#personal boundaries

[somewhere-dreaming-her1]

I am not for everyone. And not everyone is for me. Such simple words, but rarely digested.

[velvetfangsx]

why I’m loud.

You never know what a fictional character or a piece of fanfiction is doing for someone’s mental health. For some, these worlds are the only thing keeping the darkness at bay. I believe in addressing things head-on, and I know that makes some people uncomfortable—and that’s okay.

Because of that, I don’t "just ignore" hate or minimization. I’m going to address it. Every single time. I’m at a point in my life where I’d rather be "too controversial" than stay silent while something beautiful is being torn down.

If my energy is too much for you, feel infollow. I’m here for the people who need someone to stand up for their safe haven.

It’s never an attack on you personally. It’s just me standing up for what I believe in, especially when it comes to the stories and characters that keep us going. If that’s not your vibe, no hard feelings! But this is who I am and how I run my space.

[angelfoodcake-com]

Personal Hcs + Boundaries!

This whole post is going to be ooc!! I figured I should post my personal hcs for Tamsy and my boundaries (:

Personal hcs:

Tamsy is DEFINITELY queer…I feel like he doesn’t go by any set label, but he likes everyone ^^

He has more piercings than just the one we see in the show..I like to imagine him with a tongue, nose and ear piercings!!

Not exactly a hc since it’s canon knowledge but he only listens to two kinds of music. It’s always either classical or heavy metal (I think that’s the right kind?)

I don’t have a set ship for him, so I’m open to any! So long as they aren’t weird or illegal yknow. So if you’re also a Gachiakuta rp blog and want to interact, feel free!

Tamsy most definitely likes to bake. He doesn’t do it often on the ground since it’s more difficult too. But when he doesn’t feel like buying his sweets, he bakes them!

That’s about it for now!! Onto the personal boundaries (:

1- I don’t mind yumeshippers interacting!! I myself am a yumeshipper (not with Tamsy but y’know). However, trying to engage with rp as a yumeshipper is something I’m not sure I’m comfortable with. It just feels a little odd to me since it would technically just be..yourself? If that makes sense?

2- Please refrain from sending suggestive or nsfw asks! I know I haven’t received any thus far, but I want it to be known that I’m uncomfortable with anything like that!

3- I have school outside of this account, so my posting and replies don’t follow a specific schedule! Please don’t feel like I’m ignoring you if I don’t respond right away. I promise I’ll get to every ask I get (:

4- If you’re referring to me ooc, please use he/him pronouns on me! And if you want to call me by a name, Kris or Angel works!

5- I will not tolerate any toxicity. Homophobia, transphobia, ableism, racism, etc. will not be allowed or tolerated on my page!

And that’s all! I’ll be getting back to my asks after this, but I figured I should go ahead and get it out of the way (:

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

Wishing a very “having your personal bubble respected” by all touch-sensitive people visiting family for the holidays. You don’t have to hug them if it doesn’t feel good. And you don’t have to buy into their guilt trips about it either. Respecting your body doesn’t just mean respecting how it looks, but about how it feels, and what it wants and doesn’t want.

[eminsanguy]

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Here's the new and even updated boundary post for this blog of mine I'll be on from now on, and I've updated some stuff, just incase, as I've said... and I'm tagging my friends and bffls of my Big Group in this post so they can know once again these boundaries.

First my PERSONAL AND IMPORTANT boundaries and how to act around me as your friend/bffl:

No being rude to me or any of my members in my big group. I'm very sensitive.

Don't be a entitled brat.

Don't be impatient with me. Ah'm a human being and I'm at times busy, and I'm sensitive when it comes to that, and if ah don't do one of your requests quickly, it's cause Ah'm often/sometimes slow with requests and art trades, but not always. And don't throw hissy fits, I ain't yo daddy or your servant/peasant.

Don't rush me with anything. Whether they be art trades, story and art ideas/requests. I also have my own stuff to do and my chores.

there will be SOME TIMES when you have to ask me to draw my own characters and even stuff for my reboots n' stuff, but this kinda doesn't count for the bffls and close mutuals of mine that I full-on trust. Only some new ones that don't know me yet have to ask me for this, but only depends if I can see that I can trust them as mature and trustworthy people or not just yet. Even for some bffls and friends that I don't completely full-on trust, or trust them normally, depending on how they treat me and act around me.

If you have some predictabilities for my own characters, whether they be of my reboots and own shows, ya can freely tell 'em to me, but don't push your "headcanons" of my own characters onto me as there's a lot of my characters that I'm still exploring and diving in for their lores, facts n' stuff. And pushing headcanons onto someones's OCs that aren't canon can genuienly make someone feel hurt and make them feel like they can't explore their imagination and ideas for their characters. So beware how you treat my characters. OCs ARE FRAGILE THINGS, ESPECIALLY WHEN NOT CANON.

Don't bash ma opinions.

Don't be obssesive over me or act like a entitled brat (yes, I'm again saying it). Entitled brats are not allowed here.

no harassing or bullying. I can block and report you if you harass or bully me or any of my very close mutuals and bffls of my big group

I'll mention it again, don't be obssesive over me cause it makes me uncomfy and not truly loved or appreciated.

don't be overly clingy to me. Ah know ya may appreciate me and love me as your close mutual and friend, but don't be overly clingy onto me like I'm your parent cause like obssesiveness and unhealthy obssessive love, it makes me uncomfortable.

If you have bad behaviour towards me, don't try to excuse it with petty reasons.

don't guilt-trip me. You can obviously vent to me and I'll comfort you and make you feel atleast a bit better, but don't guilt trip me.

no harrasment towards me or any of my close mutuals and bffls, I can report you for that and block you.

don't treat me like a lifeless robot. I'm saying this especially when it comes to requests and other stuff. I'm a human being and treat me like one.

when making gifts for me, with specifically my own characters or especially my fav characters, ships, etc., please don't make any type of arts that could make me uncomfortable such as fetish art, innapropriate art, etc. I'm a young person and having either my own characters/OCs or other stuff be drawn into bad stuff that could get anyone in trouble makes me uncomfortable.

I'll give you genuine respect and full-on trust towards you if you give me respect and genuine appreciation, and even show you're a trustworthy person.

if you break some chances or straws I gave you for my trust and to fix some mistakes you did before (if anyone did it), I can actually ground you... Grounding in a way to not talk with you until you fix yourself.

I'm at times a sort of nervous person, so please be careful with how you behave around me as your close mutual and/or friend.

don't drag me into any kind of drama as I don't like any kind of drama, especially internet drama, and I want to stay out of it.

if you made some red flags towards me especially as a member of my big group, I will always give you important advices and lessons you SHOULD FOLLOW to genuienly fix yourself, for the good sake.

don't mock my country and religion. It's extremely disrespectful towards me. And don't mock me aswell either.

don't try to drag me into any toilet humor or potty humor type of stuff, cause it makes me uncomfortable. Especially when you put my fav characters or characters I know from my fav interests into it, as it especially mischaracterizes the character.

If you show some signs you use me for my kindness, I may seriously block you if you dont change.

If I don't answer your comment, message, ask... whateva', just know I'm not ignoring you, I'm just a busy pal and will make sure to answer it when I can.

Don't ask me or mention to me any political stuff or even talk to me on taboo subjects. They make me uncomfortable and dont want to talk on those types of stuff.

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Now all the IMPORTANT boundaries/rules for my art statuses art trades, and art ideas:

When you see that I didn't do your request or did someone else's, don't think or guilt trip me thinking I won't do yours, I'll get to it when I get to it. I'm just not a fucking robot to do it quick.

Don't automatically start an art trade with me without me accepting it or you even knowing what I even want you to draw for me.

don't act like an entitled brat over your desires

don't decide when will I draw my side of the art trade. You don't decide that, I do.

don't constantly remind me or ask me of your request.

don't constantly ask me: "is it done?" "did you start drawing it?" "when will it be done?" cause I'm often slow with requests and art trades, ya can only ask me once, but not constantly cause I find that to be super rude since I'm a busy pal at times and a human being..

don't rush me with trades, cause again, I'm sensitive when some rush me, I have feelings aswell and I'm slow with them often like how I said and I wanna do some of my other arts aswell and I'm busy with my own stuff aswell.

don't be entitled to your art idea or side of the art trade, just cause I do someone else's art idea or art trade first doesn't mean I forgot about yours or that I won't do yours, I'll do it when I can, just be patient. that's the key to everything. patience. and respect.

when doing an art trade, please make it make more sense.

Let me check your content a bit and your own arts and stuff before I make up my mind on doin' an art trade with you, whether I want to do so or you do, one of my bffls and close mutuals.

As I'll post again the stuff I'll draw and won't draw whether it's for the art ideas or trades, please read them carefully and follow them.

If I'm not taking art ideas that aren't related to something I want to do such as Hero 108 and some others, don't constantly push me into making the ones that aren't related to what I want to do at the moment. That could be maybe for art trades.

When I do get my side of the art trade done, yours also needs to be fulfilled, it's only fair. But ofcourse it doesn't matter if it's a bit late due to some circumstances, I'll like them still no matter what, but what matters is that it needs to be fulfilled truly.

For art trades, don't think I will be accepting any AI-generated work and arts, as I don't like AI and I want to respect real, human artists that put a lot of work in their own arts. And AI is honestly just always very uncanny and not life-like, to my liking.

Don't ask me for any controversial art or some kind of arts and stuff that make me uncomfortable or can get me in trouble or even make others uncomfortable.

There's a character limit. You can only ask me a handful of characters to draw, whether they be of Hero 108 or other of my fav interests or your fav interests. Let's say I will draw up to 12 characters only, because some tried to make me to draw literally 20+ characters as a crossover, and I nearly had a stroke doing so, so I only did a handful. And I again repeat, I'll only draw a handful of characters in a scenario or such.

Due to some circumstances of mine and especially my mental state and health, I may close requests for a long time and don't know if I'll ever accept them again UNLESS you win in one of my very rare art contests and competitions. Those are prize requests. And only my friends and bffls and members of my Big Group that I full-on trust can join only.

Be grateful.

Am again sorry for tagging y'all on here, but I had to again make the very important both my personal and my art statuses/rules boundaries post as I'm now from now on on this blog. And note, I'll always be editing this post if I think of some more boundaries and rules, and will reblog the edit/change, just incase. 🖤🤍❤️

[holygroundhearth]

You can block people 😂

We're Christians, not doormats.

[deadlyflan]

TurtleWrimo 2025!

The NaNoWrimo (National Novel Writing Month) Writing Event for the entire TMNT Fandom!

November 1st - 30th

More Info at my pinned post 📌

Let's talk about TCEST & other SQUICKS.

Sometimes folks write about stuff we don't like: squicks (ew! yucky!) and triggers (panic attack!) They are 100% allowed to do that, no matter how strongly we feel. Sometime you want to write about stuff that scares folks or that grosses others out. Writing it doesn't make you a scary or gross person! But doesn't mean that everyone wants to read it. The best way to have happy writers and happy readers is to USE TAGS and FILTER BY TAGS!

Here's the tumblr help page that explains how to apply tag filters to your dashboard. Folks can cover up any post with a #keyword tag they don't want to see.

Let's say you don't vibe with TCEST.

You'd follow the instructions above, and enter not only the word "TCEST," but also all the ways that other people tend to spell it. To be helpful, I've made you a list: TCEST Tcest tcest T-CEST T-cest t-cest You may also want to enter words like 'Turtlecest' and 'Incest' (just like i wrote them with uppercase initial letters) and then again both in all caps and in all lowercase letters. This will also work for any other tags you don't want to read about! Gore? Murder? Assaults? Or even just little things that are your own personal weirdness... like pigs or needles or abandoned buildings.

Why do all this?

You can't stop this stuff from existing.

You can't stop people from writing it or disliking it.

People who write squicky or triggering stuff will tag their work.

People who can't handle it will filter it out.

We can all share without crossing each other's boundaries.

I am posting this because... I want you to be able to fearlessly click the 'follow' button next to the #TURTLEWRIMO and #TURTLEWRIMO 2025 tags.

You won't see things you don't want to see AND no one will harass you about what you post.

I will send this post around a few times so there's lots of awareness here. I want people to have a good time. And... because I know that Turtlecest is a popular genre with plenty of TMNT writers... there is a completely G-rated TCEST TURTLEWRIMO badge.

I want to post it with the tag--I PROMISE, WITH THE TAG--and know that only the folks who want to are going to see it. --Kya, who values your boundaries.

PS in case you missed it... Participant & Spectator badges at my pinned post let folks know how you're involved! The Starting Line badges here tell us about you as a writer. Goal badges are at this post so you can declare your finish line. There's also Genre badges here to help describe your project.

Want some sample posts to help folks get to know your work? (And follow you!) Here's my Intro Post! Here's my Goals Post!

Maybe you've got some of these common questions?

[myfandomrealitea]

"Omg. I met this celebrity and they were so rude!!"

Were they. Or were they just an actual human being stressed out and overwhelmed with the fact that they physically cannot leave their home without being approached or mobbed or photographed or ilmed?

Were they rude or were they instilling boundaries? Were they rude or were they reacting to you invading their privacy? Were they rude or were they simply firm?

Were they rude or were you shoving a phone in their face while they were trying to buy groceries or go to dinner with their family?

Were they rude or did you blatantly ignore all of their cues for you to leave them alone?