#philippa perry

[serotoninsuggestion]

"When you try to block out a negative feeling you remove positive feelings too. As Jerry Hyde says, emotions don't have a mixing board, they just have a master volume. You can't fade out sadness and pain and fade up happiness and joy. You turn one down, they all go down."

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read, Philippa Perry

[ma-che-noia]

[maaarine]

RSA Replay: Philippa Perry: How to Be a Parent

“Renowned psychotherapist, author and broadcaster, Philippa Perry visits the RSA to give tips for any parent looking to navigate their past, avoid repeating their own parents' mistakes, and ensure they don't saddle their children with life-long issues.”

[mnchrmrainbow]

...We can be unconsciously led astray by pictures of smiling, laughing, attractive people amid wonderful architecture, gleaming cars and beautiful objects, and such images condition us to assume, without putting anything into words, that this is what we want. There are no advertisements showing ordinary-looking people working through their demons, learning to accept inevitable pain and finding their spontaneity and joy in the way.

This is a truth that should be universally acknowledged; when you try to block out ‘negative’ feeling, you remove positive feelings too. As therapist Jerry Hyde says ‘Emotions don’t have mixing board - they just have a master volume. You can’t fade out sadness and pain and fade up happiness and joy. You turn one down, they all go down.’

- From The book you wish your parents had read by Philippa Perry

[biscuitsarenice]

I tell Perry I wish my parents had had this philosophy. They had never experienced bullying and just laughed it off when I told them.

“Oh, for fuck’s sake,” Perry sighs. “That’s such a common thing for parents to do, as though if it doesn’t exist for them, it doesn’t exist. What I would do is say: ‘How do you feel? Oh yes, I can imagine. Look, first of all, we’re gonna have a hug and then we’ll sort this out. OK, we’ve had the hug. Right, now what ideas have you got for dealing with this? If this was happening to your friend, what would you advise her to do? Uh-huh. Shoot them. That’s something you could consider. Any other ideas?’ 

Whatever they come up with, you never dismiss it. Ideas are like shy, little woodland creatures and you mustn’t frighten them away. So, they come up with ideas and eventually you see what you can do about this together.”

Philippa Perry: ‘Listen carefully, parents – and don’t despair’

[paizleyrayz]

Meditators are shown to have thickening in parts of the brain structure that deal with attention, memory and sensory functions. This was found to be more noticeable in older, more practiced meditators than in younger adults which is interesting because this structure usually tends to get thinner as we age.

Philippa Perry

[jenmedsbookreviews]

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Shrink Solves Murder by Philippa Perry

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I think this is a big one I'm struggling with. That it's difficult to be the one taking the first step and trusting that the other night also follow.

This shows up between me and Bear when I feel like Bear has just done something that might seemingly put me as a disadvantage.

It doesn't help that Bear has a longtime friend (who she still is in contact with) that practices this in her life.