then quickly taken to the table where they clean the babies up. He was then promptly intubated and soon had no trouble breathing on his own. To this day, I don’t understand his high apgar scores.
I remember that day the doctor explaining that not only was the cord around his neck twice, but that it was tight and he produced old meconium indicating it had been in his lungs which further indicated he’d been in distress for a while. That day I asked him what it would mean for Riley, and would he be okay? He was quite blunt as he stated time would tell.
The following day, he couldn’t maintain a healthy body temperature and was kept under lights. I was exhausted as was he but we were sent home the following day in a timely fashion.
The days and weeks that followed seemed like the norm. He started smiling and responding to sounds on time and he cooed and made other noises when that time came as well. What followed, though, was delays in his development and confusion and our pushing that something didn’t seem right, before the doctors really listened and proclaimed that we needed to send him to a specialist.