#plural singlet

[its-plural-singlet-time-baby]

Does anybody understand what it's like to wanna glitch? Like to wanna glitch/teleport around? To want your voice to skip around and change? To want your body to separate at times? Does anybody understand?

[unique-plural]

(multiple experiences here, we just have no one to talk to about this)

We experience our headmates in a weird way. It's like they disappear once they have been identified, we can't access our headmates and when we hear someone they never know who they are, or if they should tell us. It's like we notice their existence to just be removed later. We have a collective sense of self, but we are also separate in our own ways. We have no clue how to identify each other anymore, we like different things, but we all say we like all of the things combined, just a little bit less or more whenever the front changes. We feel like a collective single identity, but multiple at the same time. We can't just express ourselves with "I'm a singlet" or "we are plural" for some reason It goes beyond that. We are both in our own unique way, and seeing others having identified headmates with different names and likes all figured out makes us... Desire the same. We have no clue of who we are talking with, but they exist here. We are a mix of a singlet and plural, both at the same time somehow, still have no clue what to call us. We have no headspace, it changes every time we try to create one, guess we have too many different ideas. We can't agree on any major life decisions, we want too many different things, and even when we try to mix them, there's someone that doesn't like it. We call ourselves plural, since it's a broad term, and we feel closer to being plural than a singlet, but it would be nice to know if there's some other plural that experiences the same!

Don't worry about putting more than one experience. It may be harder for me to read, but if it all comes together then it's no big deal :D

It's okay to not be very distinct!!! We ourselves sort of have the first bit depending on what flux of our plurality we're on!

I'll go ahead and mention that for a while my headmates were fine taking my name and going around with my pronouns, but now they really dislike it if I'm not out-- and whether or not that happens for you doesn't really change much about whether this is "actually plural". Fragments, facets, and even what could be considered a fully formed headmate can all just decide to not have separate identities or even just not share who or what they are.

Maybe read about median, plurallet, parasian, varion, plural-adjacent, singlet-adjacent, and mixed? Not all of them fit what was described, but they all have some amount of indistinct headmates on different levels. Some headmate-specific terms are facet, segment, and fragment. We recommend combing through posts on the median tag because a lot of median systems aren't far from your description :)

[multiplicity-positivity]

is there a term for not being fully singlet or fully plural but a secret, third thing? if so could you make a positivity post for that 👉👈

the best way i can describe it is like being the princess from slay the princess. there are core parts of "me", but "me" right now may not be the same "me" 5 minutes later. at "my" most blended i am one person at a time, slowly shifting between each identity. but at "my" most separate, its like a bunch of alters switching for when they are needed. code switching is much more exaggerated, and trying to stay as one or wholly separated is much more harmful to "my" sense of "self" than to let it be fluid.

to help further clarify, it is much closer to [and i believe in some scenarios IS] corpus callosum seperation than dissociative disorders in experience. those that have had partial or full defects in the corpus callosum since birth have reported having both sides of the brain as [sometimes only partially] separate entities‚ but make up the whole person. even if the sides were separated later in life, both sides working independently can show like separate people piloting the same body, even if they are supposed to be working as one.

i want others like "me" to know that their inbetween existence is valid, and that they shouldn't need to feel that they need to be just a singlet or fully plural. peace and love on the planet earth 🫶

(sorry if i messed up terminology. turns out that explaining psychological and sometimes otherwise medical phenomenon is hard)

Hello, yes, we do believe there is a term for this. We have heard both the terms "plurallet" and "plural singlet" which describe the experience of being both plural and a singlet at once. Additionally, the terms "median" and "midcontinuum" exist to describe those whose plural experiences exist somewhere between singlet and fully separated. Median plurality covers a very broad range of experiences, and very well could encompass that which you are describing. We would recommend looking into all of these terms in order to determine which accurately describes what you are feeling and experiencing in your life.

If you live with corpus callosum separation, agenesis of the corpus callosum, or some other degree of corpus callosum complications, we are wondering if it could be possible for you to seek out community with others who have experienced this. There's actually a little subreddit, r/corpuscallosum, for people who live with these conditions and parents of children who have them. That may be a good place to start if you're aiming to connect with fellow folks with complications involving their corpus callosums.

If not, though, we do think the terms we described at first would be a good place to start. Rest assured, you do not need to be fully separated or fully plural in order to belong in the plural community. We hope you can find what you're looking for and can one day feel a sense of belonging within our spaces just the way you are. We also do have a positivity post for plural singlets - we’ll link it here:

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💬 5  🔁 38  ❤️ 83 · Here’s some positivity for plural singlets and plurallets! · Not every plural person identifies as a system, multiple, or

[fragments-and-fractals]

realising we are more plural than we thought is such a strange thing

want to start trying to define/separate aspects more but have no idea where to start

[lethally-hedonistic]

so I just saw the term "singlet walk-in" and now I'm trying to find any further reading materials on it because it sounds close to my experience of what I call "a plural singlet"

does anyone happen to have any info on it?

[tuneford]

Being a plural singlet to me just is a way for me to communicate ‘a complex combination of plural + singlet that isn’t just a plural system nor is a singlet.’

It’s a solution to how people present plural/system or singlet like two binary options (where you either have headmates or you don’t). How if I say I’m plural, 9 times out of 10 there will be people who hear that and immediately label me as a system (especially in spaces explicitly supportive of non-traumagenic plurality and/or systems). Wording here is specifically done because many people treat ‘system’ and ‘plural’ as the same thing, even when they’re not.

Maybe I’ll feel different about this once people stop treating ‘having headmates/alters that you can communicate with’ as a universal plural experience. But I honestly don’t know.

[its-plural-singlet-time-baby]

I'm sad I can't hug myselves. I think we all need it. Make sure to hug yourselves today 🫂

[its-plural-singlet-time-baby]

I’m a singlet but I don’t feel like one. I feel like a part instead of “one whole person”. I feel comfortable with referring to myself with terms like part and protector but feel guilt about it. I also have been considering labeling myself as a syslet but I feel that would be wrong of me to do. anyways thought this might be a space that would be more open to the idea of someone like me.

A few ideas for you:

Maybe you are a system but don't know other parts of you exist. Maybe try writing things down or asking people around you.

Before finding out the terms that fit me/us, I/we just used a description of what was happening if I/we had to define it or if anybody asked. It's totally ok to just say 'I'm proud to be whatever this is!'

In addition, It was hard for me/us to start too. Because of all the fake claiming and people saying 'there are REAL people who are XYZ'. But when you understand that literally anything can happen and your experiences are valid, you might find what you're looking for. Whether that be a label or security in yourself.

The points that I started at were 'What label(s) am I looking at?' and 'what are my experiences?' Asking around and going to community is a great way to start so good on you 👏❤️

My/our last suggestion is pluralpedia and Pinterest. They have a lot of everything on there and you'll learn about something new no matter what

Sorry this took so long, had stuff happening 😅