Hate hate hate how people are like "Oh your headmate is hurting someone? Just shove them down and don't let them front!" NO!! DON'T DO THAT!! No matter what, your headmates are still your headmates. They are still a part of yourselves. Suppressing your headmates is NOT healthy! I understand being worried about them harming someone, but suppressing them is not the solution.
Some of our headmates want(ed) to/try (or tried) to hurt us and others and to deal with that, we:
Talk about it with them and try to understand why they're doing what they're doing
Try to help them understand that they don't have to hurt people, it's not good to hurt people, help them learn alternatives to hurting people, etc
When they front, we try to make sure someone else is fronting with them so they can't hurt anyone
That's just what worked for us though, everyone is different, but we're hoping sharing this'll help someone.

















