#play partner

[thebizofmisery]

I think I want a play partner. But I’ve never had one before.

Actually, what I probably want is a lover. Someone I vibe with, genuinely like, can kick it with, but mostly have really good sex with. It’d be great if we had similar kinks we could explore together, but also if there was enough trust established to just have really good regular, degular sex.

I’ve been celibate for most of this year intentionally (slipped up in May, but at least it was with my husband lmao). it’s helped me realize that I have a lot of love in my life that has nothing to do with a man or a romantic relationships. That discovery has been important. Learning my body, buying new toys, and exploring my sexuality via my nsfw blogs has all been really great. And now that I’ve given it some thought and had seven months to sort of reset my relationship with my body and sex, I think what I want is a play partner or lover.

They don’t have to live in the same city as me. Actually, it’s probably ideal that they don’t. While I would be interested in long-term play, I don’t think I’m in the space to seriously date anyone. I don’t wanna be a secret. I don’t wanna be the other woman. I don’t even really wanna be in a rotation. I want consistent, safe, really good sex.

So while this isn’t a request for proposals lol, I am putting this out there to the universe and hoping that maybe someone that’s a good fit comes to me in return. ✨

It goes without saying, that misogynists, incels, feeders, or any other sort of person that likes to fetishize fat black women do not need to shoot their shot.

[lildarkcupcake]

I want someone to have fun with, play around, cuddle and be affectionate with. Have long conversations and enjoy each others company. But no commitment, no attachment. Not sure if this is even realistic lol

[theopenphotoproject]

Gloria on the challenges and wonderful things about being polyamorous

11/2016

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Gloria:                       One of the challenges is running into people who would have this attitude that if you’re poly you’re more advanced, you’re more evolved 

Interviewer:             Other poly people?

Gloria:                       Right. There are still some people who believe that but I would run into it a lot. One of the characteristics of somebody who is more evolved is they don’t get jealous. Whenever I would feel jealous, I would receive messages that it wasn’t O.K. I remember one time I was dating this guy and he was dating somebody else who – it just looked to me that she was getting more attention than I was and I was having a really hard time with that. I brought that up to him. I wasn’t putting him down or pointing any fingers saying, “You did this.” I was using ‘I feel’ statements, but he still shamed me for feeling jealous. He said, “Gee Gloria, for being such a modern girl you sure got some old fashioned attitudes.” [Laughing]

 Interviewer:             That sucks.

 Gloria:                       Yeah. I was really sorry I even brought that up.

 Interviewer:             So the idea that feeling jealousy is more evolved as something that you would be able to change.

 Gloria:                       Right. Hi Sweetheart. [Laughing]

 Interviewer:             [Laughing]. You wish there would be room to feel jealousy?

 Gloria:                       Right. Feel whatever you feel. I know that with Greg and with my “more than a play partner”, there will be times when I’ll feel jealous. In Greg’s case, I remember before he was dating somebody who I felt like I couldn’t measure up to her. This was during a time when my self-esteem was not what it should be. It’s improved so much now, but at the time I would constantly compare myself to other women. I felt that this person represented so much of what I didn’t have and basically she was everything that I wasn’t. I was able to bring that up to Greg. In fact, any time I feel jealous, if I don’t feel like I’m getting enough time with him I can bring that up to him and be like, “Hey, look, this probably doesn’t make logical sense but I’m feeling really jealous right now.” The funny thing is, after talking about it, the jealousy seems to go away. I would say that was certainly one of the mistakes I made along the way, and I don’t know if you could necessarily say it was a mistake that I made, but running into people who have the idea that if you’re poly your more evolved and you don’t get jealous. If you do get jealous, then I guess you’re not really poly.

 Interviewer:             And a wonderful thing?

 Gloria:                       Oh yes! [Laughing]. If I see somebody who I’m attracted to and I want to form a relationship with, I don’t have to go through all of this agony, like, “Oh my gosh, what do I do? Do I break up with my partner or do I just ignore these feelings? I don’t know what to do!” You know, that huge dilemma. I don’t have to worry about it. If I’m attracted to somebody else and I want to form a relationship with them, Greg would say, “Go for it!”

 Interviewer:             You can share that. The more that they learn about you…

 Gloria:                       Yeah, exactly, as long as the person is good to me.

[justanotherchangeling]

Played again with the same girls as last night. (NSFW under the cut)

I got a much darker hickey on my shoulder. Also got to use the leash on the in-person one.

I also got to prove how good I am at controlling my gag reflex (just fingers) and I got my mouth spit in. I'm winning so hard.

We played for 3-4 hours (let's go lesbians)

I win everything forever omggggg

[thebizofmisery]

Would you be open to a play partner who is a woman or nonbinary?

Absolutely! I don’t really put a label on my sexuality as of late, but I’m pretty fluid. I like who I like. 🤷🏾‍♀️

So vibes, similar interests, mutual respect, and reciprocity is more important to me than what sex organs a person has. This is includes trans men/women.

The caveat being most of my sexual experiences have been with cis men. I know not everyone wants to be someone’s first/one of their first few.