was on twitter checking in on radtwt. saw someone i followed retweeted this, calling Melissa an idiot. which is undeniably true. i wanna talk about this a bit more though.
this interaction just reminds me of rule ??? of misogyny, “whatever men do is women’s fault”
abused woman is showcased (for the second time btw, this is also the same woman who did the “sleeping with 100 men” experiment.) to be belittled by the public.
another woman then proceeds to claim that this single incident is justification for women’s suffering throughout history. like???? istg when you shake this woman’s head it sounds like a gumball machine with one piece left in it.
firstly, this is MEN. the sole reason why this video was made was for them. why blame women for men’s degeneracy? it’s not women creating the demand for this content. men demand sexual humiliation and depravity on a platter, DAILY, and yet somehow abused woman no. 7836 is at fault for meeting the demand so that she can provide for herself. oh and also she’s the reason why society enslaved women for thousands of years btw. 2 + 2 = kia sorrento ass logic.
it’s frustrating how society refuses to chastise men. even when it doesn’t make sense, they’ll find a way to blame men’s loathsome nature on a woman. men taint everything that they encounter, murder excessively, rape excessively, and are generally not conducive to building a healthy society. if they were given even the slightest bit of discipline and condemnation, we would all be better off. but no! from the smallest members of society to the largest, we are all so weak willed that we allow half of our population to run amok and wreak havoc. because they feel like it. the most pathetic species, truly.
there’s so much more to say too like: 1 woman doing something = all woman should be punished until the end of time. the embarrassment i get from women doing this and the realization that she is literally the last person at fault for this. so many people push women towards the meat grinder and then get angry at the fact that there’s ground beef on the other end. it’s all so soul draining
feminist revolution needed yesterday like GET ME OUT OF HERE!!!!
i go out of my way. to not vent about people i don't like, to people who are friends with them-- for. a lot of reasons. but sometimes it SUCKS because you accidentally soft lock yourself from something. and your friend doesn't know why. and its like. yeahhhh. [redacted] has made me feel horrible and useless in ways no one else has. can't tell you that tho #lol
ok maybe this is a kinda weird thing to say but i always hated it when people comment on posts for pride flags for like mental disorders (ie. adhd, autism, bpd, etc) and are like "but why would this be a pride flag, i'm not PROUD of having that disorder"
like. the point of a pride flag isnt that youre "proud" that you are that thing. its that you're proud that you're you.
like, yes, i'm not happy about the fact that i have adhd, but im proud of the fact that i'm myself, and that im not afraid to show who i am. thats what i pride flag is for.
most gay people arent proud of the fact that theyre gay, theyre jsut proud to be themselves and love who they love despite it all. the pride flag is a symbol of being proud of YOURSELF for getting this far and being yourself, not letting them change you or hiding who you are. you're proud that you decided to be your own person instead of conforming to others' standards and you want to show that off.
the pride flags for mental disorders are the same way. im proud that ive made it this far even though i have adhd hindering me. im proud that i dont hide the fact that i have adhd, because im not ashamed to be who i am, and who i am includes my disorder. i dont want to pretend that i can focus on tasks when i want to and that im always confident with myself when im not, and im proud that ive made it so far even though im not "normal." even though i cant function the same way everyone else does, and i have executive dysfunction, and i can't always put in the amount of effort i want to when i want to, and i have problems with making and maintaining relationships, ive made it this far. and im proud of myself for doing that, for doing everything ive done (even if sometimes it doesnt feel like enough) despite it all.
im not happy or proud of the fact that i have adhd of itself (why would i be happy about the fact that i can't achieve my goals properly?) but i am proud of MYSELF for getting this far even though i have it. which is what the flag is for.
A Very Detailed Analysis Explaining Why Asrian is Mid
Yes, I've made a shitpost summing up my thoughts on the topic before. However, I regularly get into bi-weekly complaint sessions about this terrible, horrible ship.
I am willing to be burnt at the stake if it means I will be a martyr against Dorian... (I'm joking. This is Tumblr. It's not that serious.)
Under the cut is a lot of words! Be prepared
By the way all of this is Dorian's fault GIVE ME MODERN ARCANA I WILL REWRITE IT
I want to preface this by saying my opinions on the ship come off as very mixed? At least in my head. My problem is obviously more with the fandom than how it's portrayed in the actual game, as you will see. Unfortunately, it's just what happens in fandom. Asra x Julian fits the perfect mold for a potentially popular ship. Two masc-presenting people with a tragic story, yeah cool.
I don't care about people making art or writing about them. I actually think Asra and Julian have an interesting dynamic and I enjoy a lot of their in-game interactions. Here's the thing, and my thesis statement for this post, most of the fanworks surrounding these two that I see in the wild are using the dynamic for the wrong reasons! Furthermore, for Asrian to work out and genuinely last a while, you have to mischaracterize one or both of the characters.
I think that this stems from a misunderstanding of the characters and the circumstances under which their situationship (they didn't have a relationship, I'll get into that soon) sparked. Dorian's pushing of content including the two in a romantic or suggestive context does not help matters.
I think a good example of this was under the original shitpost I made about the topic. I won't put this user on blast because I don't recall their URL, and if you find it do not be mean to them. I had called Asrian one-sided. I do sort of agree now, Asra x Julian is not one-sided. However, one party sure as hell does not reciprocate the feelings as much as the other party does! Here's the thing, Asra and Julian's relationship was born from grief for the death of the apprentice on both sides. However you want to interpret Julian's relationship with the apprentice, it's clear that he had some interest in Asra following their death. But we can see very, very clearly in literally every scene involving Asra speaking to or about Julian, Asra didn't feel the same. Asra loved the apprentice through and through. Asra gave the apprentice half his heart for fuck's sake!
I don't want to say Asra was using Julian, or vice versa. But the other was a distraction from everything going on in their lives, from the apprentice's death to the plague. Hence, situationship. Although I do think there was romantic intention on Julian's end, chances are it fizzled out during the three-year interlude.
It's a very tragic dynamic and I do enjoy it! They drive me INSANE! It's just... a lot of people willfully ignore that. A lot of people ignore that they both have problems they haven't addressed that more than just some kisses will solve, both internally and with one another. And when you ignore that...
...You mischaracterize them. Haha, like my segue? Unfortunately, the best ending for those two is in Muriel's route. Which, as far as we know, the two didn't... ever seriously sit down and have a talk. Which is what they need to do. In order for those two to work out, they need to have a serious, long talk about where they went wrong in the past and what they can do to do better.
Do you wanna know something about those two characters? NEITHER OF THEM WOULD BE WILLING TO HAVE THAT DISCUSSION! Furthermore, their personalities in a lot of media I see (cough cough mostly from Dorian) are completely wrong! I love a morally gray character very much, people tend to erase that from Asra and only make him mischievous if not straight-up an asshole, or very cute and loving, as if the point of morally grey isn't a very confusing middle. I mostly see Julian being characterized as pathetic. Yes, he is my pathetic little wet cat sometimes, but he is smart. He's a doctor. Not only that, he was a battlefield medic at what we can only assume is a pretty young age. Julian has issues but he can handle himself.
I have a lot more I can say on the topic. In short, a doomed relationship where they just have to come to terms with the fact that it wasn't the right time or the right person is much more interesting to read than a perfect one where you get your happy ending. I understand the appeal, but if you want to write them being cute and happy together, I implore you to just... make an au. That is not fixing itself. They both need to be medicated.
I fucking LOVE being told by someone that its genuinely impossible to be a cis man and be queer unless youre like a flamboyant stereotypical gay man.
I fucking LOVE my own identity being invalidated by other queer people
I fucking LOVE how despite how much people talk about destroying the patriarchy people dont want to address how it has impacted their own view of queer men.
i feel like i forgot how to do shit at some point and its weird
like at first it was like "oh i used to be able to think about other people and now i cant. well i guess this means im an evil person" and "oh i used to be. smart." but now its like "wait i cant describe faces anymore" and "wait i dont know how to dance? i literally did a fucking choreographed dance for my 3rd grade talent show when and how the fuck did i forget that?"
so perhaps this is not me not giving enough effort or some moral failing. maybe my brain just broke at some point lmao
there's a very concerning type of like....."media diet" that fandom encourages where some people exclusively consume media they know they can talk about other people with (to be included) instead of seeking out new media (to enjoy it) and trying to share it with other people (so that they might enjoy it)
it's so incredibly important to learn to seek out things, to accept recommendations, and to tell the difference between strong recommendations and community obligations
like I don't doubt that the same five cartoons have been popular for coming on ten years now because they're good, but also you should definitely check out art that just doesn't have a fandom attached, if only to enrich yourself and resist the deathspiral of Commodified Media Taste
idk if this is a hot take but. you can have criticisms of sparklecare without being a complete asshole about it
there are some criticisms that i agree with, i think the rope burns stuff was very weird on kc's part, i wish we saw characters using multiple names, i wish the falling out carrie had with uni and doom in kisswas was a bit more impactful for the story (although deadlines can be to blame there), but it doesnt mean i hate kc or the zcp as people???
