I'm struggling currently
Our girlfriend recently told us that she's now unsure if she is ready to be in a relationship. We just prior to this asked her to be more open with us and communicate more with us and she not sure that she wants to try to. It's now the third day and it's painful for my wife and I to go through. We really like her a lot. She is basically everything we're looking for in a partner. So we're kind of scared that she'll go. She's doing a lot of self deliberating right now. And I wanna say things to embolden her to stay with us but I don't want her to stay because of the things I say. I want her to stay because she sees a future with us. She deserves to be with someone(s) who will support her pursuit of being happy in this world someone(s) who have her back and truely care about her. Her relationship history is awful and I'd hate to think that if she left us that she'd find another like she's found before that would treat her awful. I would very much like her to stay with us but only if that would make her happy. But even if not what I really hope is that she does end up finding someone(s) that will make her happy weither its us or not. But it still hurts. And I've been quite stressed. I know that triads aren't easy but up until now this has felt quite easy and extremely rewarding. I suppose it was possible that while we grew closer to her that simply made her uncomfortable. I'm not sure what's going to happen but I'm absolutely hopeful that she's going to be willing to give her best efforts to us.
Because I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't miss her a whole lot. We only saw her briefly last Sunday and I've missed her since then. It seems like she doesn't want to see us until she's made her decision but I'm worried that if she doesn't that Idk she's setting herself up to feel less of a connection to us when making her decision.
