#nonmonogomous

[artemisiamasterofnone]

Hi so if anyone compares polyamory to cheating im gonna send a needle through their eyes is that okay?

Cool? Okay

[irisesinyoureyes]

i feel like i'm in monogamy conversion therapy. like is polyamory just the new bad thing people with conservative values want us to stop doing.

idk i feel not monogamous enough nor polyamorous enough. i think i want sexual monogamy but queerplatonic relationships and non-sexual physical affection with friends. i don't see what's so wrong with that. but my current therapist seems to think that's bad.

i think the reason i was emotionally abused in my last relationship was because i was so isolated. i felt like i couldn't tell anyone i was in an open relationship for fear of being judged and cut off. but in not being open about what i was doing in my relationships, i was manipulated.

this just feels like the thing parents say when you come out to them "i don't want your life to be hard." and it's like, yeah you know who makes it hard? unsupportive people. if we offer more support and resources to people who are figuring things out maybe those people wouldn't have such a hard life.

ughh idk i'm just annoyed rn

[wtfimqueer-blog]

It's so difficult to express my identities.

Like, yeah I'm a lesbian. But that leaves a lot out. And even though I'm a lesbian, I don't identify with gender and my partner essentially makes the concept of gender explode so...there's that. Plus, I mean, I don't experience sexual attraction, but I love women. Any type of women, but mostly women who challenge my preconceived notions of what being a woman means. And then maybe we are gonna get another partner in there, too?

How the fuck am I supposed to say all of that, in the correct terms, in a casual conversation?

I just wanna be queer. When I say, "I'm queer," I want people to say "okay" and move on.

Can we get there as a society? Like, soon.

[13infinity13]

[transfaer]

Polyam Feels #119

Your partner realizing they aren't exactly polyamorous, but aren't exactly monogamous and yet they still want to be exclusive.

[polyintheburbs]

Short week and two dates

I could get used to only working two days a week, especially when I spend the days off with the people that I love.

I'm burning some vacation days and using them wisely.

Tuesday, I spent the day with Zelda. We did some city hiking and toured the art museum.

Tomorrow, Willow and I are doing something similar.

It's my birthday weekend as well, so drinking and frivolity are on tap.

[thehighpriestexx420]

Twin flames & having sexual/romantic experiences with others

I've been thinking on my feelings about sexual/romantic experiences with other people who aren't my twin flame. I don't think I'm entirely sure about how I feel about it and won't truly know until it happens.

I was poly before I met him and he became poly because I inspired him, funnily enough. We started dating when he was dating someone else. And it's like our love for eachother was so unlike anything else we decided to be monogamous. The person he was with wasn't good for him, I think I would've been able to handle it if they made him happy. At that time, when we were in the beginning of our relationship, I believe I didn't want him to sleep with other people out of insecurity and jealousy. But now that we've been together for over a year I feel like as long as it makes him happy and he didn't prefer the person over me or feel like he had to do it separately from me I'd be ok with it. I know that our connection transcends sexual and romantic connections. We are unconditional love. He said that he could see us possibly in a threesome later on and I feel inclined to agree. I just thought I'd share my thoughts and feelings on this in case there are others who are curious and working through their own feelings of nonmonogamy and twin flame relationships. I also wanted to hear others opinions on what is toxic jealousy and what is just simple preference. Thanks!

[i-hate-this-hellsite]

Polyamory is just Dating: Collector's Edition