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When your Philosophy class is covering Polyamory and you want to just yell, “Hey if ya’ll want to ask an ACTUAL poly person I’ll just be over here!”

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Where Is Your Jealousy Coming From?

I am a person who does not typically get jealous. I personally do not believe that there is anyone who absolutely does not feel jealous, it is a normal emotion. Where it does not get normal is when it becomes toxic, and one way that it can get toxic is if you let it stir in silence because you have this idea that you are not allowed to be jealous. 

Like I said most of the time I do not get jealous. But there are times when it happens. One of the things I do when I am feeling that green eyed monster creep up is sit, take a second, and figure out where the jealousy is coming from. 

For example this past weekend N (my husband) and I were out with friends including M, who is a girl that my husband has been seeing a bit and might start dating. 

I feel I must say that I love this girl. This is the first instance I have felt any sort of jealousy towards her. So I took a step back, looked at myself, and tried to figure out why in that moment I was feeling jealous. I figured out it was because I was tired and not feeling great and I love to be cuddled and doted on when I am tired in that moment. Once I targeted the reason I was feeling jealous I was able to calm down and I didn’t feel jealous anymore.

Now I am not saying that when you figure out the reason you are being jealous then you will just stop being jealous. That is not the case at all. I just know that is a great tool for me.

Overall the best thing to do is talk to your partner and figure out the best course of action for if any of you are getting jealous. It could be as simple as just talking about it and feeling heard, or maybe you have an epic cuddle session and you just need to be held. Or maybe go on a special date night. Whatever you need to do for each other so you feel connected and present.

But, the most important thing to remember is when you are feeling jealous it is normal but you need to figure out what is causing it and how to work through it. Because letting it sit and stir is not healthy for you or your relationships. 

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Guys Snapchat has the cutest filter right now!

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Do you know what the greatest feeling is?

Kissing someone for the first time. To me there is no feeling that compares to that first kiss. Whether it’s some split decision or something that had been destined to happen for awhile there is just this rush that comes with it. I wonder how many people feel the same way. Who else loves the feeling of a first kiss?

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Holidays With Multiple Partners

As of right now my husband and I have only each other. And just us alone are barely able to make it through the holidays with seeing everyone. I can’t imagine how people with multiple partners do it! I give kudos to everyone with more than one partner who is able to manage their holiday time well.

Anyone with more than one partner how do you manage your holiday time?

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PSA To My Followers

I do not plan on leaving Tumblr anytime soon. Even though I am wildly taken aback and horrified by the behavior of this site I do still see a light at the end of this tunnel. This sit has been an escape and a journey throughout my life.

I have been on this site since I was 13 years old and cannot imagine where I would be today with out it. It has gotten my further than I ever dreamed into the cosplay and fandom community, it has allowed to find myself in terms of my sexuality and relationship lifestyle, it has helped me connect with so many different people and hear their stories and see their struggles.

There is no denying dark days are ahead with this site. But I will be damned if I am going to give up on it so easily. I will stay here and fight for reform. Fight for the site that has helped make me who I am today and I encourage you all to do the same.

Running will do nothing. If we run we are giving the censorship exactly what they want. We need to stay and advocate for what we want, what we deserve!

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So I'm not usually a self conscious person. But I've noticed that when I'm interested in someone I become VERY aware of my eyebrows. I usually don't stay up on them, because, I just don't care. But then I find a new person and suddenly wish I were wearing a hat or had bangs and feel the need to pluck out every single out of place hair!

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Hello Lovelies!

I am thinking of doing a sort of Q&A/Shoutout video. I don’t have a lot of followers but for the ones I do have I would love to get to know you better and to have you guys get to know me! Ask me anything nothing is off limits whether it’s personal or informational!  Please let me know if that’s something you’d be interested in! Go In Love!