Being married and being poly
So my fiancé and I after 6 years are finally getting married on Friday! I have had one person who knows me pretty well ask me if we were going to stop being poly after we got married. The answer of course is no we are changing how we feel about relationship dynamics or how we feel emotionally because we are married. However our ex gf had brought it to our attention that she would have felt left out which we understood. However we have been open that if we found someone we were comfortable enough with and was in love enough with that we are open to having a spiritual union with them as well (a non legally recognized wedding). We had a first date with someone recently and somehow we didn't mention how soon our wedding was. They did however certainly know that we were engaged. They may not wish to continue to see us romantically anymore (they are unsure) so this is our first glimpse at what it may mean to be married and poly. It does seem like it will add a new challenge for us. But we wouldn't trade our marriage for anything. And we don't want to be with someone who doesn't accept that. It is not our intention to make our third feel left out or isolated as we have no intention of not treating them as equals in the relationship but I suppose it's not easy for everyone we meet to understand that, and also even if they understand it may deter them. Any married poly folks out there who care to share how being married effected your poly relationships or prospects?
