rebelbaze replied to your post “I’m so tired of all that drama around ace and aro identity everyone be...”
lgbt spaces have always had smaller communities for crossover identities (like for disabled lgbt people or for lbt women or lgbt people with x hobby) but that doesn’t make the crossover identity lgbt or invite cishets or cis aroaces into those spaces
You probably didn’t see another answer to an anon, so I’m going to say this here too, I get your point on the “we don’t want cishets aces”, it makes sense I guess from a point of view (that I don’t 100% agree with at all for many reasons)
Now what I really don’t get is the “we don’t want aros”. Being aromantic is a marginalized identity, is it really that you think that to be LGBT you NEED to have a higher rate of suicide and murder on your CV? I hope not. I would like to hear more though, I’m genuinely wondering about these, and the point of my post was mostly that I’m tired of people acting in a bigoted way saying “things are like this because they are” without giving it more thought, then get angry just because it’s their gut feeling that this is how things should go and they don’t have any arguments behind it
like “there’s no ace community” fucking make one then??
I like your enthusiasm and optimism, that would probably be best yes, but it would end up as one person and a cat, no one out there has ever heard of aromantism or about asexuality let’s be real
Even with our local LGBT center organizing aro/ace meetings (open to cishets), no more than ten people gather there. We had a cishet guy coming there, I don’t see why he shouldn’t be accepted at the meeting, he was just there to try to talk about it and understand himself better, which is the whole point of these meetings, he wouldn’t have find any support aside from this meeting since everyone is so hell-bent on heteronormativity and wanting sex being normal.That doesn’t make him part of the LGBT community since he’s still cis and het, but I can’t see why he would be banned from coming to these meetings at the center
To me LGBT centers are places to fight against discrimination and to inform people that hey, being cishet is not the only options. It’s not the only, it’s not the main reason to exist of these centers, of fucking course, but if it can help people understand their own sexuality, then why the fuck not
The best solution would probably be what our center did, create these meetings and be transparent about it. I assure you that in the real world, a cishet coming to that kind of meeting has more chances of genuinely be questioning about their identity, than trying to invade an LGBT space to “be part of the party”. And if they’re being an ass you can still kick them out. At least that’s how it works in our local community and it works
